I am in good, serious relationship with my gf. BUT she teases/talks about other men

[BeExcellent]

@Sho-No-Luv,

My friend divorced his wife and he & his former best friend remain estranged. He has a tough time trusting women since his divorce and he has a fair bit of disillusionment about people in general. Who can blame him. The two people he trusted most screwed him over together at the same time.

He took a contract in Dubai and got the hell out of Dodge for a while & took his teenage daughter with him. He felt utterly embarrassed amongst his social circle, church circle and etc. He had social standing and was in some leadership positions in several organizations. He has no idea who knows what and doesn't want himself or his daughter catching wind of rumors. When he finishes his contract his plan is to move to a different city altogether. Horrible situation all the way round.

I don't know whatever became of the best friend and the ex-wife, it makes him angry still if he brings it up, so he's got a ways to get yet in working through it. I never bring it up and simply listen if he does, it's obviously a sensitive and sore subject.

 

[Once Bitten]

The best way to turn it around on her is to tell her which of her friends that YOU want to bang. And then do it. She'll shut up then!!

Hahaha! Love it!!

 

[PantyWhisperer]

@Sho-No-Luv,

My friend divorced his wife and he & his former best friend remain estranged. He has a tough time trusting women since his divorce and he has a fair bit of disillusionment about people in general. Who can blame him. The two people he trusted most screwed him over together at the same time.

He took a contract in Dubai and got the hell out of Dodge for a while & took his teenage daughter with him. He felt utterly embarrassed amongst his social circle, church circle and etc. He had social standing and was in some leadership positions in several organizations. He has no idea who knows what and doesn't want himself or his daughter catching wind of rumors. When he finishes his contract his plan is to move to a different city altogether. Horrible situation all the way round.

I don't know whatever became of the best friend and the ex-wife, it makes him angry still if he brings it up, so he's got a ways to get yet in working through it. I never bring it up and simply listen if he does, it's obviously a sensitive and sore subject.

I know what you mean about having to feel embarrassed about that situation. It's totally salt in the wound. You feel like everybody is talking about it and you, behind your back. And that's because they are. I didn't have an option to move so I just rode it out. People move onto other gossip pretty quickly though.

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

Basically she tested you to see just how insecure you were....you failed. Now she knows how to push your buttons and watch you get all sensitive and upset.. Awwwww is widdle man getting angwy. Most of this advice makes you sound more like a petulant loser.
@biblebelt that was the best advice, although it may be too late to play that card now.

Lsst night I was joking around with my girlfriend and somehow in conversation she said that she should pick up drunk men at the local parties and take them back to her place. I could hsve gotten all macho snd told her that if she did to never come back.
Instead I laughed out loud and told her to treat herself and that it would make her appreciate the fantastic time she had with me even more. I then gave her an enormous shyt-eating grin.
She laughed, told me I had an amazing attitude, and we stayed in bed.
Seems to me like getting all macho and giving ultimatums stinks of insecurity and is about as far from IDGAF as you can get.
Next time she does the "wow, he is sexy" agree and point out that you saw him first or make a joke about it.
Yeah she is being disrespectful and rude. Stop being such an easy target.

Talking about it is not doing it.

 

[Once Bitten]

I have to disagree. The game thing can be looked at in the wrong way nowadays. Give a modern woman an inch and she'll smile while running off with the yardstick.

Example- A friend was about two years into a relationship, had a wife who asked for an open relationship. He thought she was shyt testing him and said "sure. no problem".
Soon, some random guy she "knew" was having "relationship problems and got kicked out of his house", so she let him move in with them. My friend didn't like the idea, but like a trooper he played along. Sure enough, her and her "friend" hung out all the time, and soon had something going. Her new friend treated him like crap, me too when I was there. Went there for a party once and knowing I was the other guy's close friend, he did the intimidating "walking into my shoulder" thing with me, with which I met him with a dropped, aggressive shoulder. He was one cokky b@stard. I knew then he was an a$$. Then came the divorce.

I know that guys like to play the game on here, but know now that gals are better at the games than us and you must be wise and know when to walk. There's always another man waiting.
She was a fatty too, at that...

 

[Sho-No-Luv]

I have to disagree. The game thing can be looked at in the wrong way nowadays. Give a modern woman an inch and she'll smile while running off with the yardstick.

Example- A friend was about two years into a relationship, had a wife who asked for an open relationship. He thought she was shyt testing him and said "sure. no problem".
Soon, some random guy she "knew" was having "relationship problems and got kicked out of his house", so she let him move in with them. My friend didn't like the idea, but like a trooper he played along. Sure enough, her and her "friend" hung out all the time, and soon had something going. Her new friend treated him like crap, me too when I was there. Went there for a party once and knowing I was the other guy's close friend, he did the intimidating "walking into my shoulder" thing with me, with which I met him with a dropped, aggressive shoulder. He was one cokky b@stard. I knew then he was an a$$. Then came the divorce.

I know that guys like to play the game on here, but know now that gals are better at the games than us and you must be wise and know when to walk. There's always another man waiting.
She was a fatty too, at that...

Right! I would have bolted before she could even finished her sentence. Biatch would have gotten whiplash, lol!