How to have TOTAL CONTROL of your girlfriend

[Total Control]

CONTROL is a DEEP word. Some misconstrue it as POLITICALLY INCORRECT.
As Robert Greene says it is the feeling of helplessness and loss of power that creates unhappiness. No one wants less power; everyone wants more.

You need to CLARIFY what is being CONTROLLED as well as describe how should FEAR correctly be expressed.

You SHOULD not ever put FEAR of threats or violence onto another. You are not such a tough guy if I was her brother and put a bullet between your teeth. You cannot THREATEN and then expect no consequence.

The only FEAR you should be instilling is the FEAR of WALKING AWAY. Her actions have to merit your attention and be respectful or you will WALK AWAY.

This is a HEALTHY and CORRECT fear to portray. In other words, you will not tolerate anything less than what you ask OR you will walk away.

CONTROL is not healthy in regards to another entity. However, CONTROLLING the FRAME is key. Either you or her at any given point in the relationship CONTROLS the frame. The more often the frame is within your control, the more power you have in the relationship.

As the CARDINAL RULE, the one who holds the most power is the one who needs the other the least. Your ability to play by your rules of RESPECT keeps you in control of the frame.

But it is ultimately your CHARACTER as a MAN that will maintain control of this FRAME. You cannot repeatedly walk away. Inevitably it is your INTEGRITY and MASCULINITY that will shine that will LET the girl know she has to step up to the plate and bat 100%.

Your head is in the right place. Perception is key.

agree 100%

you have just made my point for the most part

to add to that.......there is nothing wrong with a woman having a FEAR of you verbally flipping out on her, that itself keeps her in check and makes her be a good little girl

to Reset and MNIM..........do u guys have a gf? have u guys had 10 girls fall in love with u in the last 3 years? if no, then follow my advice and u will get what u want, instead of being frustrated

 

[reset]

I've had several chicks "fall in love with me" in the last two years. MNIN gets laid consistently. I'm working on taking what I know and escalating. I know how to "train women", trust me.

Sorry but, flipping out is the way guru said. It's a sign you have no self-control.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

MNIN - if you said you were going to call... then call. A man should keep his word.

I plan on calling. But I said I would call "later". As in the weekend.

 

[iqqi]

I plan on calling. But I said I would call "later". As in the weekend.

Then quit trippin, punk.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Then quit trippin, punk.

Actually i thought about your advice, and I'm going to call right now! You are right, a man should keep his word. She might think i am a liar or something.















SIKE!

 

[Commando]

I plan on calling. But I said I would call "later". As in the weekend.

Reminds me of Swingers. How many days are you going to wait to call your honeys?

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Yeah Iqqi told me to call that 21 year old the "day after" I hit it the first time, even though some DJ's here said don't do it.

Guess what? The 21 year old left my ass so I am taking womens opinion with a huge grain of salt these days. Just do the opposite of what the women here say.

No offense Iqqi.

 

[iqqi]

to add to that.......there is nothing wrong with a woman having a FEAR of you verbally flipping out on her, that itself keeps her in check and makes her be a good little girl

flipping out on her = loss of control

You meet the right chick and she will see that you really have no control (of yourSELF) at all, and she will use that knowledge to destroy you.

 

[MrNotebook]

I'll have to disagree on this one. Isn't it more about controlling yourself as a man rather than controlling your g'friend? Blowing up at your g'friend shows you *lack* control, not have it. Besides, who wants a woman that can be controlled...to me its much more desireable to have a woman that can be herself (the question is can you handle it?).

 

[sosilky]

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Why would you want to punish your niece by walking away??

no I'm saying punish my girlfriend for not being there when my niece was sick

 

[iqqi]

Yeah Iqqi told me to call that 21 year old the "day after" I hit it the first time, even though some DJ's here said don't do it.

Guess what? The 21 year old left my ass so I am taking womens opinion with a huge grain of salt these days. Just do the opposite of what the women here say.

No offense Iqqi.

It isn't a formula, @SS.

You should just do what you think is right.

If the 21 year old left you, it had nothing to do with you calling her after you guys slept together.

Either you did something else wrong, like sucking in bed, or calling too much, or she just wasn't that interested to begin with.

But the decisions you make as a man (i.e. calling after intimacy, or keeping your word and calling when you say you will) should have nothing to do with some random chick, and trying to manipulate some outcome.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

It isn't a formula, @SS.

You should just do what you think is right.

If the 21 year old left you, it had nothing to do with you calling her after you guys slept together.

Either you did something else wrong, like sucking in bed, or calling too much, or she just wasn't that interested to begin with.

But the decisions you make as a man (i.e. calling after intimacy, or keeping your word and calling when you say you will) should have nothing to do with some random chick, and trying to manipulate some outcome.

LOL.. we have proof that acting like a d!ck and a b@stard keeps women around.

Just ask that lady from LoveCrap why she admitted it in all those threads she posted. you guys obsess over those @SSe's.. so come here baby!

 

[iqqi]

LOL.. we have proof that acting like a d!ck and a b@stard keeps women around.

Just ask that lady from LoveCrap why she admitted it in all those threads she posted. you guys obsess over those @SSe's.. so come here baby!

Well, most AFC's do need to go through the jerk phase. Have fun with that.

You are going to get what you ask for, then find out it's not what you want.

The Bad Boy Myth was written for you. Read it in a couple years, after you get "jerked" around by none other then yourself.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Well, most AFC's do need to go through the jerk phase. Have fun with that.

You are going to get what you ask for, then find out it's not what you want.

The Bad Boy Myth was written for you. Read it in a couple years, after you get "jerked" around by none other then yourself.

You all admit on your women boards it but you can't accept it here. You obsess over the distant jerks and fall in love with them.

You are still in denial.

 

[MacAvoy]

MNIN please start your own threads so you can have your lovefest with iqqi there and not hijack everyone else's threads.

 

[MacAvoy]

agree 100%

you have just made my point for the most part

to add to that.......there is nothing wrong with a woman having a FEAR of you verbally flipping out on her, that itself keeps her in check and makes her be a good little girl

to Reset and MNIM..........do u guys have a gf? have u guys had 10 girls fall in love with u in the last 3 years? if no, then follow my advice and u will get what u want, instead of being frustrated

I also agree that guru did an excellent job clarifying your post. I tried to do the same thing but everyone was so caught up in your lack of politically correct words. They missed the message.

 

[penkitten]

we will all cheap in a dollar , if the two of you would get a room already




april fools !

 

[iqqi]

MNIN is just mad because I am not falling for his Be a Jerk tactics. That is also why he thinks this forum will ruin me, because I can see through all of his tricks. What he doesn't realize, it that he has not mastered the tricks, which is why they don't work. And that when he DOES master them, he will find out that they don't mean jack.

 

[iqqi]

Stupid dbl posts.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

MNIN is just mad because I am not falling for his Be a Jerk tactics. That is also why he thinks this forum will ruin me, because I can see through all of his tricks. What he doesn't realize, it that he has not mastered the tricks, which is why they don't work. And that when he DOES master them, he will find out that they don't mean jack.

Yeah right I haven't even seen a pic yet why would I be interested in you?