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What are your best tips to stop being the nice guy? not just with ladies but life in general
Read books that change your point of view on life, from Rational Male by Rollo Tomasi to Stoicism.What are your best tips to stop being the nice guy? not just with ladies but life in general
Nice, thanks man, i feel like alot of people take advantage of me because im a nice guy, just dont want to come across as a **** hahaRead books that change your point of view on life, from Rational Male by Rollo Tomasi to Stoicism.
Do martial arts, pickup, weightlifting, anything competitive.
Make a decision to stop being a nice guy, and act accordingly. This is a final step, and nobody can make this step for you.
Channel your excited feelings into positive thoughts and behaviors. You will attract women by being enthusiastic, radiating energy, and becoming someone who is fun to be around.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Your overdoing it. We can treat our friends and acquantances good that treat us good. But rewarding bad behavior and no reciprocation with continued niceness is BS.... You don't have to be an a-hole up front, but if someone violates you or robs you don't they deserve it?Thanks for all the advice, i appreciate it. I think the main problem is i act like a nice guy out of fear of the persons reaction or thoughts towards me if im not the nice guy people expect.
Exactly, id call it cowardly to be honest. at least this thread has give me some motivation thanks manYour overdoing it. We can treat our friends and acquantances good that treat us good. But rewarding bad behavior and no reciprocation with continued niceness is BS.... You don't have to be an a-hole up front, but if someone violates you or robs you don't they deserve it?
Im percieved as the nice guy in general because i dont have it in me to tell people how it is and i fear the outcome of telling people how i feelfirst you need to understand why you are being perceived as the "nice guy"
then you can work from there , you dont necessarily need to be a selfish ignorant a$$hole , but you do need to concentrate on what works for you first and others second
You shouldn't mind losing those friends and associates. You can't go fighting everyone who gets over, but you don't have to keep allowing it.Im percieved as the nice guy in general because i dont have it in me to tell people how it is and i fear the outcome of telling people how i feel
If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.
Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.
This will quickly drive all women away from you.
And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.
That's interesting concept. Can you elaborate?Understand that being 'nice' is just another method of manipulation
Not. Some folks don't know how to say no, it doesn't arise, they want to be a "good friend". Not realizing the person asking of the resource is not doing that for them.That's interesting concept. Can you elaborate?
It's not always manipulative, only in the context of a beta orbiter / smarmy wannabe player. As I've said in my post, being nice is only manipulation when you want something in return. Being authentically nice because that's who you are is nobody's business but one's own.That's interesting concept. Can you elaborate?
You are being 'nice' with the expectation of reciprocity. This is why we have "Red Pill Rage"... when men realize that being nice will get you nothing in return. Otherwise, why would men rage? If you are being nice for the sake of being nice, then why get upset that the girl you love... who you have been so nice to... buying her things... dropping whatever you are doing to help her... let's herself get fvcked by a dude that treats her like garbage and wipes his c0ck on her curtains as he walks out her door.That's interesting concept. Can you elaborate?
Personally I DO expect reciprocity on some level. I SHARE gifts with people who SHARE gifts with me. I loan money to people who will loan to me. I'll help people who will help me.You are being 'nice' with the expectation of reciprocity. This is why we have "Red Pill Rage"... when men realize that being nice will get you nothing in return. Otherwise, why would men rage? If you are being nice for the sake of being nice, then why get upset that the girl you love... who you have been so nice to... buying her things... dropping whatever you are doing to help her... let's herself get fvcked by a dude that treats her like garbage and wipes his c0ck on her curtains as he walks out her door.
Read the posts of the guys that come on her for the first time many have the same formula. "I don't know what happened... I was so nice to her... I did everything for her, and all she wants is to fvck bad boys!" They think being nice will get them laid... it won't.