rearea said:
Blah blah blah.
The men on this site make bad choices......(cut out about three paragraphs).....Are there any grounded level-headed men on this site who dont lump all women together?
Are you lumping all men on this site together?
rearea said:
How am I being calculating? All I do is wait until I trust a guy. Which is never between dates 1-3. Ever- theyre still a stranger at that point. If I dated a guy friends, whom I knew well and trusted, perhaps Id break that rule but most of the guys Ive dated I knew very little about when I started dating them.
Yep, I guess I have no appeal outside of sex. I guess the 10 men that have asked me to be their gf didnt find me appealing other than sex.
You all crack me up. You all are such "black and white" thinkers. If I dont sleep with a guy in the first 3 dates, Im so cal-cu-lating (dun dun dun!!!!!) Drama queens
I'm going to give this one a shot. Reararea seems to actually be engaged in a logical discussion, not saying she's logical, but at least she's trying and responding for once.
If a girl sleeps with me on our first night out I don't give her any strikes for that, If she wasn't planning on it, I just chalk it up as her not being able to resist my charms, can't blame her for that.
I don't mind if we wait a few dates either, it's not that big of a deal to me. The only time it matters is when she turns it into a game and thinks that
that's how she's going to make me stick around, by not having sex with me. If you are a prize, which you seem to think you are, then you're not going to have a strong attraction to one hundred different guys. So, If the proper build up is there, if there actually is a
strong mutual attraction, then why shouldn't it be ok?
like other posters were saying: if
all a girl has to offer is sex, then yes, once the sex is over the guy will not want to be around. BUT,
If she has other redeeming qualities, like lets say, she's interesting or fun, doesn't expect flowers every time the guys sees her, has a good personality, doesn't mind paying for herself because she has a job too, isn't psycho, then why wouldn't the guy want to be around her....even after, OMG, they had sex.
If you go out with a guy, make him pay for everything, make him do all the work, are boring, feel that it's his job to impress you.....for 3 dates in a row and then finally on the 4th date of the guy jumping through hoops and emptying his wallet.....you have sex with him. No wonder he doesn't want to come back around. The ones that do (10 of them?) are all going to be betas for actually putting up with that kind of sh1t. Don't you see that? You don't want the guy that will follow your rules, because how you apply your rules is exactly what turns the good ones off.
And what's your explanation? Nothing to do with you of course. It's the guys fault. 10 guys asked you to be their girlfriend. What was wrong with those 10 guys? Did all they want from you is sex? Is that why they asked you to be their girlfriend? Or were they just not good enough for you? Why was that?