How to solve 90% of the problems I see on this forum

[BPH]

Without overcomplicating things too much:

1. Go to the gym
2. Approach more women

I could get into WHY you should be doing these things and HOW they help, but I think it's pretty self-explanatory.

How do you get started?

1. Starting Strength is a great beginner program that I would recommend to anybody. I will say power cleans are a strange exercise where beginners could get hurt easily, so I would Google substitutes for that and pick whatever you think would be best for you.
2. The way I did it was by going up to girls at the local mall and on the boardwalk at the beach each year on family vacations. Get comfortable being uncomfortable, get rejected a lot, understand why you got rejected, and then use that information to be better next time.

Now go out into the world and do both these things for a couple of months, years, if you can, and I guarantee you'll have much more success with women than you would by trying to analyze your failed Tinder conversations.

 

[characternote]

Without overcomplicating things too much:

1. Go to the gym
2. Approach more women

easy, right?

 

[BPH]

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easy, right?

True. I didn't mention money because I'm still doing very well without it, and I think the first 2 are easier to do first. Not to say that one shouldn't make more money, absolutely do that too.

 

[characternote]

True. I didn't mention money because I'm still doing very well without it, and I think the first 2 are easier to do first. Not to say that one shouldn't make more money, absolutely do that too.

I agree. I've said before that money seems to be irrelevant in my experience, (in the UK and only really looking for flings) although I concede that in a relationship, it can definitely play a role. And hey, in general, making more money is always good, so why not include it

I also agree about what you say about how you'll get more from the stuff mentioned than from trying to 'learn from a failed approach' and reading a load of PUA stuff. Basically, a rejection is nothing to do with your 'game' UNLESS you are extremely weird and autistic etc. The baseline is basically 'be normal' assuming you are her type. There's typically nothing to learn from a rejection. It wasn't your approach angle. It wasn't the opener. It wasn't because you failed to neg her or qualified her too early etc etc! You just weren't her type, and if you had the ability to approach that same girl again in a 'ground hog day' situation, the result would be the same no matter how many times you tried to tweak it

 

[Travel memoir21]

Do Yoga, Briskwalking, meditation/prayer, reading the scriptures and then do strength training and lifting weights for overrall contentment.


I can also tell you right now, when you do cold approaches, you will get rejected less if you don’t do it by yourself. Get a wingman, get a wingwoman, get a dog or a cat to take with you…..cold approach at the end of the day is socializing and giving your woman your best overrall vibe, so you don’t want to come off as a creep or a predator.


You also want to dress pretty good while you’re doing it. A brown tweed blazer, with denim pants and matching shoes does it for me.

 

[GoodMan32]

What if a man only does one of the two: Approaching more gals

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[Bokanovsky]

You also want to dress pretty good while you’re doing it. A brown tweed blazer, with denim pants and matching shoes does it for me.


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You may be able to rock that outfit if you look like Justin Bieber but many guys would look like absolute clowns dressed like that.

Style is individual. Your height, weight, facial features and skin color will all have a major impact on what looks good and what doesn't. You have to find what works for you.

 

[SW15]

1. Go to the gym
2. Approach more women

Men who need to meet more women and form new relationships need this most.

Men who are able to get pussie somewhat regularly don't need to approach as much, unless they fall into a cold streak.

Exercise is a great habit throughout life.

The way I did it was by going up to girls at the local mall and on the boardwalk at the beach each year on family vacations. Get comfortable being uncomfortable, get rejected a lot, understand why you got rejected, and then use that information to be better next time.

That can work. I don't know if that's the best way. I'm not sure a lot of men can plow through all the rejections that they'll take using a method like that.

Now go out into the world and do both these things for a couple of months, years, if you can, and I guarantee you'll have much more success with women than you would by trying to analyze your failed Tinder conversations.

There's an illusion of efficiency from swipe apps. Many men (and I think some women) like the idea of starting interactions while sitting at home looking unpresentable to the outside world. It takes effort to look presentable and go out into the real world and meet people. This is more typically done at a bar, but can be done in non-bar settings.

 

[cola]

Without overcomplicating things too much:

1. Go to the gym
2. Approach more women

I could get into WHY you should be doing these things and HOW they help, but I think it's pretty self-explanatory.

How do you get started?

1. Starting Strength is a great beginner program that I would recommend to anybody. I will say power cleans are a strange exercise where beginners could get hurt easily, so I would Google substitutes for that and pick whatever you think would be best for you.
2. The way I did it was by going up to girls at the local mall and on the boardwalk at the beach each year on family vacations. Get comfortable being uncomfortable, get rejected a lot, understand why you got rejected, and then use that information to be better next time.

Now go out into the world and do both these things for a couple of months, years, if you can, and I guarantee you'll have much more success with women than you would by trying to analyze your failed Tinder conversations.

I wanna add a tip I think may be helpful..

You don’t have to go straight up news anchor mode while approaching women. You know walking up to random chicks and hopping straight into interview mode ..

You can simply say “Hey, you look nice today” while passing by and by her reaction you will know, or as time goes by and you get more experienced with women will learn when to leave it alone at that or continue ..
it’ll take you far just to make a habit of just saying that to every girl you walk pass in the grocery store, mall, post office wherever

One good way to know is she’ll start pruning, or hold eye contact a bit longer than normal or compliment you back..

And when you get that nice gym body you’ll get more IOIs back. It’s just something about seeing a guy and can tell he works out regularly, It just says “Winner”

great post

 

[cola]

Without overcomplicating things too much:

1. Go to the gym
2. Approach more women

I could get into WHY you should be doing these things and HOW they help, but I think it's pretty self-explanatory.

How do you get started?

1. Starting Strength is a great beginner program that I would recommend to anybody. I will say power cleans are a strange exercise where beginners could get hurt easily, so I would Google substitutes for that and pick whatever you think would be best for you.
2. The way I did it was by going up to girls at the local mall and on the boardwalk at the beach each year on family vacations. Get comfortable being uncomfortable, get rejected a lot, understand why you got rejected, and then use that information to be better next time.

Now go out into the world and do both these things for a couple of months, years, if you can, and I guarantee you'll have much more success with women than you would by trying to analyze your failed Tinder conversations.

Just peeped you’re in Wilmington, that’s a hour away if you ever wanna get some drinks or something brother ..

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

Without overcomplicating things too much:

1. Go to the gym
2. Approach more women

I could get into WHY you should be doing these things and HOW they help, but I think it's pretty self-explanatory.

How do you get started?

1. Starting Strength is a great beginner program that I would recommend to anybody. I will say power cleans are a strange exercise where beginners could get hurt easily, so I would Google substitutes for that and pick whatever you think would be best for you.
2. The way I did it was by going up to girls at the local mall and on the boardwalk at the beach each year on family vacations. Get comfortable being uncomfortable, get rejected a lot, understand why you got rejected, and then use that information to be better next time.

Now go out into the world and do both these things for a couple of months, years, if you can, and I guarantee you'll have much more success with women than you would by trying to analyze your failed Tinder conversations.

Good sh!t (for change).

I've preached both of those sermons before, and still do.

Going to the gym ain't necessarily a magic pill, but whether you are cold approaching or OLD, your body game is your first line of offense.

Both are great for mind, body, and spirit.

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[Solomon]

3. Change your mindset- To many guys have toxic(or limited belief) mindsets or defeatist mindsets which creates a paradox of their own fears. For example guys obsessed with LMS but have the personality, charm, of a doorknob. No amount of LMS will fix this, we even have had several members who have achieved LMS and still failing. Most guys I have met of here in real life in the past their issues weren't their looks, or even money but their mindsets held them back from women. Some were able to change this over time (one guy married a hot Asian woman) others weren't.

I'll tell you this no one wants to hang out with a guy who is a whinier or complainer in real life. I don't care how "Red pill" you are that shyt is a turn off. This is why I refuse to meet any members from this forum any longer. I rather hang out with Chad and Tyrone then "HardcoreRedpiller2025" from this forum. Who wants to hang out with a Debbie downer? have you noticed that men who are successful with women never or seldom complain about them?

 

[Solomon]

Another thing I would add is social skills a lot of men lack charisma, charm, wit and a sense of humor. If you're lacking these the best way to improve them is by 1. Get a sales job (even part-time) 2. read a lot of books and watch movies. 3 practice, practice, practice

I can speak from personal experience as a "late bloomer' that social skills make a difference I've gone out with guys better looking than me but their results were shyt why cause they lack social skills. I have gone out with guys richer than me and same thing. Social skills is becoming a lost art due to most of us (particularly men) spending time behind a computer or video game stream and this is becoming far more apparent with the younger generation who severely lacks in social skills.