I am in good, serious relationship with my gf. BUT she teases/talks about other men

[Redkister]

Hey everyone,

i am interested into hearing what grounded, experienced individuals, alpha men, people who dated many women will think about this and would be happy of your replies.

SOME FACTS on our love and relationship

- I [26/M] am in a serious, 1 year old, relationship with my [26/F].
- Been living together for 6 months now
- About to buy a dog, planning to buy a car together, plan on having babies and talking how great parents we are going to be and what ours will be like
- Very connected, saying the same stuff at the same time, laughing a lot every single day, literally feel when the other is holding back thoughts, others often comment we are visibly in love
- Communicate really well, tell each other what we want, sort things out
- Sex is great, passion is there, i always try to be a very good lover, there is no decline in the past month
- She is displaying her love in a numerous ways, i have no doubt in her love
- I am displaying my love in numerous ways and shower her with attention which she craves and thrives on


THE PROBLEM

However, she is teasing me with other men. Men she lets me know, she finds attractive, sexy, cute etc. She is being playful and says and insists she is just kidding, but also confesses to "truth being in every joke". She says it playfully almost kinda wanting some reaction and is overall a flirty personality. We discussed this before and she didn't stop saying stuff so i got very angry and she stopped for a while but now doing it again and just doesn't stop (over a month now). Stuff she says:

• oh, John is coming? I'll make sure to dress nicely then
• I must clean up the apartment...How about James would come and help me...
• If i had to choose, i would much rather **** Robert instead of Michael
• I had to talk with customer service representative, thank god he was cute
• Well if i get drunk it might happen i will sleep somewhere in the city

SO FAR I DID

- remained silent and ignored
- raised my eyebrows and questioned what she is trying to say
- said something provocative back
- told her that i hate when she says that and explained several times why and how i don't like it, questioned the meaning behind it again etc.

RELEVANT

- I am 182 cm, 91kg, training in the gym 6x per week. Dressed better than average, well groomed, just generally taking good care of myself, my hygiene, nails, tan, haircut etc.
- I never talk about other women at all, there is currently no woman in my life that she could be jealous of trying to get back at me or something
- I can't do the same to her, we both agreed vengeance is no path to good relationship (so i can't show her how that feels even tho i know she would not like it at all)
- I feel she is disrespecting me by doing what i asked her not to and its starting to impact the way i think about her and our future
- I am considering either yelling at her, either trying to hurt her back, either having a speech that will inflict her inner moral and consciousness, either completely ignoring her for that day etc.



Please, what would you do? How would you handle it?

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Please don't feed the troll

GTFOH

 

[Redkister]

I read your message like three times and i was like: WHAT?

Is this not a dating forum with tips on how to get good with woman? Well once you actually get a hot one and make her your gf, how do you handle her ****? Reading some of the posts it seems there is a lot of experienced guys here and my gf is only my 2nd woman i have ever been with

Simple question really...

 

[purple haze]

I read your message like three times and i was like: WHAT?

Is this not a dating forum with tips on how to get good with woman? Well once you actually get a hot one and make her your gf, how do you handle her ****? Reading some of the posts it seems there is a lot of experienced guys here and my gf is only my 2nd woman i have ever been with

Simple question really...

I think she is being very disrespectful. No loving woman would ever make comments like that to her man.

If it were me, I would get out of the relationship on principle alone. She couldn't flaunt her disrespect more, she's treating you like a beta who will put up with anything.

 

[Redkister]

Would you? Considering how every other aspect of relationship is working really well?

PrettyBoyAJ: i read some more posts and realized this forum might be only about getting women and not keeping them at all...Thus i get your post now.

 

[Desdinova]

- I [26/M] am in a serious, 1 year old, relationship with my [26/F].
- Been living together for 6 months now

You moved in together after 6 months? You barely knew her!

- About to buy a dog, planning to buy a car together, plan on having babies and talking how great parents we are going to be and what ours will be like

You're jumping head first into a pool and have no clue how deep it is.

However, she is teasing me with other men. Men she lets me know, she finds attractive, sexy, cute etc.

And now you're starting to find out where the bottom of the pool is, and it's not looking good.

This is extremely disrespectful. I've dumped women over this kind of bull5hit. I know it's disrespectful to point out women I'd like to fvck in front of my GF. She should also know that this is disrespectful. If she doesn't, then her interest level isn't very high.

• oh, John is coming? I'll make sure to dress nicely then
• I must clean up the apartment...How about James would come and help me...
• If i had to choose, i would much rather **** Robert instead of Michael
• I had to talk with customer service representative, thank god he was cute
• Well if i get drunk it might happen i will sleep somewhere in the city

That IMO is extremely disrespectful and dump-worthy. Do you think buying a dog and a car together is going to make this go away? IT WILL NOT. The fact that she's doing it this much now only means it's going to get worse in the future. The fact that she's even "jokingly" entertaining the ideas of being with another "hot guy" means she's going to fvck around on you in the future.

SO FAR I DID

- remained silent and ignored
- raised my eyebrows and questioned what she is trying to say
- said something provocative back
- told her that i hate when she says that and explained several times why and how i don't like it, questioned the meaning behind it again etc.

And none of that has worked. You should have mentioned something the first time it happened. Now that she knows she can get away with it, you're pretty much fvcked. Instead of nipping it in the bud when it started, you now have a whole jungle to cut down.

- I never talk about other women at all, there is currently no woman in my life that she could be jealous of trying to get back at me or something

In other words, she's not on the same level of respect as you. I doubt she ever will be.

Please, what would you do? How would you handle it?

Get rid of her. She is not worthy of your time, respect, nor commitment. She should have earned it while you were dating which is why you DON'T move in with someone after only 6 months. 5 years would be more ideal.

 

[GoodOne123]

You moved in together after 6 months? You barely knew her!



You're jumping head first into a pool and have no clue how deep it is.



And now you're starting to find out where the bottom of the pool is, and it's not looking good.

This is extremely disrespectful. I've dumped women over this kind of bull5hit. I know it's disrespectful to point out women I'd like to fvck in front of my GF. She should also know that this is disrespectful. If she doesn't, then her interest level isn't very high.



That IMO is extremely disrespectful and dump-worthy. Do you think buying a dog and a car together is going to make this go away? IT WILL NOT. The fact that she's doing it this much now only means it's going to get worse in the future. The fact that she's even "jokingly" entertaining the ideas of being with another "hot guy" means she's going to fvck around on you in the future.



And none of that has worked. You should have mentioned something the first time it happened. Now that she knows she can get away with it, you're pretty much fvcked. Instead of nipping it in the bud when it started, you now have a whole jungle to cut down.



In other words, she's not on the same level of respect as you. I doubt she ever will be.



Get rid of her. She is not worthy of your time, respect, nor commitment. She should have earned it while you were dating which is why you DON'T move in with someone after only 6 months. 5 years would be more ideal.

Make sure you read this. Solid advice backed up with good reasoning.

This is only your 2nd girl, so it's only understandable that you wrongly chose and stayed with someone incompatible with you. When we are inexperienced we generally make mistakes.

People are on their best behaviour in the beginning when you date them, it's only after a while they show their true colours.

Try not to feel too bad, it's all a learning experience, especially when you are quite new to relationships.

 

[Augustus_McCrae]

You need to get out of this relationship. She is a future train wreck for you. She has disrespected you so much that's it's going to be almost impossible to recover.

And beyond that, any women that would act that way toward the man she allegedly loves is not worthy of him.

Run Forrest Run...

-Augustus-

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear All,
Well this is one interesting troll...Beautifully written article,a good aged Man for sure...Kister?...My Old Mum used that word to describe a "Snowdropper"(One who steals delicate Feminine articles off the Clothes Line,for subsequent cross dressing}...She had worked for and amongst Jews for many years,picked up a lot of Yidisher slang...very interesting...Someone as erudite as this couldn't possibly be asking for advice,so why?

 

[PantyWhisperer]

Sorry if I am a newb feeding a troll, but it sounds like she wants to Cuckold him. That can be a crazy ride - or maybe she just wants to be a "hot wife" and have you give her permission to shag other dudes along the way. If that's not your thing or run like hell.

 

[WhiskeyTango]

Get out and don't look back. Teasing? Hell no! More like complete disrespect. It will only get worse as time goes on. Those "teasing" comments will turn into action. Action as in f**king one of the dudes she is teasing you about. You are blinded by your emotions if you think otherwise. Anyway, that's my take and it comes from my own experience of the same type of horse sh*t.

 

[PantyWhisperer]

My ex-wife used to pull **** like this. At the time, I thought it was mainly to keep me in line - "See how many other men want me?" But eventually she started banging other guys. More than one across a 6 year marriage. She's someone else's problem now but that is a big red flag. Curb the b!tch.

 

[Colossus]

This girl will cheat on you...she is telling you without saying the words.

Outrageously disrespectful.

I know its easy for us to say "just break up with her", but this is your only solution. Im sorry, she wont change. I know you don't believe us and will try every other avenue first, but the end game here is her cheating on you or at the very least inviting the scenario.

Problem is you live with her so you're sort of screwed (never live with a female unless you are married or about to marry her, especially after less than 1 year).

I can predict with 100% certainty the above will transpire if you stay with her or marry her. Im sorry. Those arent harmless comments about some celeb, these are your friends, that she has relationships with and access to. She has a wh0re's heart man.

 

[speed dawg]

You're failing all her sh*t tests. Your clock is ticking.

 

[Von]

Good relationship is not one where she insult you with tease of other guys.

Sure this site might be crude and very cherrypikcing.

However Desdinova and Whiskey + Panty, got it right.

She's mind****ing you, it's the sign your relationship is over.

When she does what she does, it means there is something wrong with you for her.

Best thing is to tell her: "sure, your stuff will be on the way out of m place, so pick them up when you both leaves" with a strong frame and start plastic bag

She will jump naked on you If you still have the Salvage option. If she insult you, it means she already cheated and it's over.

Time to make a move and be alpha.

Don't post again if you seek the beta way.

You'll be happier with a clear mind

 

[Bible_Belt]

It doesn't sound like the two of you are sexually compatible. You're uptight, and she has fantasies of being a slvt. Neither of you is wrong; you're just different. She trusts you enough to tell you what is on her mind. You should value that, and not try to destroy it, even if the two of you don't work out as a couple.

One thing to understand about sex fantasies, especially with women, is that just because they fantasize about something doesn't mean they will ever do it, or even really want to do it. For example, most women have a rape fantasy. That doesn't mean they actually want to get raped. Fantasies are not logical, and they are not all bucket list plans for the future.

The next time she mentions a guy she likes, tell her with a straight face that she should invite him over for a gangbang, and see what happens. I think she'll stutter, get embarrassed, and change the subject. That's always what has happened to me when I have said that to a woman. That's how to pass the sh!t test.

her: Maybe I'm a wh0re?

you: ok, be a wh0re

her: Wait, never mind, I love you!

And that's how the conversation will go. If you can't do that, then you either have to try to repress her forever, which will eventually backfire, or go find someone more sexually compatible with yourself.

 

[BeExcellent]

This stinks for you. I know the advice is not what you want to hear. You have no choice but to break up. This is extremely disrespectful behavior.

It is one thing to have a gregarious personality and have natural sex appeal. I am a woman like that. I was married over 15 years to a nightclub owner and men always notice me.

But I never ever talked about the male attention to my husband the way your gf does. I never talk about it with the man I see now either.

If you are with a naturally sexy woman yes other men are always going to notice her. That just is. How she handles herself amidst the attention will tell you everything about whether or not she has class. My ex husband was always so proud to be with a beautiful sexy woman who turned every head AND WAS CLEARLY AND ABSOLUTELY WITH HIM.

Your girlfriend, conversely, appears to not only seek external validation from other men, she also throws it in your face in very disrespectful and inappropriate ways. That comes from insecurity probably and is also your problem since you live together (horrible error on your part as others have stated.)

You cannot make this better. You found her, you are young & attractive and can find another (better) attractive woman who isn't disrespectful like this.

Dump her. Seriously. How are you going to feel when she starts propositioning your friends in front of you or when you discover she is having sex with someone you know. This is the kind of woman who eventually will cheat, and worse will do it with someone close to you.

I have a friend this exact scenario happened to him. He caught his wife in bed one day with his oldest & dearest friend. Can you imagine???? Horrible.

That is the type woman your girlfriend's behavior indicates. GET. OUT. NOW.

 

[Once Bitten]

You have to nip this the first time it happens, as previously mentioned.

Frankly, after my life experiences I would dump her azz immediately if I ever heard this from a chick from now on, unless you like the Swinging lifestyle.

You are either a troll, or you've been raised to have no self respect. You don't have a child together, so it can't be that. Man up, dude!!

 

[PantyWhisperer]

The best way to turn it around on her is to tell her which of her friends that YOU want to bang. And then do it. She'll shut up then!!

 

[Sho-No-Luv]

This stinks for you. I know the advice is not what you want to hear. You have no choice but to break up. This is extremely disrespectful behavior.

It is one thing to have a gregarious personality and have natural sex appeal. I am a woman like that. I was married over 15 years to a nightclub owner and men always notice me.

But I never ever talked about the male attention to my husband the way your gf does. I never talk about it with the man I see now either.

If you are with a naturally sexy woman yes other men are always going to notice her. That just is. How she handles herself amidst the attention will tell you everything about whether or not she has class. My ex husband was always so proud to be with a beautiful sexy woman who turned every head AND WAS CLEARLY AND ABSOLUTELY WITH HIM.

Your girlfriend, conversely, appears to not only seek external validation from other men, she also throws it in your face in very disrespectful and inappropriate ways. That comes from insecurity probably and is also your problem since you live together (horrible error on your part as others have stated.)

You cannot make this better. You found her, you are young & attractive and can find another (better) attractive woman who isn't disrespectful like this.

Dump her. Seriously. How are you going to feel when she starts propositioning your friends in front of you or when you discover she is having sex with someone you know. This is the kind of woman who eventually will cheat, and worse will do it with someone close to you.

I have a friend this exact scenario happened to him. He caught his wife in bed one day with his oldest & dearest friend. Can you imagine???? Horrible.

That is the type woman your girlfriend's behavior indicates. GET. OUT. NOW.

Just out of curiosity how did he handle this situation?