how to make gf jealous

[backbreaker]

If I ask my GF to come with me to a movie and she says, "no, i want go to go out with Brad, and my friends" they yes, we will have a problem. Id on't have a problem with you having friends, but I come before them. I can even understand if for some reason you havn't seen your friends (and not just guys who want to bang you, real friends) for a month, and you would like to see them one night. I'm cool with that, because I am the same way.

My problem comes in only if you constantly are trying to go out with other guys. Even then, the problem is still probably me, because you are going somewhere else to look for what I should be giving you. That's not disrespect, that's not taking care of business.


Plus, if you are on top of your game, you should have other women friends anyway.


Plus, who said that there were 4-5 guys anyway? Now, If I missed something and they orginal poster DID say that she was Constantly going out with 4-5 guys, then PuertoRican_lover, me and you ARE on the same page. That's just plain rude and disrespectful. However, 1-2 guy friends, I don't see anyting wrong, even if I know that they are trying to bang my babe.

 

[undesputable]

Originally posted by DEKKA
first of all you can't make somebody jealous if a.)they have lots of options or b.) they have low interest level in you. if you are in either one of those two boats with this one you're s.o.l.

yes you can make somebody jelous even if they have lots of options....they might have a lot guys to go for, but most likly the one hardest to get or the one fooling around with other girls is the one shes going to go after, and considering its his gf, she obviously has at least some interst in him still.

jelousy is a really strong emotion.... make her jelous, thats a good idea. all you need to do is flirt with other girls.

 

[edgewater]

dude I've been there before on this one - let me guess she seem a little less affectionate around you lately too? She talks about another guy and worries about him and doesn't seem to care for you as much? You feel like snapping and going WTF IS YOUR OBSESSION WITH etc etc.

Well whatever you do... DON'T ACT LIKE IT BOTHERS YOU! I did, and I got BURNT!

Next opportunity you get with a group situation flirt the **** out of one of her friends or anyone who you can get to show interest in you. Be the life of the party the alpha etc all the things that are the essence of a DJ and you will DWARF this punk she thinks is the real deal.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by newbeginning
my girlfriend of 6 months always go out with male friends, one in particular she considers "good friends." What to do what to do. Im at the point where i just wanna call it quits. I want it all or nothing. How had you DJs counter this. I love her enough to stick around and see if i can do anything about it. If not then i will walk. Thanks

You young kids who are tolerable of your girl of 6 months going out with men and leaving you at home obviously know very little about women!

There is not one woman who would allow 'her man' to hang out and entertain himself with girls and not give him hell for doing so. Yet you fools say this is ok! Huh??? Women get upset when you leave them alone on the weekends and hang out with your guy friends, let alone a group of girls.

Newbeginning - what did you tell her, if anything?

 

[newbeginning]

hey everybody, i've been away for awhile and didnt think my thread would get this out of control.

Well, lemme explain the situation. We both have very busy schedule and can only spend time with each other 1 nite out of the whole week, if we're lucky. She'd make plans with a male friend saying that she hasnt spent time with him lately. Even canceled our plan once. Now i dont mind her having male friends, i just dont appreciate having to fight with her "friends" for her time. I have made an effort to stop talking to MOST of my female friends out of respect for her. Maybe im expecting too much, but i get very dissapointed when the person i want to spend all my free time with turn the unspoken offer down to do something else. Another thing, never once did she ask me to hang out with them in a group, they always go to the movies and dinner alone. I'm tired of all this bull****, gonna call it quits soon. Too bad she's the best i ever had.

 

[biker_gixxer]

Originally posted by Capt.Jack Sparrow
This was actually the same problem with me. My girlfriend hangs out with these dudes and also considers one a 'good' friend. She flirted with him a lot and I finally called her out.

I told her to quit the flirty $h!t with this guy and she hasen't done it since..

- CJS

Exactly what I would have done. A woman will respect you for coming out and being a MAN and not a wussie boy.

 

[myfriendblu]

Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova


I don't know exactly what you expect, but girls are going to have friends that are guys. You can tell this chick to take a hike, but the same problem will be there with the next girl, and the next.

BS, BS and more utter BS.

People, there are no such thing as "Guy Friends". They are guys that are hanging around your women waiting for a chance to have sex with her. Maybe they don't have the balls to admit it, or they are waiting for you to screw up, but thats the just of it. Male friends are UNACCEPTABLE, especially if she is hanging out with them outside of work and especially away from you.

The current STR Im hanging out with has NO guy friends she hangs out with. NONE. I wouldn't put up with it. And you shouldn't either.

Carefull, male friends are a sure sign of an attention whor.

If anything has anything to do with self esteem, its not this guy. Its perfectly natural for a guy not to want his girl hanging around other guys. In fact, the only low self esteem around here is his GF. Low self esteem chiks hang around men and avoid other women to boost their low self esteem.

NEW beginning, quick question - how old are you and your GF?

Oh yea, I also love it how that idiot crazy kid thinks his last word is best and then closes the thread. Nice. Moron

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

myfriendblu, you're a moron. No, scratch that. You're an insecure moron.

I have friends that are chicks that I wouldn't mind f*cking, and other friends that are girls that I enjoy hanging out with but would never want to f*ck. If you don't think chicks are the same way, you're an even bigger idiot than I thought, and since you can't add one to infinity, I don't think that's possible.

I've said it before, and I'll say it again. This site is about getting women, not slaves. Chicks have free will, and what they decide to do with that is what determines if she's worthwhile or not. If she has friends, fine. If some of those friends happen to be male, fine. If she f*cks them, then f*ck her all to hell. She used her free will to show you that she's not worth your time.

But if you want someone you can control, who does and says everything you tell them to, then your best bet would be to brush up on your ventriloquism and buy yourself a Real Doll. Much less hassle and probably less expensive in the long run.

 

[element]

If there was something going on, she would hide it a lot better than that. Obviously if someone has wrong intentions or plans, they wont be so free to share with you any information about it.

Chill. Give all the freedom and trust you can. It's just not worth it to stress out over something that could all beinside your head. I worried about a 'friend' once and while I was freaked out about that, I missed what happened in front of me.

 

[Hamaraz]

Ultimatum.

Those guys who are her friends are waiting for the right oportunity to bang her.


It is very possible those guy friends are part of her "roster." The are her backups if she decides she wants to leave you/ or you leave her.

IMO, you are just at the top of her current roster and you may be relegated to the "friend" list if she finds someone better then you.


That is the way it is with chicks who has alot of guy friends and always has to have a boyfriend which I bet is the case with your girl

 

[DJ Alejandro]

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
What kind of a woman goes out alone with say 4 or 5 guys and none of them are her boyfriend??

a few girls i know. they're friends with the guys. sure they also go to this hotel every now and then. just recently, actually.

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Why would she constantly do this?

cuz she was always a ho to begin with. at least my friend is.

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Is this a woman that you would want a ltr with or one to call 'girlfriend'???

never!

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Women with this mindset are loose women who like to drink, dance/grind and get fvcked by various dudes - in time this will be the outcome if she is not doing so already. This is part of the independent hor mindset and it is only a 'Chump" with a capital C who would have a 'committed' relationship with such a ho.

so true. when you get a girlfriend, she isnt supposed to be playing the single girl anymore. she's supposed to behave as expected of a girlfriend.

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
You Young DJ's who allow such disrespect from your girl are far far far removed from the Don Juan status and are more in line with the CHUMP status.

never allow this to happen. i made a mistake before.

 

[DJ Alejandro]

Originally posted by newbeginning
She'd make plans with a male friend saying that she hasnt spent time with him lately. Even canceled our plan once..

this is just WRONG.

Originally posted by newbeginning
Another thing, never once did she ask me to hang out with them in a group, they always go to the movies and dinner alone.

just one male friend? this girl really deserves to be taught a lesson. she actually plays you for a fool. she thinks she can, dont let her get away with it. putang ina niya!!!

Originally posted by newbeginning
I'm tired of all this bull****, gonna call it quits soon. Too bad she's the best i ever had.

ive been there. always know its all about balance.

 

[collegeboi]

good points on both sides

I've lurked this board for sometime now, and I have a lot of respect for this community, but having experienced what this guy is talking about and debated the same things myself (am I insecure? is it right for her to have guy friends? when/where do I draw the line?).

I recently broke up with my girlfriend of many years, and she, when we broke up, ended up fvcking most of the people she was friends with when we were together (we were each others' firsts and only before).

It's true -- girls are friends with guys most often because they like her and/or she likes them (as in, if you weren't around she'd be banging them -- the non AFCs that is).

While I'm fairly certain my former girlfriend never cheated on me with one of these friends, the guy whom she considered one of her closest male friends is the guy she most recently slept with (she also slept with one of his buddies weeks ago, whom she was friends with too).

I think there is a lot of truth to the idea of not letting your girl go out with other guys, but I also believe it strongly depends on the girl. I think there is a lot of truth to what Myfriendblu and PuertoRican_lover have said.

Myfriendblu has it right on the dot, most of the girls to worry about are the girls who are attention hors. My ex-girlfriend does not like being friends with girls and really only likes being friends with guys, because as she once put it -- it feels good to be wanted and desired and have the attention, and girls are competitive and b!tchy and frightening (i.e. she needs sexual attraction to make friends). These girls have sh!t for self-esteem and need many men's approval/validation to make them feel good -- they are screwed up in the head and they will only screw YOU over.

On the other hand, there are SOME girls who are not psychologically impaired that can have "guy" friends, just as a guy can have "girl" friends -- it's all in the details of these friendships and your relationship and the girl that concern may arise. It's all about the girl and the dynamics of the relationship. Anyway, who the hell wants to be with an attention hor/low-self-esteem slut? (I did, my mistake).

A healthy girl will likely have a bunch of close girlfriends whom she truly relies on for emotional support when sh!t stirs up. It's when she doesn't really have any or very few girlfriends and relies on guys to give emotional support that you often have a problem (as in she talks with AFC#4 or alpha she wants to bang to bang #2 instead of Mary Bestfriend or Jenny Goodfriend).

And I really DON'T subscribe to the notion that it is your fault if your girl cheats on you. In a healthy relationship that girl should let you know what she is NOT getting or where the problem is and/or dump your a$$ before they let another dude poke her with his gun. Same applies for guys. Everyone, at times, during a relationship might feel the urge to cheat when something isn't going right, but you are never excused to do such a thing -- you either bring that sh!t up in conversation and work it out or you next the relationship.

Something you are NOT doing or doing may cause her to drift, but cheating is still wrong in all situations, in my opinion. Good girls don't cheat, they work problems or issues out with you or dump you.

Break-up cause of problems/unfulfilled needs, etc. then screw, not the other way around. If she's worth her salt she'll let you know in one way or another that won't involve fxcking another guy, and that applies for dudes too. If you don't get it (the problem causing her to drift) and it's still not right, she/he should next the relationship and then get on with the debauchery when officially single.

A girl who's willing to cheat because of problems just isn't worth it, I think.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by newbeginning
We both have very busy schedule and can only spend time with each other 1 nite out of the whole week, if we're lucky.

She'd make plans with a male friend saying that she hasnt spent time with him lately. Even canceled our plan once.

I get very dissapointed when the person i want to spend all my free time with turn the unspoken offer down to do something else.

Another thing, never once did she ask me to hang out with them in a group, they always go to the movies and dinner alone.

Listen to your self!! You are not her priority!!! She doesn't introduce you to her guy friends because she probably doesn't tell them she has a boyfriend!!! A decent woman will ALWAYS introduce her beau to her friends with pride and joy - SOMETHING IS WRONG!!

If you are seeing her one night a week this means she is screwing other guys!!!!

Don't listen to anyone of the effeminate generation who says you are being insecure or jealous or controlling if you don't want or let your girl 'hang out' with guys!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Newbeginning, you are being dosrespected and 'punked'!

WAKE UP! "THE MATRIX" HAS YOU...

Follow the Puerto Rican rabbit!


Post Script: Good job DJ Collegeboi - newbeginning should do what you did but he likes her more than he likes his self-respect!!

 

[myfriendblu]

Nice to see pretty much everyone exept the usual gio is in agreeance with me(which pretty much is the norm).

Just a little side note, which is the reason Im drudging up this post. My good friend of mine just had GF, now his ex, admit that she cheated on him. Guess who she cheated on him with? Yep, thats right. ONE OF HER GUY FRIENDS. Yep, some chum she hangs around with every now and then and talks to her on the phone. It was no suprise to me. Sad, it really is. . But I have known this all along

 

[RabidDog]

Here is another vote for "depends on the guy/girl involved" dynamic. I can't be friends with a girl.. and not want to pork her, and try later If I have my chance. But some guys I know easily can. Same way with the girls I've known in my life.

In this particular case, I smell trouble.. and this nose has never been wrong before.

 

[MetalFortress]

I have to say that "she won't cheat on you if you're totally satisfying her" is a load of crap. So if you're beating your wife and she doesn't cheat out of you out of fear, she's totally satisfying you? Some people don't just cheat because they're creeps and have no concept of monogamous relationships? Oh please. Saying that it's never the woman's fault is putting her on a pedestal simply for being a woman.

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Well, it's good to see that after all this time on the DJ boards, so many guys have finally figured out how to bag the woman of their dreams. All you have to do is be her friend.

Because we all know that no woman can resist the wily charms of THE MALE FRIEND.

Here's a question... if women shouldn't have male friends, because they'll just cheat on you with their male friends, then why do guys on this site avoid being "friends" with women they want to sleep with? I would think that if this whole "male friend" thing WASN'T some load of insecure bullsh*t, that everyone here who is claiming that women who have male friends will have sex with them would have no fear of the "friend zone".

Why is it that so many consider "Let's Just Be Friends" to be a kiss of death? I would think, given the opinions in this thread, that would be the ticket to the gravy train.

What's up?

 

[Eternal]

Originally posted by myfriendblu
Oh yea, I also love it how that idiot crazy kid thinks his last word is best and then closes the thread. Nice. Moron

I closed this thread because I thought it would get out of hand and my post was last becasue I just put in my comment. I'm not the first one to do that.

 

[flexion_]

My experience has been that if a woman has all guy friends that she hangs out with 1 one 1 then there is some major red flag that something is wrong with this woman.