You don't try to be a DJ. You either are heading into that route or you're not. Being a player is not for everyone-- and tahts just the facts. More men than ever are more prone to acting like women these days when it comes to dating and its blatantly obvious.
If you're in your 30's and you are just touching the surface of casual dating, then its going to be a rough road getting past the realms of emotional maturity, and learning curves of game, and the experience that comes with time and activity.
But then again, my definition of a DJ is a lot different than some.