How to respond after GF sent me this text message?

[TheGambino]

"Yeah, I'm glad you brought it up. I've been thinking the same thing too. No point dancing around. Go ahead and make it a permanent break."

Just send this, believe me, BEST RESPONSE EVER. Don´t say anything else, just this.

 

[noBSgames]

Just send this, believe me, BEST RESPONSE EVER. Don´t say anything else, just this.

Yep and save yourself weeks or months of more headaches and dancing around

 

[RalphaWreck]

I'd say absolutely nothing.

 

[devilkingx2]

Tell her that the experience of dating her has made you realize you were gay and ask if she knows any cute boys

 

[Trump]

“Hi, i hope you're doing well. Listen im sorry i havent spoken to you all week but I needed sometime to think about some things. I really like you and i think this relationship is alot of fun. But theres been some distance between us lately and the communication hasn't been that great. Im not saying this to hurt you but I think we both need some time apart right now to evaluate some things.”

I didn’t respond to her. What should I say and do from here?

"OK while you are evaluating things I need secretary for the new condo development I am building. If you do a good job I'll make sure you get $4,000/month. Let me know by tomorrow evening."

 

[highSpeed]

Girlfriend of over a year sent me this text message. How should I respond? Here is the message.


“Hi, i hope you're doing well. Listen im sorry i havent spoken to you all week but I needed sometime to think about some things. I really like you and i think this relationship is alot of fun. But theres been some distance between us lately and the communication hasn't been that great. Im not saying this to hurt you but I think we both need some time apart right now to evaluate some things.”

I didn’t respond to her. What should I say and do from here?

Do you really need advice as to what to say and do from here? I mean, she's telling you she's done. Tell you what, run over there, beg her for forgiveness, tell her you'll do whatever it takes to save the relationship and then report back here how that goes for you.

 

[Dash Riprock]

This is fine to say but I always think it's better to say nothing. THAT really gets the hamster wheel spinning.

Good advice. Agreed. The "permanent break" might be easy for @El Payaso to recommend, but he doesn't have a year invested in the relationship. I think it's too "knee-jerk" and almost comes across as you be butthurt which you don't want. I would just say something like, "Hi. Yeah, things have been a bit awkward and cumbersome lately so a break would be good for both of us. Take care." And leave it at that and go NC until she reaches out. NO CHECKING IN.

Good luck.

 

[jthomp]

Good advice. Agreed. The "permanent break" might be easy for @El Payaso to recommend, but he doesn't have a year invested in the relationship. I think it's too "knee-jerk" and almost comes across as you be butthurt which you don't want. I would just say something like, "Hi. Yeah, things have been a bit awkward and cumbersome lately so a break would be good for both of us. Take care." And leave it at that and go NC until she reaches out. NO CHECKING IN.

Good luck.

I still haven’t replied yet. Is it too late to say something now? Should I just let it go?

 

[devilkingx2]

I still haven’t replied yet. Is it too late to say something now? Should I just let it go?

why bother? can you think of anything to say that'll magically change her mind?

 

[Dash Riprock]

I still haven’t replied yet. Is it too late to say something now? Should I just let it go?

You dated for a year so you should respond. I think no reply and permanent break are both too extreme. I would simply agree, be polite, and then go NC for a week or two but let her reach out. This is imperative.

Dating for a year is quite commendable in today's love 'em and leave 'em - one foot out the door culture.

 

[El Payaso]

Good advice. Agreed. The "permanent break" might be easy for @El Payaso to recommend, but he doesn't have a year invested in the relationship. I think it's too "knee-jerk" and almost comes across as you be butthurt which you don't want. I would just say something like, "Hi. Yeah, things have been a bit awkward and cumbersome lately so a break would be good for both of us. Take care." And leave it at that and go NC until she reaches out. NO CHECKING IN.

Good luck.

Sigh. I would take the time to explain why you're wrong but it's not even worth it. No, I don't have one year invested in his relationship but I've been through the exact same thing he's experiencing right now.

 

[Dash Riprock]

No, I don't have one year invested in his relationship but I've been through the exact same thing he's experiencing right now.

And you know this definitively by his one post?

 

[Fireballs]

I still haven’t replied yet. Is it too late to say something now? Should I just let it go?

Do what you want but if a girl broke up with me via text she would not get a reply.

Second best option is to text "ok" and go NC

 

[Dingo]

She is already screwing someone else...so there is no need to be polite.

Use Payaso, marmel or monsterDJ responses...

The just "OK" sounds butt hurt...

 

[Chev.Chelios]

best thing is to say.. "okay if breaking up makes you happy that's all that matters, probably shouldnt talk for awhile to avoid weird drama no hard feelings!"

go no contact for life.

unless she walks back into your life by her own will alone you will never see her again.

but from now on you are to say no and invest NOTHING into her. not even your thoughts should be invested, no meeting her anywhere, no calling her or texting, give absolutely nothing and make her do everything. since she cut it off and found a new cck to ride on.

read poons the power of saying no and apply that %100. (; works amazing. best feeling in the world saying no to your exs reaching out for attention and they come to your house in the middle of the night for a validation bang.

she will contact you soon. saying things like

"how are you?
you: busy no we shouldn't talk

"do you hate me now?"
you: no

"want to get coffee?"
you: no

"please just talk to me"
you: no

"I miss you alot and regret breaking up it was a mistake"
you: no you don't

hahaha at first when you have soft feelings for an ex it's actually a real challenge saying no.. you get adrenaline rushes and feel bad for being rude, horrible nice guy chode act.

you should report back to us the results if you choose to do so it's funny

 

[El Payaso]

And you know this definitively by his one post?

Lol. I'm not gonna argue with you on this one. It's my advice. If you disagree, that's okay.

 

[Toddz]

I would just say "ok" then go ghost and begin to spin plates and date other women.

Let her evaluate whatever she needs to evaluate while you're dating other women. If she ever hits you up again, you will have the frame to move forward with her or choose to be with another woman that you like better. Simple

 

[lizardking82]

This situation has high potential to **** this guy up. He's here asking what to do, meaning he doesn't have the frame and the "natural" skills to go for it. Even if he does the first 2 things right, he will **** up the other ones.

If a woman needs some time apart from you, you don't need anymore time with this woman. I would drop her like a bad case of flees and move on to other women who appreciate your presence and attention in their lives. Don't hang around someone who needs to sit down and think "hmmm, do I need him or is he deplorable now". Never ends good.

 

[Alvafe]

I would just say "ok" then go ghost and begin to spin plates and date other women.

Let her evaluate whatever she needs to evaluate while you're dating other women. If she ever hits you up again, you will have the frame to move forward with her or choose to be with another woman that you like better. Simple

what? dating around so you can see if you stay with her or not? any break up is permanent, ther eis not temporary break up or getting back with exes

best responses was on the very first page, you agree with her end it and move on, best if you can **** her best friend or any of her friends just for fun

 

[soulforge]

I say go NC and don't say a goddam thing..

What will responding back with ok achieve? Yep fuk all. That could also come across as sounding butt hurt


total silence will spin her hamster into overdrive!

She wants you to respond back... Give her NOTHING

Let her wonder why she NEVER. heard anything from you again..

By not texting back, she will question herself and wonder if she meant anything to you.. You didn't even bother typing out a text