humiliating yourself at social events

[GoodMan32]

Rejoice in the fact that you received even that, GM. I'm slightly confused though:

-This broad had never spoken to you prior to this evening, then walked up to you, and said "Let's boogie!!!"

Or

-She pulled you onto the dance floor without saying a word, remained silent as you all glided around thr ball room, then walked away afterwards, still speechless?

If the latter, it's entirely possible her hyper-religious parents discovered she'd been talking to guys earlier that year, and then removed her vocal cords as punishment. In which case, her dancing with you was likely just as much an act of self-pity, as it was sympathy

We had spoken through the years (I had gone to school with her all the way back to elementary school). Not a whole lot though. We weren't friends by any means (other than meaningless Facebook friendship where pretty much the whole school added each other)

The scenario was closer to the 2nd scenario you described (although I have no idea whether her family was religious)

I just looked her up. Found a LinkedIn. She still has her good looks (and is a Certified Medical Assistant)

 

[GoodMan32]

You are falling for the spotflight effect thinking that everyone is focused on you and some perceived embarassing event

seek first to have fun and amuse yourself and as my guru Amsterdam assassin says limit what you give an airborne copulation about it

I'm aware not everyone's focused on me. Still, I don't like humiliating myself.

 

[GoodMan32]

Have you been to therapy? Cause with that mindset you'll never gonna have a chick in your life

Yeah, I've been to therapy.

 

[eli77]

take it from some one who went to an over crowded inner city school hang out with people who share your interest plain and simple you are who you hang with.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Yes, he has. Please don't remind him of that failure. Last time he filled ten pages with whining. Don't feed the pinguin.

The irony of him not wanting to humiliate himself, but consistently posts in here humiliating himself.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Actually, I don't think that's ironic. He can be himself on this forum, hiding behind his anonymity, so he can test out how he will be perceived and not be personally humiliated.

He's anxious about being humiliated in public by people he might see again (and again). Some social anxiety is acceptable, but he shows a disproportionate fear of failure and the consequences, so his 'risk management' is totally unable to decide whether a risk is real or imaginary. Plus he has severe coping mechanisms to avoid risk at all, which paralyse him socially. And he's lazy and wants shortcuts to get rid of his social awkwardness, without understanding that he has to walk the path to get to the destination.

A lost cause, really. I agree that he needs therapy, but I think he needs the right therapist.
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I think you hit the nail on the head. I’m impressed by your assessment

 

[New_Journey]

Actually, I don't think that's ironic. He can be himself on this forum, hiding behind his anonymity, so he can test out how he will be perceived and not be personally humiliated.

He's anxious about being humiliated in public by people he might see again (and again). Some social anxiety is acceptable, but he shows a disproportionate fear of failure and the consequences, so his 'risk management' is totally unable to decide whether a risk is real or imaginary. Plus he has severe coping mechanisms to avoid risk at all, which paralyse him socially. And he's lazy and wants shortcuts to get rid of his social awkwardness, without understanding that he has to walk the path to get to the destination.

A lost cause, really. I agree that he needs therapy, but I think he needs the right therapist.
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You sure know a lot. Are you the famous guy with a nice cat who fvcks a lot of women in Amsterdam?

 

[BaronOfHair]

And he's lazy and wants shortcuts to get rid of his social awkwardness, without understanding that he has to walk the path to get to the destination.

OP actually has a great deal of energy and resolve... He just devotes it desperately manufacturing rationalizations for NOT adopting more adaptive beliefs and behaviors

 

[BaronOfHair]

just looked her up. Found a LinkedIn. She still has her good looks (and is a Certified Medical Assistant)

Invite her out for coffee then, GM, and begin your seduction. Having someone with access to an RX pad in one's social orbit is always a benefit

 

[GoodMan32]

Invite her out for coffee then, GM, and begin your seduction. Having someone with access to an RX pad in one's social orbit is always a benefit

What I'm about to say isn't an excuse, merely a fact.

I live too far (And no, I don't mean 2 hour drive; I mean a several hour plane ride)

 

[BaronOfHair]

What I'm about to say isn't an excuse, merely a fact.

I live too far (And no, I don't mean 2 hour drive; I mean a several hour plane ride)

You've still been presented with an opportunity to practice approaching, hombre.... PM her on Facebook with a message like: "Yo, honey. Next time your in town, contact me. We'll grab coffee"

Limiting beliefs are flatlining your prospects for success, faster than whatever Johnny Depp gave River Phoenix, that fateful night at The Viper Room

 

[corrector]

You've still been presented with an opportunity to practice approaching, hombre.... PM her on Facebook with a message like: "Yo, honey. Next time your in town, contact me. We'll grab coffee"

Limiting beliefs are flatlining your prospects for success, faster than whatever Johnny Depp gave River Phoenix, that fateful night at The Viper Room

Stop training GM to be a simp.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Stop training GM to be a simp.

https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/cringe-lunch-or-personal-social-experiment.281356/

You hurling such an accusation is more risible than Amanda Bynes saying to Lindsey Lohan: "Girl, you've CRASHED through the wall!!!"

 

[MatureDJ]

In the past, I would use pheromone. If you spray the right pheromone then it should attract women your way. You need to see women as your subjects who you are doing experiments on to see how they react to various pheromones. When women are part of your experiment, they are in your frame, they are under you because you are the man with the scientific white lab coat and you are trying out various sprays on them to see how they react to that.

However, I stopped using them since 2014 for personal reasons.

Folks say Elon Musk could become the world's first trillionaire (USD) if his robotaxis actually work - but I think anyone that truly cracked the pheromone code would become a multi-trillionaire. This would single-handedly destroy hypergamy.

 

[MatureDJ]

Only getting one pity dance at the high school dance was humiliating. I never should have gone.

I don't even want to elaborate on the humiliation at the college football games and the holiday party (the story is worse)

At least you had folks that went to your high school that you could dance with!

 

[MatureDJ]

I'm curious too. Like did he wet himself?

I was about to post about a movie that was about a lad who had this problem, but along the way, I came across this.

Polish tourist killed by urinating on 750-volt electric railway line

Electrocuted: A 41-year-old man died after being hit with 750 volts at Vauxhall Station

www.standard.co.uk

.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I was about to post about a movie that was about a lad who had this problem, but along the way, I came across this.

Polish tourist killed by urinating on 750-volt electric railway line

Electrocuted: A 41-year-old man died after being hit with 750 volts at Vauxhall Station

www.standard.co.uk

.

I guess they never learned from their light bulb changing endeavors.

 

[corrector]

Talk about Social Events. I'm attending my cousin's Wedding on Sunday. I'm just found $ 100 in my wallet to give to them as a wedding gift. Do you know how that $ 100 was in my wallet? Well I had it there since late September with the intent of potentially using that to visit an escort (ie ensure I have an option to visit one even though I choose not to go due to religious reasons). Now it's going to go there instead. If I didn't think about that, then the money would have gone somewhere else and I would have no wedding gift at all as it would be hard to withdraw $ 100 from my own account when you are broke.

However, if you know that was money that would have potentially put my soul at risk of damnation into some lustful vice (ie and potentially catching some demons which may have messed up my ability to do my job if a repeat of December/2014 happened again), and now I'm using it for a good purpsose, it actually feels great.

Hope I meet someone there too. Hey, I'm doing this for your @GoodMan32. If you are not going to do something (or have the opportunity to get out there), then I am. Hope this goes somewhere, in terms of meeting someone, rather then niceties and stuffing my guts with food and jetting out of there when it comes dance time.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Do you know how that $ 100 was in my wallet?

You don't live anywhere close to Toronto... It's thus improbable to infer that you've been patronizing Exotica

lately. Which does tend to leave a few spare bucks in a fellas pocket

 

[corrector]

You don't live anywhere close to Toronto... It's thus improbable to infer that you've been patronizing Exotica

lately. Which does tend to leave a few spare bucks in a fellas pocket

I do not patronize anyone. I'm listening subscribing to this teen Christian lady:

I'm not fapping, looking at porn, or any lewd youtube video.

A New Sheriff has come to town to invoke law and order and chase the escorts and massage parlours away from this town.

Her name is Bella Dodd and she's invoking Christian martial law.

How can I even mentally think about visiting any escort while watching her videos?

(The Latina escorts go for $60.-$80, lots of them...but I am a Christian so they are not my type).