How to get the guy to call instead of email
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flyinshark
Senior Don Juan
I always wanted to know this thing about girls. So why won't you ask a guy out, but wait for him to ask u out first?
Is it that society has always encouraged this, through movies and what not, that it's the guy's job to do that? Is it that u're playing hard to get? Or maybe it's a test, to see if he really likes u..
I wanna know!
You can show interest that you are interested in him. But don't go beyond that. If he really likes you and have the balls then he will ask you out. If he doesn't, then maybe he doesn't like you or lacks the balls. In either case, he is not worthy of your time.
skinnydart
Master Don Juan
You don't have to actually "ask him out". Although us guys may seem dense at times, just hint at it, he'll get the point eventually. Even if it's like "so are you going to that concert this weekened?" If he just says "yeah, how about you" you can say something like "I want to, but I don't know anyone else who's going" or something like that.
earthshyne
Senior Don Juan
Obviously your rule isn't working, so if it's not working then there's not much point in carrying on with it, is there?
If you're interested, quit playing games. Ask him out.
[Obviously your rule isn't working, so if it's not working then there's not much point in carrying on with it, is there?
If you're interested, quit playing games. Ask him out]
Sorry- my rule has worked with most men, so I won't change it for this one.
If you're interested, quit playing games. Ask him out]
Sorry- my rule has worked with most men, so I won't change it for this one.
earthshyne
Senior Don Juan
The best description of insanity is to do the same thing repeatedly and expect a different result.
Obviously, this fellow is not like all the others that you've played games with, which is possibly why they're no longer with you.
But, if you insist on these little mind games, then you're destined to be stuck with a man who falls for them. And what kind of fellow is that?
So, you've dug yourself a hole: If you keep to your own rule out of pride, you'll be missing on all the men of quality who have no time for wimmen who play games.
Hey, it's your choice, obviously. Which is more important to you? Your prideful rule, or the potential for a true soulmate?
Obviously, this fellow is not like all the others that you've played games with, which is possibly why they're no longer with you.
But, if you insist on these little mind games, then you're destined to be stuck with a man who falls for them. And what kind of fellow is that?
So, you've dug yourself a hole: If you keep to your own rule out of pride, you'll be missing on all the men of quality who have no time for wimmen who play games.
Hey, it's your choice, obviously. Which is more important to you? Your prideful rule, or the potential for a true soulmate?
WHOA! No need to go into some deep-psychological analysis of my life there. I do what I think works for me. I am not playing mind games - it amazes me that you jump to that conclusion becuase I have a rule. Like I said, I made the first move, I contacted him. The ball as they say is in his court.
simple, but works ...hey (name), we should go (insert activity here) sometime, give me a ring.
or just ...hey(name), we should go (insert activity here) sometime.
i've had girls do this to me all the time. well did it work in my case? no. I've already lost interest in them.
or just ...hey(name), we should go (insert activity here) sometime.
i've had girls do this to me all the time. well did it work in my case? no. I've already lost interest in them.
NewMan
Master Don Juan
Perhaps he's not interested?
I'm assuming you've dropped all the hint's that your are interested.
If that is the case, there is nothing more you can do - since you will not get off your high horse and put yourself at risk.
I'm assuming you've dropped all the hint's that your are interested.
If that is the case, there is nothing more you can do - since you will not get off your high horse and put yourself at risk.
My experience is this, most women are afraid to put themselves on the line and ask a guy out.
It is the same reason a guy wont ask out a girl that he likes.
Sounds to me NJgirl is afraid of getting rejected, so she plays off this fear as a rule, and puts the ball in his court.
My advice to you NJgirl, is this: You started the ball rolling, you finish it.
Let me give you a hypothetical situation. Say some guy initiated contact with you, Is it now your responsibility to ask him out? Because by your logic, he put the ball in your court.
Women want their equal rights, give them their equal lefts too.
It is the same reason a guy wont ask out a girl that he likes.
Sounds to me NJgirl is afraid of getting rejected, so she plays off this fear as a rule, and puts the ball in his court.
My advice to you NJgirl, is this: You started the ball rolling, you finish it.
Let me give you a hypothetical situation. Say some guy initiated contact with you, Is it now your responsibility to ask him out? Because by your logic, he put the ball in your court.
Women want their equal rights, give them their equal lefts too.
flyinshark
Senior Don Juan
Amazing! So, NJGirl, would u ask that hypothetical guy out?
Golden Arms
Master Don Juan
maybe he's just not interested
let it go
let it go
Dezperado
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Hypothetical games suck so much.
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