Hey fellas, so my -ex finally broke up with me. Bummed about it, then found a new girl in a club (22 years old) and managed to bring her back to my place for a one night stand. Felt pretty good about it. We even talked later over coffee and it seems like we have some real chemistry! Only problem is, she lives in a different state 6 hours away. She was visiting friends. She told me I was really cool, and she thought we had a lot in common, and to stay in touch. So I called her 4 days later, talked to her for 5 minutes, but she had to go. She said she would call me back later. She never called, and it's been 4 more days since then.
Now this is my first one night stand, and I really thought one would have a great chance after having sex, but it doesn't seem like she's that enthused given that she didn't call me back. I know it seems odd to try to make a ONS into a girlfriend, but we really did have awesome conversation along with being physically attracted to one another. She even said "I can imagine waking up next ot you every day" and "You're so gorgeous" as were having sex.
I'm wondering if she thinks of me as "The One Night Stand Guy" or has an extreme anti-slut defense kicked up. But I even read a book she had recommended and talked to her on the phone about it. I mean if that doesn't show I'm looking for more than just sex, I don't know what will.
Is it the distance? Or the fact that I'm 5 years older? I still want to try calling again. But I'm trying to figure out what to say. I could be straight up and tell her I think we have a lot in common and we could try to make it work, but I don't want to make an ass out of myself if that's against the "rules". I thought I'd just make it fun on the phone- fun and flirty. But that didn't work. Maybe I should be more direct? Not trying to stress her out lol.
Any thoughts on how one could proceed? Thanks!
Now this is my first one night stand, and I really thought one would have a great chance after having sex, but it doesn't seem like she's that enthused given that she didn't call me back. I know it seems odd to try to make a ONS into a girlfriend, but we really did have awesome conversation along with being physically attracted to one another. She even said "I can imagine waking up next ot you every day" and "You're so gorgeous" as were having sex.
I'm wondering if she thinks of me as "The One Night Stand Guy" or has an extreme anti-slut defense kicked up. But I even read a book she had recommended and talked to her on the phone about it. I mean if that doesn't show I'm looking for more than just sex, I don't know what will.
Is it the distance? Or the fact that I'm 5 years older? I still want to try calling again. But I'm trying to figure out what to say. I could be straight up and tell her I think we have a lot in common and we could try to make it work, but I don't want to make an ass out of myself if that's against the "rules". I thought I'd just make it fun on the phone- fun and flirty. But that didn't work. Maybe I should be more direct? Not trying to stress her out lol.
Any thoughts on how one could proceed? Thanks!