Alot to process here. Firstly let me explain something about my husband. 1. He is extremely handsome, tall and has an athletic but trim physique. Women do approach him regularly. Because of his looks he has had women fall into his lap all his teen & adult life. He has various female friends as he is well acclimated to women by virtue of the amount of exposure he has always gotten.
The communication issues crop up later in keeping a relationship going, which is a different sort of issue than
@GoodMan32 is having. My husband learned how to navigate early on interactions with women (and is confident about approaching) because he knows he is a sought after man.
ASD is a continuum and no two individuals are quite the same. My husband is and probably will always be in denial about his ASD. That too creates difficulties in his interpersonal interactions and is not easy to deal with.
Frankly I think the therapist offered very sensible advice. If you behave in a socially bewildering way, the ASD offers some explaination/clarification to help others understand you. There are pros and cons of course and you must weigh those for yourself as an individual, but I prefer someone be open about what they are like. It helps me understand where someone else is.
I happen to have the benefit of a close friendship with one of my husband's ex girlfriends who knows him very well, is a long term close friend of his and happens to be a PhD in psychology and a therapist. She has given me tremendous insight into understanding him better. So he or we are quite lucky & fortunate in that way. Their relationship did not last but a great friendship arose from that. It has been super helpful for me, and she is a very cool person independent of him. So I have gained a wonderful female friend as a result of getting to know her.
My advice to
@GoodMan32 is stop fixating so much on getting laid and focus on learning social skills and cultivating friendships with both men and women. My husband actually has a number of female friends. I know each of his female friends and trust in those interactions, just as he trusts my interactions with my male friends.
Quit seeing others as a means to an end because people can tell when you are associating with them for a use or purpose only, and people don't like that.
Speak with your therapist about that if it's an issue.