Fenderules
Master Don Juan
I dunno wut the hell is going on. Im am royally screwing up somehow and i dont even know. I mean there is something i am fundamentally doing wrong.
Another girl just automatically went cold on me. And i thought this one was actually gonna work. I cant even get a ****ing first date. Its driving me nuts. I cant even get a first date even if my life depended on it. I mean i am getting massive rejections here. I dont really fear rejections anymore cause i'v got so many of them. I think now the problem is i assume a rejection. This one girl was really into me and we flirted and stuff and she ended up calling me to set up a date. Next thing i know she cant even look at me. She used to always give me this warm smile, and i caught here thousands of times out of the corner of my eye looking at me. Now she has just gone freaking cold. I mean this would not be a big deal, i'v never made a big deal out of before except for the fact that................
its every girl i freaking know does it to me. I have it happen thousands of times. At first when im just meeting them im all warm and i can joke around but then once they start doing this i dont know wut the hell to do. I'v tried being indiffernt......nothing
i'v tried pushing harder (afcness) obviously nothing. And i'v tried pulling away..... they never talk to me again.
i mean they are chasing me and then all of a sudden they just go cold. And its not like im not making a move. After getting some rapport and stuff i get their number and then i "tell" them (i dont ask) and then they ALWAYS BLOW ME OFF a few days later or ingore their phone or wutever. I'v really had it. Its weird cause they dont even put me in the friends zone. Its like i just stop existing to them.
Its really driving me nuts cause this is sadly the story of my life. I mean im a easy going guy, i like to joke around a bit. Im fairly smart going to university, i help whoever i can if they need help. Im always there for my close friends and yet my whole life i just constantly get zoned out. Its not just with girls im trying to date either. Its with friends and ppl i meet all the time. I mean how big of a cuss is it when you get ingored by the band geeks in freaking highschool. I mean the football kids made fun of me, and many used to be my friends so i tried getting others. I tried hanging out with the "cooler" crowd but that was not me, i did not fit in and im actually happy that i did not sell myself out to fit in with there "wiggerness"
Finally now im much better at making friends but this chick thing is just over the top. I feel like im doing something fundamentally wrong. I'v changed drastically 2. Im not afriad to do some teasing and so on and i sure as hell dont seel myself out anymore. If somebody is pissing me off, i get in their face. I'v improved my style. I'v overheard girls saying im a snappy dresser. yet nothing happens. I mean i feel like im not even human sometimes cause i try and connect and it never seems to happen. its like im not human enough to be even considered a "friend" by girls.
i just dont get it. arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrh!
sorry for the long post but do any of you have a similar problem?
how did you deal with the problem, because i am so sick of girls turning cold on me. Its like as they get to know a little more about me they see a monster within me or something and avoid me like the plauge. The thing is i dont even spill much about myself. Its like some unkown energy or soemthing i dunno.
ps i also work out a lot and im getting into better shape
Another girl just automatically went cold on me. And i thought this one was actually gonna work. I cant even get a ****ing first date. Its driving me nuts. I cant even get a first date even if my life depended on it. I mean i am getting massive rejections here. I dont really fear rejections anymore cause i'v got so many of them. I think now the problem is i assume a rejection. This one girl was really into me and we flirted and stuff and she ended up calling me to set up a date. Next thing i know she cant even look at me. She used to always give me this warm smile, and i caught here thousands of times out of the corner of my eye looking at me. Now she has just gone freaking cold. I mean this would not be a big deal, i'v never made a big deal out of before except for the fact that................
its every girl i freaking know does it to me. I have it happen thousands of times. At first when im just meeting them im all warm and i can joke around but then once they start doing this i dont know wut the hell to do. I'v tried being indiffernt......nothing
i'v tried pushing harder (afcness) obviously nothing. And i'v tried pulling away..... they never talk to me again.
i mean they are chasing me and then all of a sudden they just go cold. And its not like im not making a move. After getting some rapport and stuff i get their number and then i "tell" them (i dont ask) and then they ALWAYS BLOW ME OFF a few days later or ingore their phone or wutever. I'v really had it. Its weird cause they dont even put me in the friends zone. Its like i just stop existing to them.
Its really driving me nuts cause this is sadly the story of my life. I mean im a easy going guy, i like to joke around a bit. Im fairly smart going to university, i help whoever i can if they need help. Im always there for my close friends and yet my whole life i just constantly get zoned out. Its not just with girls im trying to date either. Its with friends and ppl i meet all the time. I mean how big of a cuss is it when you get ingored by the band geeks in freaking highschool. I mean the football kids made fun of me, and many used to be my friends so i tried getting others. I tried hanging out with the "cooler" crowd but that was not me, i did not fit in and im actually happy that i did not sell myself out to fit in with there "wiggerness"
Finally now im much better at making friends but this chick thing is just over the top. I feel like im doing something fundamentally wrong. I'v changed drastically 2. Im not afriad to do some teasing and so on and i sure as hell dont seel myself out anymore. If somebody is pissing me off, i get in their face. I'v improved my style. I'v overheard girls saying im a snappy dresser. yet nothing happens. I mean i feel like im not even human sometimes cause i try and connect and it never seems to happen. its like im not human enough to be even considered a "friend" by girls.
i just dont get it. arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrh!
sorry for the long post but do any of you have a similar problem?
how did you deal with the problem, because i am so sick of girls turning cold on me. Its like as they get to know a little more about me they see a monster within me or something and avoid me like the plauge. The thing is i dont even spill much about myself. Its like some unkown energy or soemthing i dunno.
ps i also work out a lot and im getting into better shape