How to solve 90% of the problems I see on this forum

[BPH]

Without overcomplicating things too much:

1. Go to the gym
2. Approach more women

I could get into WHY you should be doing these things and HOW they help, but I think it's pretty self-explanatory.

How do you get started?

1. Starting Strength is a great beginner program that I would recommend to anybody. I will say power cleans are a strange exercise where beginners could get hurt easily, so I would Google substitutes for that and pick whatever you think would be best for you.
2. The way I did it was by going up to girls at the local mall and on the boardwalk at the beach each year on family vacations. Get comfortable being uncomfortable, get rejected a lot, understand why you got rejected, and then use that information to be better next time.

Now go out into the world and do both these things for a couple of months, years, if you can, and I guarantee you'll have much more success with women than you would by trying to analyze your failed Tinder conversations.

 

[characternote]

Without overcomplicating things too much:

1. Go to the gym
2. Approach more women

easy, right?

 

[BPH]

View attachment 13790

easy, right?

True. I didn't mention money because I'm still doing very well without it, and I think the first 2 are easier to do first. Not to say that one shouldn't make more money, absolutely do that too.

 

[characternote]

True. I didn't mention money because I'm still doing very well without it, and I think the first 2 are easier to do first. Not to say that one shouldn't make more money, absolutely do that too.

I agree. I've said before that money seems to be irrelevant in my experience, (in the UK and only really looking for flings) although I concede that in a relationship, it can definitely play a role. And hey, in general, making more money is always good, so why not include it

I also agree about what you say about how you'll get more from the stuff mentioned than from trying to 'learn from a failed approach' and reading a load of PUA stuff. Basically, a rejection is nothing to do with your 'game' UNLESS you are extremely weird and autistic etc. The baseline is basically 'be normal' assuming you are her type. There's typically nothing to learn from a rejection. It wasn't your approach angle. It wasn't the opener. It wasn't because you failed to neg her or qualified her too early etc etc! You just weren't her type, and if you had the ability to approach that same girl again in a 'ground hog day' situation, the result would be the same no matter how many times you tried to tweak it

 

[Travel memoir21]

Do Yoga, Briskwalking, meditation/prayer, reading the scriptures and then do strength training and lifting weights for overrall contentment.


I can also tell you right now, when you do cold approaches, you will get rejected less if you don’t do it by yourself. Get a wingman, get a wingwoman, get a dog or a cat to take with you…..cold approach at the end of the day is socializing and giving your woman your best overrall vibe, so you don’t want to come off as a creep or a predator.


You also want to dress pretty good while you’re doing it. A brown tweed blazer, with denim pants and matching shoes does it for me.

 

[GoodMan32]

What if a man only does one of the two: Approaching more gals

?