Originally posted by myfriendblu
Has nothing to do with insecurity. It has EVERYTHING to do with the fact that a guy girl friendship has NOTHING to do with friendship. Its a fallacy, and a friendship based on lies. The male doesn't like her as a friend, bottom line. He wants to sleep with her.
It has become increasingly obvious to me that both you and PRL are just too f*cking stupid to have any concept or clue of how the world works. Like I said earlier, if it makes you feel better to lock your girl (assuming you can get one) away from all male contact because you're afraid that she might have sex with one of them (but you're not insecure!), then go for it. I honestly don't f*cking care. You're wrong, I think deep down you know you're wrong, but who really f*cking cares, honestly?
Let me tell you a story gio, my angry dj friend from detroit. 5 or 6 years ago I knew this smokin hot chik, we'll call her HB9. Well, I was all AFC over HB9 and of course I tried the "friends with the hope for sex oneday" approach with her. Yep, me and about 20 OTHER GUYS. This chik had nothing but male friends. Dozens of them. All the classic attnetion whor traits (very attractive/dresses extremely well and revealing/lots of guy friends) Anyhoot she of course had a BF at the time. Well fast forward a month or two in the relationship and HB9 gets Herpes. Not sure how/who gave it to her, but the cat was out the bag (the BF was pissed, claimed she gave it to him, and basically told the entire world about it). And then guess what happened? Funny thing, it was. All of a sudden, her 20 somethin male friends stop calling. All of a sudden, they don't wanna hang out. All of a sudden, her male friends are gone. But why? I thought they were just friends, right? It shouldn't matter that she got herpes, right? Its not the friggen ebola virus! It shouldn't matter, cause they don't wanna have sex with her, right? WRONg WRONG WRONG. When all the guy friends found out, they were friggen gone. GONE. Of course they all had intentions of somehow trying to get in her pants. Once the goods were tainted, they high-tailed it away from her. All she had left were a couple of close GF's and her family. Sad, it really is. But it also proves a point. A guy is NEVER sincere in his friendship with a girl. NEVER. There are ALWAYS underlying intentions. 
Oh, wow! Now I'm totally convinced based on this one story that all girls are f*cking their male friends behind my back!
Let me tell YOU a story. I knew this one girl, she's maybe an 8.5. We've been friends for about four years. When movies like "Matrix" came out, my girlfriends haven't liked them, but she's a huge fan so we'd go catch those movies together and basic "friends" stuff like that.
I don't try to get into her pants, and guess how many times we've had sex? Zero. She's got other guy friends, too. Guess how many times she's had sex with any of them? Zero.
She has a boyfriend who is a real good guy, and there's no way in hell she would cheat on him with any of her guy friends. And he's not so insecure that he would try to stop her from hanging out with any of her guy friends.
Now here's the thing. SOME girls will have sex with their guy friends. However, these girls will f*cking cheat whether they have guy friends or not. If there are no guy friends available, they'll f*ck the cashier at the gas station, or the guy that bags their groceries, or whatever. You can't keep a girl away from contact with all guys, and if you feel like you have to then you get rid of the b*tch because she isn't worth keeping around.
The basic fact of life... some girls are sl*ts, others aren't. The sl*ts may have sex with their male friends, POSSIBLY, although it is still much, much more likely that they'll end up with total strangers rather than "friends" that they "think of like a brother".
But it seems to be your position that ALL girls are sl*ts. That's a false idea, but it's a very common one among recovering AFCs. As one moves from AFC to DJ, they go through a series of stages.
- IGNORANCE. At this stage, you are the AFC. You don't know anything about DJing, and you continue to let girls walk all over you.
- ANGER. This is usually the moment that triggers the journey into becoming a DJ. It usually happens when a guy gets cheated on or otherwise sh*t on by a woman he treated like a princess, or when a guy realizes that being "nice" isn't going to get him any women. This phase typically overlaps the next one.
- BITTERNESS. You begin to think that women are the enemy. You stereotype women and make mass generalizations about them, saying that they are all b*tches and sl*ts. This bitterness gives you a very jaded outlook regarding relationships with women.
- PUA. Sometimes, the bitterness lingers into this stage, others it has been worked out. In this stage, you try to date/f*ck as many women as possible. Some guys are content to stay in this stage because this is the extent of what they want.
- DJ. The world loses its black-and-white tint and begins to be seen in shades of grey. The DJ realizes that the behavior of some women does not necessarily reflect on the gender as a whole. The DJ determines what he wants regarding women and then he goes after it, and gets it.
You and PRL are obviously still at the anger/bitterness stage.
