How to get respect from a woman
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YEP.. very true. I remember back in 2008 when Hillary Clinton was running against Obama and a lot of women I know hated Obama and thought he was trash.Who Dares Win said:
Guess what? Now that he has won two elections he is their God. Those same women who were trashing him before are willing to lick his ass today. Is it because of his polices? NO. Is it because of what he has done in this first term? NO. Its because he WON and he is "on top" in their eyes. Plain and simple.
Women like winners and hate losers. They don't care how you won, why you won or who you are as a person. Women ALWAYS assume whoever is on top is "God" and worthy of their vagina.
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The one who cares the least has the power. So very true and some kum in the eyes helps as wellHowiestern said:I'm still trying to figure out the exact recipe, although I've made some great strides in this area. After going thru one failed marriage, multiple short term girls, and a few long term relationships, here is what I have realized:
1. Respect isn't something embedded in a woman's DNA like it is a man's. Respect, honor, loyalty....those are all male traits. I've finally had to accept this.
2. Be very "firm"from the start. Define what is acceptable/not acceptable right away because once the cat is out of the bag its not going back in. You might as well throw in the towel.
3. Just go ahead and be yourself from the start. If you aren't romantic, don't pretend to be. If you are a cheap/thrifty bastard, don't pretend that you like spending money. If you like to fart and drink beer then let it rip on the first date!
4. When she pulls b.s. on you, call her out on it. Yes I know we are all typical guys who prefer to just let things slide and not make a big deal out of an issue because we don't want the **** storm of drama that comes with it, but just realize that all of their kicking and screaming is just "noise". Most of it doesn't mean a damn thing. Letting her get away with poor behavior breeds more poor behavior.
5. Treat them like dogs. Reward them with affection when they do good, scold them when they act out. Eventually all you will have to do is raise your hand and they will know whats up.
6. Understand most women are like small children. Treat them so.
7. Set the expectations high. Oh sure she will ***** and moan but let her, they are all natural complainers. She will still try to meet those expectations.
8. Let her care more about the relationship than you do. The minute you care more about it than she does will be the beginning of the end. Women are the needy ones who need relationships, so be a man and let her be a woman.
The one who cares the least always has the most power. You might think this is harsh but it works. Its kind of like buying a car. The minute you get needy and start caring too much about buying some new vehicle you will get screwed. The ones who get the best deals and what they want are the ones who don't care and have the ability to walk away when they don't get what they want.
9. Never be afraid to walk away. Once she figures this out she'll keep her trap shut more often.
10. Don't go over board on compliments on how great she looks, etc.
11. Don't ever buy them new boobs unless you want to get rid of them.
12. Kum in her hair.
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Beautiful list from Howiestern, and more gold from Aristippus.
To expound a little on that, I'll add what I've amassed from my experience dating, banging, and LTRing scores upon scores of women in the last 10 years:
-If you go through life expecting to find some rare women who will NEVER disrespect you, you are going to have a disappointing life with women. Even the most sparkling of gems will diss you at times and test the limits of your tolerance. It's just in their nature. YOU have to decide what's a correctable offense and what is grounds for dumping her.
-On that note, some stains just dont wash out. If you let a serious offense slide by, you may be Dunbar, because you have demonstrated you are inconsistent and will let some things slide. Therefore, like a child, she will always be testing you.
-Remember this maxim about men and women: Men primarily desire RESPECT; while women primarily desire LOVE. Dont expect them to just "get it". You have to teach them.
-Many women are disrespectful cvnts because men ALLOW them to be, and we live in a culture that fosters this attitude. There is no fear of physical reprimanding anymore, and even calling a woman out at the wrong place and time can get you in trouble (think work, social gatherings, etc).
-Start with good stock. You really cant turn a ho into a housewife, so select women who possess a bounty of good qualities from the beginning.
-HAMMER the first offense. You need to be really decisive and firm with her when she first disses you, but without flying off the handle.
-Be GOOD to her. Be fair, and try to make your existence together as much good feelings as you can. The vast majority of the time you should be having fun, making jokes, hanging out, and generally looking forward to seeing each other. Of course this is largely a function of your choice in women, but happy females are easier to manage.
-HIGH INTEREST. Highly interested women will be much more wary of losing your favor.
-Understand that there is nothing you can do to prevent a woman from disrespecting you. The only thing you have control over is your own actions. You can encourage respectful behavior with boundaries, and most of the time highly interested women will treat you respectfully. But once you start thinking you can prevent this from ever happening, you are deluding yourself.
-Dont ever be afraid to walk away. Always know in the back of your mind that you may reach a crossroads with her when you have to walk. THIS is your trump card as a man, but it comes at a cost. You leave the good things behind too. The sex, the affection, the companionship. It takes balls.
Once when I was young, my father told me something to the effect of "Treat any woman like queen and you'll win her favor".
Well dad, I love ya, but you're wrong on that one.
I say, "Treat a woman like a queen and she'll treat you like a servant. Treat her like a dog, and she'll beg you for a treat."
But I mean 'dog' in a positive way. You love your dog. You love to spend time with him, play with him, and have his affection. But sometimes your dog needs discipline. He needs boundaries, or he'll lead you wherever he wants to go then sh!t all over your house. Similar with women and respect. They need clear boundaries and clear consequences.
To expound a little on that, I'll add what I've amassed from my experience dating, banging, and LTRing scores upon scores of women in the last 10 years:
-If you go through life expecting to find some rare women who will NEVER disrespect you, you are going to have a disappointing life with women. Even the most sparkling of gems will diss you at times and test the limits of your tolerance. It's just in their nature. YOU have to decide what's a correctable offense and what is grounds for dumping her.
-On that note, some stains just dont wash out. If you let a serious offense slide by, you may be Dunbar, because you have demonstrated you are inconsistent and will let some things slide. Therefore, like a child, she will always be testing you.
-Remember this maxim about men and women: Men primarily desire RESPECT; while women primarily desire LOVE. Dont expect them to just "get it". You have to teach them.
-Many women are disrespectful cvnts because men ALLOW them to be, and we live in a culture that fosters this attitude. There is no fear of physical reprimanding anymore, and even calling a woman out at the wrong place and time can get you in trouble (think work, social gatherings, etc).
-Start with good stock. You really cant turn a ho into a housewife, so select women who possess a bounty of good qualities from the beginning.
-HAMMER the first offense. You need to be really decisive and firm with her when she first disses you, but without flying off the handle.
-Be GOOD to her. Be fair, and try to make your existence together as much good feelings as you can. The vast majority of the time you should be having fun, making jokes, hanging out, and generally looking forward to seeing each other. Of course this is largely a function of your choice in women, but happy females are easier to manage.
-HIGH INTEREST. Highly interested women will be much more wary of losing your favor.
-Understand that there is nothing you can do to prevent a woman from disrespecting you. The only thing you have control over is your own actions. You can encourage respectful behavior with boundaries, and most of the time highly interested women will treat you respectfully. But once you start thinking you can prevent this from ever happening, you are deluding yourself.
-Dont ever be afraid to walk away. Always know in the back of your mind that you may reach a crossroads with her when you have to walk. THIS is your trump card as a man, but it comes at a cost. You leave the good things behind too. The sex, the affection, the companionship. It takes balls.
Once when I was young, my father told me something to the effect of "Treat any woman like queen and you'll win her favor".
Well dad, I love ya, but you're wrong on that one.
I say, "Treat a woman like a queen and she'll treat you like a servant. Treat her like a dog, and she'll beg you for a treat."
But I mean 'dog' in a positive way. You love your dog. You love to spend time with him, play with him, and have his affection. But sometimes your dog needs discipline. He needs boundaries, or he'll lead you wherever he wants to go then sh!t all over your house. Similar with women and respect. They need clear boundaries and clear consequences.
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I have been on SS for over 6 months and I have to say this is probably the most important thread so far that every guy on here need to adhere to. There's truth to every poster on this thread, and I will pitch in my experience after 40 years, most of them beta-fagg0t like and I am guilty as charged.
However I have learned the secret to dealing with women after all the trial and error, I will only give you the Golden Rules I abide by, the rest fluctuates depending on the woman you are with (some chronological order in this)
RULE #1 - Start with GOOD STOCK as Colossus said. It is much harder to re-design a HO and teach her how NOT to open her legs to everyone other than yourself. This takes many 'NO's to women in dating before you accept the right one (that's right, dont' settle for 'convenience' of women coming into your life and fall in love with them, be selective)
RULE #2 - Establish your frame early on. You can never do it again later. Women don't want to have their nails painted pink and then later forced to get them painted blue just because you decide on it. Establishing frame means NIPPING SH!T behavior in the bud. Some poster said, women are like children - mentally once you get to know a woman intimately, there is ALWAYS a youthful, girly side to them ALL. They just put on the mask of adult-likeness during the daytime and with strangers. They require conditioning, like Pavlov-The-Dog, but you need to figure it out with HBx-The-****t and make her behave.
RULE #3 - Establish a deep emotional connection. Another poster mentioned he has p0rn ridden women for hours and still he earned no respect. This is TRUE. Women need a deep emotional connection with a man to hold respect and loyalty. You have to provide some vulnerability and allow her to access some deep parts of you, but only by perception (perception IS reality). Make her think she's got SOME of you but never all of you (or else you are fooked). This is not an AFC move. This is critical if you want a LTR. But if you are into hump & dump, don't come on here crying about not getting respect. You are picking to ride a Pinto instead of a Cadillac and expect leather interior for your soft arse.
RULE #4: Generate the perception of value in her eyes. You MUST always create the perception that you are highly wanted and valued by all women. Women are fiercely competitive with each other. They all want the man that ALL women want. You need to (not by actual action or else that will generate huge insecurity, some women lack confidence and will dump you because they don't think they can keep your interest) talk and act that you ALWAYS have options and other women and she's not 'THE ONE' bullsh!t . And you should be never afraid to walk away from her (or threaten to) as a lot of posters have said.
RULE #5: Generate positive feelings with her. A woman's hamster spins rapidly and out of control most of the time. Women having to join the workforce just in the last 50-60 years is not something natural for them. Women by nature can not handle stress and work responsibility the way men are designed to take mentally and emotionally. You need to make sure you = FUN and HAPPY in her experience with you. Never let boredom settle in, or else your arse will be out the door soon enough. Always laugh together, enjoy fun things together; it doesn't require money always, just good companionship. Women wants a man who will SPEND time with her, period.
RULE #6: RESPECT CHEMISTRY. That is the 'unknown' which is irreplaceable. Sometimes you just have to understand, some woman you are with has just that natural 'hotness' for each other and you just can't get enough. While other women, you have to imagine another women in your mind while you are doing it to get it up and going. Sometimes, despite all the SS-uaveness you have in your blood, it just won't work. CHEMISTRY is that unpredictable attraction (or lack of) that will determines how much effort you need to put in, or to let it go. It is totally out of your hands.
RULE #7: RESPECT AND LOVE YOURSELF. Don't ever let anyone treat you worse than your own dog.
With respect,
Exodus
However I have learned the secret to dealing with women after all the trial and error, I will only give you the Golden Rules I abide by, the rest fluctuates depending on the woman you are with (some chronological order in this)
RULE #1 - Start with GOOD STOCK as Colossus said. It is much harder to re-design a HO and teach her how NOT to open her legs to everyone other than yourself. This takes many 'NO's to women in dating before you accept the right one (that's right, dont' settle for 'convenience' of women coming into your life and fall in love with them, be selective)
RULE #2 - Establish your frame early on. You can never do it again later. Women don't want to have their nails painted pink and then later forced to get them painted blue just because you decide on it. Establishing frame means NIPPING SH!T behavior in the bud. Some poster said, women are like children - mentally once you get to know a woman intimately, there is ALWAYS a youthful, girly side to them ALL. They just put on the mask of adult-likeness during the daytime and with strangers. They require conditioning, like Pavlov-The-Dog, but you need to figure it out with HBx-The-****t and make her behave.
RULE #3 - Establish a deep emotional connection. Another poster mentioned he has p0rn ridden women for hours and still he earned no respect. This is TRUE. Women need a deep emotional connection with a man to hold respect and loyalty. You have to provide some vulnerability and allow her to access some deep parts of you, but only by perception (perception IS reality). Make her think she's got SOME of you but never all of you (or else you are fooked). This is not an AFC move. This is critical if you want a LTR. But if you are into hump & dump, don't come on here crying about not getting respect. You are picking to ride a Pinto instead of a Cadillac and expect leather interior for your soft arse.
RULE #4: Generate the perception of value in her eyes. You MUST always create the perception that you are highly wanted and valued by all women. Women are fiercely competitive with each other. They all want the man that ALL women want. You need to (not by actual action or else that will generate huge insecurity, some women lack confidence and will dump you because they don't think they can keep your interest) talk and act that you ALWAYS have options and other women and she's not 'THE ONE' bullsh!t . And you should be never afraid to walk away from her (or threaten to) as a lot of posters have said.
RULE #5: Generate positive feelings with her. A woman's hamster spins rapidly and out of control most of the time. Women having to join the workforce just in the last 50-60 years is not something natural for them. Women by nature can not handle stress and work responsibility the way men are designed to take mentally and emotionally. You need to make sure you = FUN and HAPPY in her experience with you. Never let boredom settle in, or else your arse will be out the door soon enough. Always laugh together, enjoy fun things together; it doesn't require money always, just good companionship. Women wants a man who will SPEND time with her, period.
RULE #6: RESPECT CHEMISTRY. That is the 'unknown' which is irreplaceable. Sometimes you just have to understand, some woman you are with has just that natural 'hotness' for each other and you just can't get enough. While other women, you have to imagine another women in your mind while you are doing it to get it up and going. Sometimes, despite all the SS-uaveness you have in your blood, it just won't work. CHEMISTRY is that unpredictable attraction (or lack of) that will determines how much effort you need to put in, or to let it go. It is totally out of your hands.
RULE #7: RESPECT AND LOVE YOURSELF. Don't ever let anyone treat you worse than your own dog.
With respect,
Exodus
Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.
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Aristippus- thanks for the bit about "meme's", I learned something today!
I've witnessed the same thing you mentioned in regards to white knighters and the effects they have on women. My girlfriend has been with a few of those chumps and has told me about the things she would get away with. Every now and then she lets me know that she appreciates my "alpha-ness" for lack of a better term and she is happier because I stand up to her and help her to do right. She is fully aware of right and wrong, however she got used to living a life where the white knights let her get away with disrespectful behavior. Now I am helping her reprogram the way she thinks/reacts/looks at issues. Like you said, I wouldn't be investing the time and energy if I wasn't starting out with good material underneath the debris on the surface.
I've witnessed the same thing you mentioned in regards to white knighters and the effects they have on women. My girlfriend has been with a few of those chumps and has told me about the things she would get away with. Every now and then she lets me know that she appreciates my "alpha-ness" for lack of a better term and she is happier because I stand up to her and help her to do right. She is fully aware of right and wrong, however she got used to living a life where the white knights let her get away with disrespectful behavior. Now I am helping her reprogram the way she thinks/reacts/looks at issues. Like you said, I wouldn't be investing the time and energy if I wasn't starting out with good material underneath the debris on the surface.
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Great stuff overall GotED? Very good stuff.GotED? said:
I only take some issue with rule #5 above.
I don't believe that you as a man should be responsible for the emotional health of another adult. You should not have to be her dancing clown with the job of keeping her "happy" at all times. To me.. THAT is AFC. Oh no! Can't make my girl mad! Can't let her feel sad or bored or else she might suck another man's c0ck!
This is why I'm more in the "hump and dump" crowd and less in the LTR crowd.
To be in a successful LTR with a woman.. you have to give more than you will get in return. You have to pedestalize the woman on some level. Its easy to say "make her earn it".. but this only works for so long. Eventually... by committing to you and giving you regular sex.. all women become ENTITLED.
They will believe they own you and its your job to prove over and over to them that you are still "worthy" of her p*ssy.
A woman believes she only has to "prove herself" ONCE.. but a woman also believes a man must prove himself on a daily basis.
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I agree, cause I deal with this myself. I feel like once your in a LTR, the man is usually the one who has to continue proving himself and if it loses control, that when the lady begins feeling entitled. But, I don't see a problem with that if its being reciprocated. I won't mind "pedalizing" my lady every now and then (NOT ALL THE TIME) cause I see she does the same to me from time to time.PlayHer Man said:Great stuff overall GotED? Very good stuff.
I only take some issue with rule #5 above.
I don't believe that you as a man should be responsible for the emotional health of another adult. You should not have to be her dancing clown with the job of keeping her "happy" at all times. To me.. THAT is AFC. Oh no! Can't make my girl mad! Can't let her feel sad or bored or else she might suck another man's c0ck!
This is why I'm more in the "hump and dump" crowd and less in the LTR crowd.
To be in a successful LTR with a woman.. you have to give more than you will get in return. You have to pedestalize the woman on some level. Its easy to say "make her earn it".. but this only works for so long. Eventually... by committing to you and giving you regular sex.. all women become ENTITLED.
They will believe they own you and its your job to prove over and over to them that you are still "worthy" of her p*ssy.
A woman believes she only has to "prove herself" ONCE.. but a woman also believes a man must prove himself on a daily basis.
To OP, the key to getting and maintaining respect with a women if you ask me is, not being afraid to speak up when something bothers you, displaying that your a man of your word, so if you say something ONCE and its done again she shouldn't expect you to have a discussion about it again. MOST important though is showing that you can move on JUST as easily as she thinks she can.
If a women still disrespect you, then she isnt worth the effort of keeping her around. THESE HOOOOOOOOs ARENT WORTH IT
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Be alphaglass half full said:
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Ahhh, the old respect challenge. I tend to agree with the posters above that you really cannot teach respect. You can demand obedience. That's about it. Genetically women are wired to constantly dish out $hit tests, which are in a form disrespectful. So can you expect respect? No, but you can demand obedience to your rules. If those are violated, then off she goes. I remember the last time I let a chick bust my hard boundaries, I regretted that action. I could have saved months of my life by not allowing such behavior.
So, my rule is establish boundaries. Now there are some soft and hard boundaries. Lies, disrespectful comments or actions...these are all types of non-negotiables. Soft boundaries...things that don't match up to how you live but are not disrespect. As in I dated a chick that was messy. Now is that disrespectful? Not necessarily, she even went out of her way to be "non-messy" when at my place.
Choose your hard lines and stick to them. If a woman violates these, you have but one choice. Get rid of her. Once they violate the rules you have lost frame. If you keep her, it's now her frame. You are but along for the ride.
KC
So, my rule is establish boundaries. Now there are some soft and hard boundaries. Lies, disrespectful comments or actions...these are all types of non-negotiables. Soft boundaries...things that don't match up to how you live but are not disrespect. As in I dated a chick that was messy. Now is that disrespectful? Not necessarily, she even went out of her way to be "non-messy" when at my place.
Choose your hard lines and stick to them. If a woman violates these, you have but one choice. Get rid of her. Once they violate the rules you have lost frame. If you keep her, it's now her frame. You are but along for the ride.
KC
woman: I am therefore love meglass half full said:
man: I do what I want
man is action, woman is reaction
wanting respect so you can start feeling good about yourself is YOU reacting to the WOMAN, which should be the other way around, therefore it`s logical that she isn`t considering you worthy because you asskiss every single emotional crap of hers
and do you think thousands of years ago there were relationship melodramas and dating coaches? :crackup:
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Good lord, way too much negativity regarding women on this thread. disrespectful *******s exist on both sides here, not just women. Maybe just because women disrespected YOU doesn't mean that for the rest of us. Lets focus on what we can do:
Men lead and women follow. This dynamic is easily seen in social circles where women make their friends based on the interactions guys have. In my own life, I have seen multiple women become bestest friends because us (as guys) introduced them and led the way. With that in mind, rather than try and enlist respect directly from women, its much easier to earn respect of the group ( read men) - women will follow without question. When I go out and socialize with groups of people I don't know, I focus first on earning some sort of respect from the guys in the group. Once that happens, the women will look at you with puppy dog eyes since they see their male friends looking up to you in a way, which in turn means they will follow.
Its not to say be a kiss ass. Rather, be a good conversationalist, knowledgeable, and likable. Don't be the dude who ONLY focuses on the women of the group as this will earn you disrespect from everyone, which in turn means women won't find you attractive in that way. We all know who we are talking about .. the guys who come up to your friends and only focus on the women. You dislike them. They are dislikable. Conversely, think of random people who actually added something interesting to an otherwise regular evening. If I wasn't trying for the chick in our social group, I'd try and set them up...why not?
There needs to be less venom towards women, and more of what works. Not all women are as evil as depicted ( there are some real pieces of work out there for sure).
Men lead and women follow. This dynamic is easily seen in social circles where women make their friends based on the interactions guys have. In my own life, I have seen multiple women become bestest friends because us (as guys) introduced them and led the way. With that in mind, rather than try and enlist respect directly from women, its much easier to earn respect of the group ( read men) - women will follow without question. When I go out and socialize with groups of people I don't know, I focus first on earning some sort of respect from the guys in the group. Once that happens, the women will look at you with puppy dog eyes since they see their male friends looking up to you in a way, which in turn means they will follow.
Its not to say be a kiss ass. Rather, be a good conversationalist, knowledgeable, and likable. Don't be the dude who ONLY focuses on the women of the group as this will earn you disrespect from everyone, which in turn means women won't find you attractive in that way. We all know who we are talking about .. the guys who come up to your friends and only focus on the women. You dislike them. They are dislikable. Conversely, think of random people who actually added something interesting to an otherwise regular evening. If I wasn't trying for the chick in our social group, I'd try and set them up...why not?
There needs to be less venom towards women, and more of what works. Not all women are as evil as depicted ( there are some real pieces of work out there for sure).
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Gotta bump this. I realise there's some negativity towards women on these boards but this thread talks of women as though they're twisted, evil creatures out to destroy men, ha. Granted there are a large number like that but jesus christ not every woman is evil..synergy1 said:
How to gain respect from your woman?
Simple
don't get caught up in drama women throw at you. Focus on yourself as a person, your goals, where you are going in life, and stay there. should I say, have inner locus of control.
This makes you be a "rock" in a woman's eyes, and she will be the one always going around you, gravitating around you with her ups and downs, and mood swings, and girl things...
why do I mean by not getting caught up in her B.S?
if you start asking her "what's wrong?", "are you upset at me?" "what are you thinking about?" "did I do something to upset you?" "you are acting distant, you are being indifferent" "do you miss me?" "do you love me?"
if you have done that, its likely that you were being caught up in female drama, reacting to her mood swings and B.S. instead, you should remain carefree and in your path doing your things, totally unreactive to female drama. This way, she will realize, you are a real male in her life, and she will quickly change, apologize, disclose feelings, or let you know what is upseting her... she will quickly realize she is being irrational and change behavior to accomodate you.
the more you try to understand them, the more you invest, the more you try and try to fix things, the less you will undertand and the more you WILL push them away.
so live your reality, and have her be a guest on it. Dont revolve around her world, let her gravitate around yours.... create gravity, work on it, if you dont have it.
gravity= solid sense of self, a leader.
weak people gravitate around their girlfriends
strong people have women gravitating towards them.
Remain attached to yourself, to your hobbies and life, and let her re-orient her behaviors to you.... if you have strong gravity, she will if she wants to survive in your life, just like the moon gravitates towards earth as it has stronger gravity..... if earth's gravity was weaker than the moon's, you bet the moon would walk away to hang out with her friend Mars or something lol
another analogy... does the sun need the earth to survive? No, but the earth needs from the sun in order to survive, so it also gravitates towards the sun...
Be independent like a sun, generate your own energy, self confidecne and sense of self, and let otehr people gravitate towards you... this is healthy attraction.
anyway... create gravity!!, women will respect you
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don't get caught up in drama women throw at you. Focus on yourself as a person, your goals, where you are going in life, and stay there. should I say, have inner locus of control.
This makes you be a "rock" in a woman's eyes, and she will be the one always going around you, gravitating around you with her ups and downs, and mood swings, and girl things...
why do I mean by not getting caught up in her B.S?
if you start asking her "what's wrong?", "are you upset at me?" "what are you thinking about?" "did I do something to upset you?" "you are acting distant, you are being indifferent" "do you miss me?" "do you love me?"
if you have done that, its likely that you were being caught up in female drama, reacting to her mood swings and B.S. instead, you should remain carefree and in your path doing your things, totally unreactive to female drama. This way, she will realize, you are a real male in her life, and she will quickly change, apologize, disclose feelings, or let you know what is upseting her... she will quickly realize she is being irrational and change behavior to accomodate you.
the more you try to understand them, the more you invest, the more you try and try to fix things, the less you will undertand and the more you WILL push them away.
so live your reality, and have her be a guest on it. Dont revolve around her world, let her gravitate around yours.... create gravity, work on it, if you dont have it.
gravity= solid sense of self, a leader.
weak people gravitate around their girlfriends
strong people have women gravitating towards them.
Remain attached to yourself, to your hobbies and life, and let her re-orient her behaviors to you.... if you have strong gravity, she will if she wants to survive in your life, just like the moon gravitates towards earth as it has stronger gravity..... if earth's gravity was weaker than the moon's, you bet the moon would walk away to hang out with her friend Mars or something lol
another analogy... does the sun need the earth to survive? No, but the earth needs from the sun in order to survive, so it also gravitates towards the sun...
Be independent like a sun, generate your own energy, self confidecne and sense of self, and let otehr people gravitate towards you... this is healthy attraction.
anyway... create gravity!!, women will respect you
