How to not be the old dude in the club

[Werman]

I solve the problem of not feeling weird about the places I go to by just giving a $hit.

I go to clubs and bars that interest me. If everyone is younger, great, if not, great. If you are sticking to places that are in tune with your interests, then chances are, you will be too busy enjoying yourself to feel weird, and the people there will be too busy hanging out with someone that they have something in common with to be concerned about your age.

This is especially good for the women there as you will already have tailor made ice breakers to start up convo's with. There is about at 99% chance that they won't care about your age either.

 

[MrLuvr]

I have dated plenty of younger woman so I am more than qualified to answer these questions. First of all I would like to say that if your 44 or for that matter 34 there are some 21 year old girls out there that will not date you plain and simple. ( Even if you do look like brad pitt. They will say your hot for an older guy but they still won't **** you unless your the real brad pitt).

I can speak for myself when I say this but I feel my game was better with 21 year olds when I was 28 than it is now. Will be better now than when I hit 39. But if you have your **** together and are a man in every sense of the word than you can have success with any age group. A stud 40 year old is better than an average 23 year old anyday. This being said you can't fool mothernature and the younger you are the better your chances are with younger woman.

The reason above is the reason why a man should consider marriage before he gets to be 50. Because once your 50 what kind of girl are you going to get? A girl with kids, a girl who has been divorced and a host of other things. And to the few 50 year olds on this forum that say I had a 26 year old flirt with me at the grocery store my question is I am not talking about flirting I am talking about fuking these girls. Do you guys actually fuk these girls? That is the sign of true interest level and trumps everything else.

First of all, what is your objective? Are you looking to have a relationship with a 21 year old? Or just have sex with her? I don't understand how you are saying that your game has gone downhill from 28 to 32. There is hardly a perceptible difference in your looks the moment you hit 30. I doubt you look very much different than you did when you were 28. So why the loss in game? Are you telling these women your age right up front? The loss in game doesn't make sense otherwise. And unless you are looking for some kind of relationship with the 21 year old, why even discuss age?

 

[MrLuvr]

In your pic you do look great for your age. I don't mean to call you out but do you or cableman bang any of these girls? Not saying you don't but if you aren't than I don't think you could preach about younger woman. Right now I am banging a 25 year old. If I am banging that same girl when I am 37 I am not going to be telling everyone how 21 year old girls are giving me IOI's unless I am actually fuking them.

When I was 37, I had a long term relationship with a 21 year old. Right now I am messing around with a 26 year old and a 27 year old.

I do get IOIs from early 20s girls. And even from girls that barely look legal age. I have actually changed my look a bit now. That picture is about 3 months old. I have grown my hair longer, the closest would be this style here:

http://mensfashion.about.com/od/goominghair/ss/longhairstyles_2.htm

Though not as long. The IOIs since I did that have actually doubled. Specially from the young ones. But, here is the thing, my game sucks. Just overall. I always had girlfriends that I met through various circles. Never really had to develop any serious game. If I am in a social circle, I can escalate. But, cold pickups, I just can't do them. That is my biggest problem holding me back right now.

 

[lookyoung]

First of all, what is your objective? Are you looking to have a relationship with a 21 year old? Or just have sex with her? I don't understand how you are saying that your game has gone downhill from 28 to 32. There is hardly a perceptible difference in your looks the moment you hit 30. I doubt you look very much different than you did when you were 28. So why the loss in game? Are you telling these women your age right up front? The loss in game doesn't make sense otherwise. And unless you are looking for some kind of relationship with the 21 year old, why even discuss age?

I really don't have any objective. But I think younger is the way to go. Woman age faster than men as everyone here could tell you. I have had sex with 21 year old girls over the last 1-2 years. I posted a thread on here about my dating situations with younger woman a while back but I wasn't able to finish it because of some nerds on the board and I had it locked for no reason. But back to the topic.

First of all I am going to be 33 in a few months and the style changed since I was 28. What do I mean by that? When I was 28 the jeans and the collar shirts were in and this suited me better. Also recently the spiky and the mohawk look is in which for me at my age and my occupation doesn't look good. Not saying I couldn't pull it off though I just wouldn't feel comfortable in it. A couple of girls that I fuked from the 21-23 year age bracket told me you should get the spiky look or the half hawk or whatever the 21 year old guys do. Now the get up in the morning shaggy looks is in. That isn't me. Also I am not a big fan onf Ed hardy t-shirts, another thing that is in style. I am more of an MMA fan so I do wear affliction t-shirts, I do bjj so I earned that right lol. Also when I was 28 I was more of a power lifter than I am now. So I looked huge in t-shirts and sweaters and girls would throw themselves at me more at the clubs. I have the leaner look now that I do brazilian jiu-jitsu training and cut down on the weights.


The style has changed and that has more to do with the game than with my looks. That being said I have dated plenty of younger woman and will continue to do so. I am open into getting in a relationship with anyone that is 18-31. IF a girl asks me my age I will proudly tell her. I look good for my age and girls tend to think I am hot. I have more game than probably 99.9999999% of the guys in there 20's out there. That being said we can't fool mother nature and this game is like sports the older you get you lose a little something in the physical department.

Cold pickups are tough for everyone. The success rate is low on these. I am a guy who has been clubbing at the trendiest nightclubs in Chicago over 1000 times for 13 years. I can tell you that social status is king with young woman at the nightclub. If you have social status you will have success with woman until your probably around 50. If you don't have any social status at the club its going to be an uphill battle unless your very good looking.

 

[ketostix]

I look good for my age and girls tend to think I am hot. I have more game than probably 99.9999999% of the guys in there 20's out there. That being said we can't fool mother nature and this game is like sports the older you get you lose a little something in the physical department.

Cold pickups are tough for everyone. The success rate is low on these. I am a guy who has been clubbing at the trendiest nightclubs in Chicago over 1000 times for 13 years. I can tell you that social status is king with young woman at the nightclub. If you have social status you will have success with woman until your probably around 50. If you don't have any social status at the club its going to be an uphill battle unless your very good looking.

So true. You have to have a somewhat youthful appearance and some game to compesate when you are way older. Social status will trump age and actually everything else. But due to the social convention age in itself is not social status. And you're right, you can't fool mother nature. When you are 30 something you are going to look older to younger girls and everyone else. Lookyoung, I got to give you credit for one thing at least. You can tell you are talking from experience and not just from ego and theory or what you wish was true. PU in club is tough for any age,. Hell, PU can be tough anywhere outside of a social circle. But if I had a dime for every 21 year-old guy with no game that had hot young girls on his nuts just because he was young, looked good (easy when you are 21) and acted like an idiot.

 

[MrLuvr]

I First of all I am going to be 33 in a few months and the style changed since I was 28. What do I mean by that? When I was 28 the jeans and the collar shirts were in and this suited me better. Also recently the spiky and the mohawk look is in which for me at my age and my occupation doesn't look good. Not saying I couldn't pull it off though I just wouldn't feel comfortable in it. A couple of girls that I fuked from the 21-23 year age bracket told me you should get the spiky look or the half hawk or whatever the 21 year old guys do. Now the get up in the morning shaggy looks is in. That isn't me. Also I am not a big fan onf Ed hardy t-shirts, another thing that is in style. I am more of an MMA fan so I do wear affliction t-shirts, I do bjj so I earned that right lol. Also when I was 28 I was more of a power lifter than I am now. So I looked huge in t-shirts and sweaters and girls would throw themselves at me more at the clubs. I have the leaner look now that I do brazilian jiu-jitsu training and cut down on the weights.


The style has changed and that has more to do with the game than with my looks. That being said I have dated plenty of younger woman and will continue to do so. I am open into getting in a relationship with anyone that is 18-31. IF a girl asks me my age I will proudly tell her. I look good for my age and girls tend to think I am hot. I have more game than probably 99.9999999% of the guys in there 20's out there. That being said we can't fool mother nature and this game is like sports the older you get you lose a little something in the physical department.

So your game hasn't really gone down now because you are almost 33 years old now, has it? It is not directly age related at all. What is changed his how you feel, how you dress, how you look etc. I am pretty sure if you went back into the club with that same body you had at 28, the reaction wouldn't be that much different to what you had back then. And that fohawk hairstyle is for kids. If a girl is into guys with that hairstyle, she is a waste of time anyway. There are plenty of them who are not though. Like I said, when I grew my hair out, even a bit, I have had girls from their teens and up giving me looks.

Cold pickups are tough for everyone. The success rate is low on these. I am a guy who has been clubbing at the trendiest nightclubs in Chicago over 1000 times for 13 years. I can tell you that social status is king with young woman at the nightclub. If you have social status you will have success with woman until your probably around 50. If you don't have any social status at the club its going to be an uphill battle unless your very good looking.

I don't go for club pickups at all. I always sucked at them, even when I was in my 20s. I am going to try and work on my game now. I think it is much more conducive to finding girls who are not into the young, clubber type guys with fohawk hairstyles you are talking about.

 

[Slickster]

Wow! What the hell is going on here?

Although this thread has sparked some good discussion the whole premise just reeks! Old guys worrying about how to fit in with the young crowd. How uncool is that!? Seriously!

Sure there are lots of 18-22 yr olds who are hot but there are just as many 25 and up who are just as hot and way more mature in the head. For my time they are much more worth the trouble. If you can get it young, good on ya but don't waste a second worrying about it!

Some young chicks will go for an older guy and some won't. No different than some women will find you attractive and others won't give you the time of day. Are you going to worry about that? Give me a break!

Wish I had longer to write. I'm off to play hockey with my old ball buddies. Afterwards we'll be hitting the local watering hole for some drinks. Long weekend is here and there will be tons of young hotties there. I'll be sure to chat-up everyone I can. I think I'll ride my longboard down. Not to appear young but because I fvcking feel like it and it's fun. I'll wear jeans and a t-shirt and trust me I'll do just fine.

Age isn't a number, it's a state of mind fellas.

 

[Magma]

Nice post OP.

Seconded. Scarmouche is more like a ScaraDOUCHE with that post.


I would like to stress the point about dress. How you look is going to communicate a LOT about yourself. By the time we're in our 30's and beyond, we should be well along in our careers and have our shyte together financially. Our dress should reflect that fact.


In the end, age is nothing.

I am dating a girl who is my age, but has friends who are 23-24. I met her friends for the first time last night when we all went to a concert. The younger girls all gave me a 10 on their bangability scale (as told to my date, who relayed that fact to me later, whilst in bed after having drunken concert sex). I like to think that I'm becoming more "seasoned." In fact, a majority of the women I've banged in the last six months have all been under 25.

Age is nothing. Besides, we all know that women are attracted to status and power. And that is something that isn't achieved before you're 30 (except in rare cases).