HOW would you make a move if you're at her place?

[davelmn2003]

Let's say she invites you over for a dinner (as in my situation, possibly), and your senses tell you that she has interest in you (how much, I don't know). WHAT kind of move would you make and HOW would you make it?

Please be specific...like, leaning over and touch her, start looking into her eyes like you want to kiss her (when both of you are very quiet...)?

 

[Harry Cash]

Hey dave!

Dinner only? No video or tv or music, dance, going out, etc?

A good way that usually works well is to tell her how much you liked the dinner and you want to thank her your way...

Then you kiss her.

That is all.

 

[davelmn2003]

sounds innovative..but do I go for the lips or the face?? I know you probably would say lips, but isn't it rather too bold?

I mean, either she's going to love it or she's going to be taken aback...

What other techniques...?

 

[MDgood]

What I do in these cases is bring some CDs of some romantic music with me (Tupac don't count), some wine (tipsy is a good way of overcoming shyness), and after dinner and talking, start the music, invite her to slow dance with me, stare her in the eyes, lock eye contact, very LIGHTLY and GENTLY run my fingers across her cheek and then through her hair a few times - preferably opposite side of the hand she writes with... it's the more sensitive side in a person... trust me, it works - and if she let's me stroke her face and hair more than once, I know I'm in. Then I kiss the girl. Very simple to do.

 

[Harry Cash]

Catch the feeling. If things are going ok and she's into yours, go for the mouth. Kiss on the face does not apply to this specific situation.
Do it right and she won't decline the offer... it does not have to be in a bold way. You can do it as softly as silk.
Of course , if you don't feel comfortable to do it, then don't.

You can just go cuddle in the couch, which is something more romantic. Anyway, dinner is a great oportunity because you can start talking to her in a romantic-aggressive pace. Girls love that.

That is all.

 

[Bonhomme]

Use your instincts

MDGood and Harry Cash have the idea. Just get close, and very deliberately move your lips to hers. If she's not into it, she'll turn her head, in which case just take the peck on the cheek and LJBF her in your mind.

Usually one can tell if the vibe is there ... but sometimes surprises happen.

Case in point: first date with a high IL gal (she called me first). I visit her, about a 1 1/2 hour drive (she later told me she was pissed off because I showed up later than when she expected). We go to a park to walk around in the woods. Convo is OK, not particularly great. We have dinner at a nice, but not expensive restaurant. Good.

Then we rented a video. Turned out to be a grim psychological film. A good movie, but about the worst date film imaginable. The film ended, and it was time to say "good night." Things didn't look too promising. But I kissed her goodnight on the lips anyway, and ---ziiiinnnngggg!!!! ---- electricity!

We ended up making out for quite a while, I started doing some handiwork, teasingly working my way around her body, caressing her all over, but staying off the hot spots, though working my way around them at times to build anticipation and test the waters, but not a stop sign in sight. So eventually I started caressing her breasts, and after a little while she got really turned-on and put my hand down in the general area of her crotch a couple times, so I started teasing her inside her pants -- again, no protests -- and eventually get her off. She was very pleased, and -- needless to say -- totally hooked.

So you never know until you have a go.

The main thing is to be deliberate and telegraph your moves. If you're heading where she doesn't want you to go, she'll say or do something to tell you so.

 

[STR8UP]

Re: Use your instincts

Originally posted by Bonhomme
Things didn't look too promising. But I kissed her goodnight on the lips anyway, and ---ziiiinnnngggg!!!! ---- electricity!

Sometimes all you gotta do is initiate and she'll pretty much attack you. They are just waiting for you to make a move.

 

[htemorp]

Originally posted by MDgood
What I do in these cases is bring some CDs of some romantic music with me (Tupac don't count), some wine (tipsy is a good way of overcoming shyness), and after dinner and talking, start the music, invite her to slow dance with me, stare her in the eyes, lock eye contact, very LIGHTLY and GENTLY run my fingers across her cheek and then through her hair a few times - preferably opposite side of the hand she writes with... it's the more sensitive side in a person... trust me, it works - and if she let's me stroke her face and hair more than once, I know I'm in. Then I kiss the girl. Very simple to do.

Alright faker, don't tell me this has ever worked more than once in your whole entire life (if at all). Sounds like you stole these moves from some movies.

Just bring a funny movie or something that you imagine both of you would enjoy. Watch that after the dinner, which is very casual...and make the moves on the couch. That's almost a surething, gurantee to work. No one can coach you what to do on the couch, so the tutorial ends here.

 

[MDgood]

htemorp, you are not obligated to believe one thing I write in this forum. You're your own man, you have your own ways, and I am sure you do quite well by them. You have the absolute right to believe that everything I write here is a load of bullshyt, and I respect that.

However, the dinner thing is a variation in a different setting of what I usually do. I can think of five women I have had that work with.

Come on, figure this: if the girl has agreed to go out with you in the first place, you're already 2/3rds of the way there. Going the rest of the way is a matter of conversation, kino, eye contact, smiling, laughing, a few jokes, etc.

 

[xblitz44x]

I posted this in tips:

Take her back to your house, sit her on the couch/bed, whatever. Take off YOUR shoes so that she knows it's ok to take off hers. Ask her what she wants to drink. ALCHOHOL. When a woman drinks 2 glasses of wine, her body is much more sensative to physical touch. Something as simple as rubbing the back of her neck could send chills all over her body. Make sure you get her liquored up.

Halfway into the movie, she should be into her "buzz", which is time for you to make a move. Tell her to give you a massage. Lift your shirt up for her to rub your back. After about 5 minutes of this...tell her that you want to give HER one now, it would only be fair.

Have her lay on her stomach, flip her shirt up so that you can touch the skin directly. Start by tracing your fingers lightly against her back. Then start adding pressure with your fingers against her muscles. Work your way up and down her back, including the very lower back where women tend to hold a lot of stress. AFter a minute or so she'll make noises or seem 'very relaxed'. At this time ask her: "Have you ever had the back of your neck kissed?" She will give you an answer, the answer isn't important.

Lean over, and gently kiss the very back of her neck, right above the spine, below the hairline. Start to suck on that part of her neck...use your tongue and run up and down it...breath on it. Do this while continuing to massage her with your hands.

After 2 minutes of this she will be humping the couch like a dog in heat. Grind your pelvis against her ass...let her know that you're horney. Move from the back of her neck to the side of her neck, to her cheek. Turn her around and kiss close her. Continue to rub your d!ck against her croch area, and feel her. You can fvck her right then and there, guaranteed.

 

[tamales]

Bringing over romatic CD's to her house is the funniest thing in the world and don't do it. If some guy did that to me, we wouldn't even get to the dinner. Sorry, I just think that is way gay!

I say forget the video and forget playing it safe. Just go for it and be bold, Very bold. She'll be taken aback but if you do it in a tender but forceful way she will be attacking you. With a little bit of hot and cold actions and C&F. Only a little.

My idea:

Tell her the meal was delicious (chances are she'll be all excited and ask you first did you like it, did you like it) Smile and look deep at her and say, yes indeed (very calm) it was delicious sweetie. Very good. So.... make it a long sooooooo.... well, I think I know what I want for dessert and laugh a little. I know I know sounds just as lame as the CD's but trust me on this. Has happened to me and worked. Sigh.

Only if it is done right and not cheezy. So after you say that to her, suddently you stop short after saying that and say well, then do the opposite and be not romantic but a little cold. Not in a cruel way but indifferent. Say, " Well, okay... Let me help with the dishes." She'll be a little taken aback.

Now if she takes you up on dessert then go for it and forget this other crap. But if she doesn't.

Stand near her or behind her while she is at the sink and put your arms around her waste. Or just go into the kitchen and keep up the indifferent mode. YOu have to guage her actions.

Just whatever you do make your actions very slow and as she is chit chatting which she will be if she is like me and at this point nervous. Just lean in very close and say huh and and be very very attentive. If the chemistry is there then make a move. Kiss her neck, turn her around to face you and kiss her while pushing her up against the sink, or wait till the tension is really there and let her bust a move.

I am telling you this works a lot better than cuddling on the couch. Unless of course she suggest it first and you are having a glass of wine.

Good luck and Bon Appetite!

 

[tamales]

Holy Cow, Hey Xblitz wanna come over for dinner. Forget my post man. Holy Cow!!!!!

Talk about dinner and a movie.

 

[FlyGuy]

Originally posted by xblitz44x
I posted this in tips:

Take her back to your house, sit her on the couch/bed, whatever. Take off YOUR shoes so that she knows it's ok to take off hers. Ask her what she wants to drink. ALCHOHOL. When a woman drinks 2 glasses of wine, her body is much more sensative to physical touch. Something as simple as rubbing the back of her neck could send chills all over her body. Make sure you get her liquored up.

Halfway into the movie, she should be into her "buzz", which is time for you to make a move. Tell her to give you a massage. Lift your shirt up for her to rub your back. After about 5 minutes of this...tell her that you want to give HER one now, it would only be fair.

Have her lay on her stomach, flip her shirt up so that you can touch the skin directly. Start by tracing your fingers lightly against her back. Then start adding pressure with your fingers against her muscles. Work your way up and down her back, including the very lower back where women tend to hold a lot of stress. AFter a minute or so she'll make noises or seem 'very relaxed'. At this time ask her: "Have you ever had the back of your neck kissed?" She will give you an answer, the answer isn't important.

Lean over, and gently kiss the very back of her neck, right above the spine, below the hairline. Start to suck on that part of her neck...use your tongue and run up and down it...breath on it. Do this while continuing to massage her with your hands.

After 2 minutes of this she will be humping the couch like a dog in heat. Grind your pelvis against her ass...let her know that you're horney. Move from the back of her neck to the side of her neck, to her cheek. Turn her around and kiss close her. Continue to rub your d!ck against her croch area, and feel her. You can fvck her right then and there, guaranteed.

Nice! Its funny, I used to think that there was more to seduction than the simple stuff like this. The only two things you need to do IMO are to plan ahead a bit, and then keep escalating.

 

[xblitz44x]

Flyguy, I agree man. Even back then when I wrote that post I was so concerned about all the shyt BEFORE that. But it's so true that's it's about finding the attraction and escalating it constantly. Go too fast or too slow and you fvck it up.

Tamales,

I was game until I read how you play games. I'm an emotional man. I am afraid that I'll fall in love and you'll leave me alone in my bed at night, writing you letters that I could never give you, and raining tears on your picture in my hand. : ) Sure, how's Thursday at 8?

-Blitz

 

[MDgood]

Tamales, I guarantee that if I got you far enough where you were inviting me over to your place for dinner, you wouldn't have a clue what happened until the next morning when you're looking for your panties. I could show up to your door in a monkey suit and still get into your pants, girl.

 

[DankNuggs]

Originally posted by MDgood
What I do in these cases is bring some CDs of some romantic music with me (Tupac don't count), some wine (tipsy is a good way of overcoming shyness), and after dinner and talking, start the music, invite her to slow dance with me, stare her in the eyes, lock eye contact, very LIGHTLY and GENTLY run my fingers across her cheek and then through her hair a few times - preferably opposite side of the hand she writes with... it's the more sensitive side in a person... trust me, it works - and if she let's me stroke her face and hair more than once, I know I'm in. Then I kiss the girl. Very simple to do.

Dude, this doesn't make sense to me. Asking a girl to slowdance with you to soft romantic music you brought seems far more cheesey and obvious than just going with the flow... I'd ignore this advice

 

[InLawsHateMe]

If ever in doubt..... put it in tha butt...... if only just for laughs.


GOOD LUCK!

 

[KiInCollege]

We're not all from the same generation here. MDgood is a clever cookie, so I don't doubt his advice. But at my age and culture, of course I use a different approach.

I wonder if dave got invited to dinner or not.

 

[MDgood]

Dude, this doesn't make sense to me. Asking a girl to slowdance with you to soft romantic music you brought seems far more cheesey and obvious than just going with the flow... I'd ignore this advice

Well, go ahead and ignore it all you want. Fine by me. You just have to wonder one thing:

IF IT'S SO CHEESY, OBVIOUS, AND STUPID, WHY HAS IT WORKED FOR ME? WHY DOES MDGOOD HAVE A HALF DOZEN KILLS ON SOMETHING SO CHEESY, OBVIOUS, AND STUPID???

hmmmm... yeah... sounds strange, doesn't it... it's cheesy, yet it's worked well for some guy... hmmm... shouldn't make sense... sounds AFC, doesn't it?.... hmmm... too obvious... yeah... and stupid, too... mmmmmhmmmm.... but then why has it worked?

Well, youthful ones, let me fill you in with something very, very obvious that you're missing:

AN INTIMACY CONNECTION!

A woman will not invite a guy to her house for dinner if she does not like you. It is a fact of life, guys. She may invite you to watch football. She'll invite you over to play PS2. She certainly will invite you over to pick her up and then leave. But to specifically make and share a meal with you in her house is something entirely different, boys. That is her abode... that is where she feels safe... to get in there for an extended period of time is a privledge that only she grants, and if she's asking to make and share a meal with you it is a sign she is becoming vulnerable!

If a woman is inviting you over to her house for dinner, that means she is more than likely already greatly interested in you. She has already been building you up in her head over and over and over. She has developed some sort of inflated image of you. Sound familiar? Think back to your AFC days, guys!

An experienced DJ knows that she has placed herself up for the kill by becoming so vulnerable. An experienced DJ knows he has two choices in this situation:

1. Women like to be romanced. Play to that romanticism for all it's worth and go in for the kill now! By the end of the morning, when you finally roll out of her bed and leave, she's not going to be thinking of anybody else but you for the next month. She's yours because you played to her desire to be ROMANCED and you created an INTIMACY CONNECTION. The ball is in your court to do with her as you wish.

-or-

2. Play it cool, be mysterious. Sure, you can come on to her, and maybe she'll give in and you'll get some action if she's a little tipsy and a lot experienced. You'll either leave later that night, or if you're really lucky you'll screw her to the wee hours of the morning. About 9 or 10 a.m., about the time you both wake up, you'll be entering the "ugly zone", when things go bad because she realizes she's just put out to some guy she has no INTIMACY CONNECTION with, and good luck trying to create it with her now, because you have no damned chance. By the way, make sure you're real, real nice to her on the way out the door... god forbid she starts running stuff through her head and comes to the conclusion that she was unfairly taken advantage of... I suggest you kiss her goodbye and tell her you'll call her, it will help push her away from those thoughts.

(Also, make sure you know exactly where everything is that's yours, like your wallet and watch, because I can tell you from experience that if you leave your watch there trying to get the hell out, you gotta find alternative ways to get it back.)

But just ignore me. It must not be right, because it's only worked for me everytime I've tried something like that.

 

[tamales]

Xblitz, hmmmm okay, perhaps 8 sounds good. Just make sure to bring a very fine bottle of wine. We'll see. Don't get your hopes up but hey, great post. Honest! And I'll call ya to confirm

And MD, whatever you say darlin'

These days, I am a lot smarter. And well looks like I am busy that night.


JK! But all in fun

And really X, that even got my panties wet!!!Orignal post. Good job. Just don't know if you could actually pull it off in real life. Takes a smooth man but your attention to detail is superb. And well, real life can throw you some curve balls and we gals can be fickle. But nice analogy.

MD, I am just not that all taken with ya, but hey that's not what this place is about. I am sure if you say, you could. So moving on.....Good luck. NOt that you care. I know your post was a joke.

Hey guys, I am an old, saggy woman. LIke those models who get old and **** and wrinke.

So, moving on! Made me laugh tho, and really I still say my post had some good ideas. Actually, happened. But I was already totally into the guy. Sigh. And my chicken was really burnt and horrible but he said it was delicious