How to have TOTAL CONTROL of your girlfriend

[Axcell]

The only FEAR you should be instilling is the FEAR of WALKING AWAY. Her actions have to merit your attention and be respectful OR you will WALK AWAY.

+1. As long as a girlfriend in a LTR has fear that you may leave her, she will NEVER leave you.
So, most of you guys are wondering: "Well, Axcell, how do I ensure she will always have a fear of me walking away from her?" Well, let her see you are POPULAR with other ladies and ladies like you, let her know you have other things to do in your spare time and you are busy. Remember, the girl is NOT your life, she's a part of it. Finally, make sure the moments you share are SHORT but MEMORABLE.

Many guys in LTR's feel that their relationship is starting to die down from the intial infatuation they once had. After a period when you and your girlfriend have been very much together and sharing everything, it is sometimes refreshing to spend time alone. You have not fallen out of love; you just both need some space. It will help you feel even closer. And yes, that leads to my final point: SPACE. Don't be up and all over your girl, let her spend time with her friends and don't be that overeactive and jealous boyfriend. If your girl starts talking with a few guys, don't start trying to "control" her by turning 180 degrees and acting totally different. It's only normal for an attractive (well, I'm hoping it's an attractive girl) to be surrounded by many guys! Brush it off, and always have the frame of mind that: "Hey, let all these guys talk to her because these guys are idiots that are making me simply look good!" If you display this type of CONFIDENCE when you are around her, she will note it and she will NOT leave you.
However, there are always exceptions to everything. If she starts getting "touchy feely" with another guy, etc etc... than you must take action, and instill fear that you might leave her. But I mean, if she originally had that fear that you might leave her, she wouldn't have done anything like that in the first place.

 

[Mavrick]

When is the best time to do this? Forget about her disrespecting you, what if you have just gone out a couple times and are trying to hit it.

And say you usually talk once a day, but you aren't sure if she is going to let you hit it.

Start getting scarce or keep chasing?

If you control the frame and have her wanting you badly, I promoise you that you can do what ever the f' you want.

 

[Mavrick]

A 180 is to do what ever is opposite of whatever you usually do. If you're passive and you usually don't care, then it's time to care and show your manhood. If you're always in her grill, it's time to f'ing lay off and let both of you breath. Give the girl some damn freedom.

A 180 is not about verbal abuse or intimidation, my friends. You can have tough love without being an assh0le.

Good luck!

 

[sosilky]

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I have to say something. I've been in two long term relationships where i what youu call, controlled the frame for about two or three years. Even using some of the tactics of the OP. The problem is after that time had passed the girls started want ing marriage and stuff like that. They became fed up with my controling the frame and wanted to find middle gornd or maybe even take over the frame themselves. I didn't know how to handle this. Everything went to ****. I think my recent relationships suffer early because of these experiences becasue i see what is coming down the road. I've notice there are these cultures like this one that are dedicated to getting laid and getting your girl back. Maybe its time to start talking about keeping your girl. And we all know that asking the girls at love shack is just as helpful with that as about getting laid or getting your ex back.

 

[Mavrick]

I have to say something. I've been in two long term relationships where i what youu call, controlled the frame for about two or three years. Even using some of the tactics of the OP. The problem is after that time had passed the girls started want ing marriage and stuff like that. They became fed up with my controling the frame and wanted to find middle gornd or maybe even take over the frame themselves. I didn't know how to handle this. Everything went to ****. I think my recent relationships suffer early because of these experiences becasue i see what is coming down the road. I've notice there are these cultures like this one that are dedicated to getting laid and getting your girl back. Maybe its time to start talking about keeping your girl. And we all know that asking the girls at love shack is just as helpful with that as about getting laid or getting your ex back.

DUDE!!!! WTF are you talking about? You lost your women because you lost yourself. You lost the mystery you had, and you became predictable. You lost your own happiness that was found in yourself. You lost the belief in yourself and the self-respect you had. If the things that are congruent with loving yourself show, then a woman will know the value she has in you. You don't need LS or SS. You need love, belief, respect, and unpredictability for yourself. Nothing else matters! Nothing!

 

[sosilky]

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wow are u insane? I just wasnt ready for what they were ready for. these tactics only last so long. sooner or later the girl is gong to want more from you, a ring a house a family. You can't keep pushing and pulling and playing games for ever with her.

 

[Mavrick]

wow are u insane? I just wasnt ready for what they were ready for. these tactics only last so long. sooner or later the girl is gong to want more from you, a ring a house a family. You can't keep pushing and pulling and playing games for ever with her.

The key is NOT games, but loving one's self. Having things outside of the relationship that he loves so that he won't be totally relying on the relationship for happiness and always having a willingness to walk away and not be co-dependent.

 

[Lucifero]

Best thread I've read on this site. (Besides Pook's stuff)

OP's is not a phaggot

 

[mercenaryblues]

How to be a complete douchebag should be the name of this post. I wouldn't touch the dusty, low self esteemed hoodrats with a ten foot pole who let this kind of **** land them in bed. Such a sad species we have become. For both sexes.

For **** sake better yourselves.

 

[zinc4]

This will be part 1 of my long series of posts on how to have control over everything when it comes to women/girls

I will not post long winded posts, no one needs nor wants to read those, and when guys who need help dont read, they will miss the golden advice

TOTAL CONTROL OVER YOUR GIRLFRIEND/RELATIONSHIP

This goes out to all the guys who come here asking and complaining about the women they date, I see tons of them, and mostly, everything has to do with DISRESPECT that your girlfriends have for you........here is how you make sure that your woman does NOT disrespect you, and how you can absolutely totally mentally and emotionally control her, its very simple:

1) make sure she knows how awesome and amazing you are when you and her are having a good time together, always have your game ON

2) when you feel the slightest disrespect, DO A COMPLETE 180 and go apeshyt on her and destroy her (verbally) for whatever little thing she did wrong........this WILL re-inforce in her mind that she needs to behave, because after all, she really wants to see the amazing side of you, not the p1ssed off side of you.........show her how bad you can get, and she wont ever act in a way that will bring that side out

3) give her amazing sex, make her cvm, and make sure to talk sweet/dirty to her while you are inside her (easy lol)

4) give her freedom to do whatever she does.......friends, mall, clubs, whatever, and make sure YOU are out doing the same shyt aka sports, gym, friends, parties

5) have other girls you are seeing.......this will prevent you from forming Oneitis, and trust me guys, when Oneitis forms, it will take over your soul and you wont even be able to give her #1 thru #4............its ok to see as many girls as you want until you are married


that is pretty much it, I hope you guys can learn from this, I am here to help

Disagree with #2.....going ape**** is unnecessary and ultimately gives her power over you. I used to do this all the time....ultimately...it is immature and unproductive...works in the short run not the long run...

It's better to let it be known early on you don't tolerate undeserved disrespect and to simply withdrawal your affection if/when this happens or tell her to leave if that's going to be her mindset. Never let a woman make you emotional or seem like you are emotional.

 

[Don-Kong]

This should be called out for what it is: Disgusting post title, retarded viewpoint about women, really backwards caveman thinking.

Zero self insight about being a better man, self respect or assertive behaviour.