How to get a girl back

[Mr.D]

Title says it all.

I screwed up with my ex, details actually dont matter. I want your guys opinion on how to get her back, she still loves me but she did the "i need to be alone and asked for space" move.
After that she has slept at my place and i at hers.
She is currently considering going abroad and spent sometime with herself.
It's being hard just to spend time together.
Last week was my birthday and i took her out for dinner and we spent the night together but she didnt give me a gift, i usually dont care but with her i do.
I dont want answers about moving on, i would like your opinions on how to make her want me as relationship material again before losing the opportunity.
Should i make her miss me? if so, how? Texting how should i proceed?
Should i pressure her (like being on her? because her ex was constantly nagging on her and to be fair it was hard for her to move on with such a stalker lol) PS-ex doesnt matter, hes out.

 

[Poon King]

You don't want answers about moving on? In other words.. you live in Disneyland and you don't want to leave lol. You don't ask a question.. then tell people how to answer it. Do you want an answer that will actually help you.. or an answer that is wrong.. but will make you feel good?

There is nothing more pathetic and beta male than trying to get an Ex back. Shows how few options you really have in the market and how co-dependent and needy you are. She will never respect you.

The proper reaction in 100% of cases when a woman wants to "break up" or "leave" is don't let the door hit you on the way out. Women should never be chased in any situation. The woman should value the relationship more than the man does. If the opposite is true.. you as the man have LOST the game.

 

[Mr.D]

You don't want answers about moving on? In other words.. you live in Disneyland and you don't want to leave lol. You don't ask a question.. then tell people how to answer it. Do you want an answer that will actually help you.. or an answer that is wrong.. but will make you feel good?

There is nothing more pathetic and beta male than trying to get an Ex back. Shows how few options you really have in the market and how co-dependent and needy you are. She will never respect you.

The proper reaction in 100% of cases when a woman wants to "break up" or "leave" is don't let the door hit you on the way out. Women should never be chased in any situation. The woman should value the relationship more than the man does. If the opposite is true.. you as the man have LOST the game.

When i mean i dont want answers about moving on its because this one i want to try to work it out because its worth it. Im not sobbing or sad, im just searching your opinions on how to do this well.
Of course i should let her miss me and make her work her way back to me but this one is not a random plate. This one is not someone im not willing to let go without trying.
I think you can understand that.
I cant do the "dont let the door hit you on the way out " because after we broke up, we had instant sex. And the following week also.
I made her go trough a rough time specially in terms of pressure so now its up to me to change that and get her back, because shes in the (i should take care more of myself mindset)
Plus, the going out and spin some plates to get my mind out of it isnt an option also because im overwhelmed with work and exams for the nearest future.


Do you think you can find a way that could help this situation?

 

[Poon King]

When i mean i dont want answers about moving on its because this one i want to try to work it out because its worth it. Im not sobbing or sad, im just searching your opinions on how to do this well.
Of course i should let her miss me and make her work her way back to me but this one is not a random plate. This one is not someone im not willing to let go without trying.
I think you can understand that.
I cant do the "dont let the door hit you on the way out " because after we broke up, we had instant sex. And the following week also.
I made her go trough a rough time specially in terms of pressure so now its up to me to change that and get her back, because shes in the (i should take care more of myself mindset)
Plus, the going out and spin some plates to get my mind out of it isnt an option also because im overwhelmed with work and exams for the nearest future.

Do you think you can find a way that could help this situation?

I don't support perpetuating oneitis. So why would I give you advice on how to be a bigger beta? Lol.

Never chase a woman. Its that simple. You are who you are. You are what you are. If that's not good enough for her.. then she can leave. If you want to mold yourself to keep her.. then you have put her on a pedestal. Which means you have lost the game.

So if you want to continue in a relationship where you are basically someone's b!tch.. then why not just call her up and say: "I am your slave and I will do ANYTHING to make this work." Because that's what you're telling me.

 

[Mr.D]

I don't support perpetuating oneitis. So why would I give you advice on how to be a bigger beta? Lol.

Never chase a woman. Its that simple. You are who you are. You are what you are. If that's not good enough for her.. then she can leave. If you want to mold yourself to keep her.. then you have put her on a pedestal. Which means you have lost the game.

So if you want to continue in a relationship where you are basically someone's b!tch.. then why not just call her up and say: "I am your slave and I will do ANYTHING to make this work." Because that's what you're telling me.

You made me laugh because that is usually the advice i give my friends with girls that control them.
This is not the case, i screwed things up and i want to fix it. that simple, girls are usally emotionally reacting and make decisions based on peanuts.
I ****ed up, im not molding myself or putting her as the high godess of Saturn or so. I do want her to work her way to me, but for that to happen, she needs to bite the bait before.. thats my dilemma man.

 

[SamTheHobit]

I don't support perpetuating oneitis. So why would I give you advice on how to be a bigger beta? Lol.

Never chase a woman. Its that simple. You are who you are. You are what you are. If that's not good enough for her.. then she can leave. If you want to mold yourself to keep her.. then you have put her on a pedestal. Which means you have lost the game.

So if you want to continue in a relationship where you are basically someone's b!tch.. then why not just call her up and say: "I am your slave and I will do ANYTHING to make this work." Because that's what you're telling me.

How do we prevent falling into this trap of being beta?

I understand that having a lot of women around could help, but that's not always an option.

 

[Mr.D]

How do we prevent falling into this trap of being beta?

I understand that having a lot of women around could help, but that's not always an option.

Exactly... In my case, how do i get her respect again and make her come to me

 

[Barclays]

Hey mate, there's a great article on the tips section by Jariel saying what to do if you are stood up dumped or rejected and its just countless examples of peoples reali life stories about taking a step back and letting them come to you...if she loves you she'll come back but if you go in hard you'll push her away.

 

[Mr.D]

Hey mate, there's a great article on the tips section by Jariel saying what to do if you are stood up dumped or rejected and its just countless examples of peoples reali life stories about taking a step back and letting them come to you...if she loves you she'll come back but if you go in hard you'll push her away.

thanks Barclays, ill check it out.

 

[ubercat]

This is too funny appearing right next to a thread on why neediness is so unattractive. It's unlikely you screwed up for no reason they were probably things missing in the relationship. Don't take it all on your back

The problem you have is that the switch in a girls head is one way once it's flipped it's very hard to reset. So the best advice is to go after other girls because it's going to take much less effort to get another 1 than win back the one you had. And yeah I'm sure she was a really special snowflake but there's a lot of snow. This is the advice from 1000s of guys experience. You can ignore it but you are selling the farm to buy lottery tickets. Sorry but that's the red pill world we live in

 

[deltabeta]

And yeah I'm sure she was a really special snowflake but there's a lot of snow.

Made me smile. Lol

 

[Poon King]

You made me laugh because that is usually the advice i give my friends with girls that control them.
This is not the case, i screwed things up and i want to fix it. that simple, girls are usally emotionally reacting and make decisions based on peanuts.
I ****ed up, im not molding myself or putting her as the high godess of Saturn or so. I do want her to work her way to me, but for that to happen, she needs to bite the bait before.. thats my dilemma man.

What do you mean you "screwed up"? There is no screwing up. There is only being who you are. Some people will find who you are acceptable. Others will not. Those who do not should never be chased. Let them go.

And why do you need the respect of one dumb b!tch so badly? Why? RESPECT YOURSELF. F*ck any woman who doesn't respect you. Simple.

I don't support chasing women. I don't care what the reason YOU THINK she lost interest is. Once a woman leaves, let her stay gone. If she comes back on her own fine. Never chase. NEVER.

Men who chase women hard have no dignity and no self-esteem. And this is how the women who get chased by these men feel about them. Chasing after a woman who doesn't respect you? How beta does it get??? LOL.

 

[Maximus Rex]

Title says it all. I screwed up with my ex, details actually dont matter.

Even if we were to do something as wack as to give you some beta male faggot advice on how to get your ex back, how are we suppose to give you the proper course of action if we don't know the details that lead up to the break?

she still loves me

Harry Wilmington has to either one or two podcasts on site that talks about dual realities not being able to co-exist at the same time. This situation is a perfect example of what he was talking about. If ole girl was still in love with you, she'd still be with or you, (or at a minimum,) she be willing to work out your problems.

but she did the "i need to be alone and asked for space" move.

How you start with a b*tch, is how you end with a b*tch.-Old Pimpin' Proverb

"I think we should take a break." She's so laden with remorse, melancholy, and sincerity when she says it. Things have become too much for her of late. She's busy with school, she's having problems with at work, things aren't going right at home, or more than likely your "relationship," has been less than ideal. So in an attempt to free you from these "unnecessary," burdens, she wants to release you from the relationship, irregardless of the fact, that part of being in a relationship is dealing with the touch times.

True of the matter is, dude if a b*tch (with the exception of the relationship being on the rocks,) ever cites this as one of the reasons that I just gave for wanting to "take a break," the b*tch is a muthaf*ckin' lie and is disrespecting not your relationship, bu talso you.

Let's translate the statement, "Lets take a break,," from the wom*nese. What the chick is actually saying is the following, "For the longest time, I had a feeling that you had some b*tch made tendencies. I mean, you were a little too clingy and you were all too willing to please. You would never tell me "No," on top of the fact that you never checked me. Sometimes, I would purposely do things to see if you'd get mad or at least make an attempt to correct my rude behavior.

So what I'm proposing is that we breakup. I'm going to get out there, date, suck, and f*ck some new dudes and see if I can do a little bit better than what I'm doing now; however, we can STILL BE FRIENDS, WHEN NOBODY ELSE WANTS TO TAKE ME OUT HANG OUT, (ON YOUR DIME OF COURSE,) and I might even give you some every now and then. If I don't find anybody else, I MIGHT consider f*ckin' with you again.

For a woman even to approach you about some bullsh*t like this, she pretty much feels that you would play the b*tch and go for it and that comes from you constantly failing her sh*t tests. So Rex's advice is this, if your girl approaches you about going on a "break," agree to it, only make it permanent on your part."
So Your Girl Wants to take a Break, http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index.php?threads/so-your-girl-wants-to-take-a-break.212178/

She is currently considering going abroad and spent sometime with herself.

She wants to go to Paris, Rome, or Serville so she can ride the carousel of phallus in strange and exotic lands.

Last week was my birthday and i took her out for dinner and we spent the night together but she didnt give me a gift, i usually dont care but with her i do.

Why would she buy presents for somebody that she doesn't give a eff about?

I dont want answers about moving on,

Then get the f*ck off of this site. Go to www.loveshack.org, www.sluthate.com, or www.rooshv.com

i would like your opinions on how to make her want me as relationship material again before losing the opportunity.

Emotional-Carl Thomas

Can't Believe Faith Evans - (Feat. Carl Thomas)"

Should i make her miss me? if so, how? Texting how should i proceed? Should i pressure her (like being on her?

Every Breath You Take 2008 Live-The Police

because her ex was constantly nagging on her and to be fair it was hard for her to move on with such a stalker lol) PS-ex doesnt matter, hes out.

Potna just told on himself.

 

[Maximus Rex]

This is not the case, i screwed things up and i want to fix it.

Dude is simpin' so hard,that ole Rex has to go back to the classics to describe this bullsh*t.

I Miss You-
Harold Melvin and the Bluenotes

Brandy-The O'Jays

 

[dustmuffin]

Never ever chase if you get dumped. Be strong and just go away. If you chase you just make it worse and look weak. If she comes back by that time you probably won't want her anyway. You have to get her out of your system. Take it from someone that chased and just wound up looking like an ass.

 

[spinich]

Wow! Great reply....I recently contacted my oneitis after over a year....am having a very difficult time not just violating every one of the above observations...it is hard to pretend that she isn't the one I want in my life....how pathetic. As always advice is appreciated.

 

[Suspens]

These lame GIFs would be more appropriate for a videogame board.

 

[Mr.D]

@Poon King and @Maximus Rex thanks for your opinions altough that was some hard stuff maximus!! I got the message! Thanks for trying to open my eyes but they already were, don't worry.

@bradd80 now this was he advice i was looking for. Calling her an ungrateful woman may be a little to much but still, she kinda was lately.
Yesterday i went out with some friends (girls) and she was there, before meeting them i went to her and her friends politely said hello, never again looked at her or engaged with her. Went straight to my business and started talking with a lot of girls. Naturally, i got some tagged pictures of the party with them and during late late night, when i was already sleeping, i got a jealous message from her saying (you were very well accompanied by ).
I decided to not reply, it doesn't make sense to engage in a conversation over jealousness, it doesn't get me where i want to go, which is, get her respect and have her in her place following me again.

Thanks for the advice bradd

 

[spinich]

Not to hijack this thread, but this is exactly what I am going through at the moment. Ex of a year, she dumped me after 6 years on and off, daughters wedding is this weekend. I sent congrats....she sent text that I will be on her mind as one of the songs, "God bless the broken road" is more about she and I than her daughter....texted a bit more, she replied she is contact with me as a friend and "you are in my thoughts and I love you too." What the hell...ripped the old wound wide open. So now my Beta self is in full blown panic mode...I want her back, suspect she is in a relationship...but am obsessing over her and how to get her back into my life....This is going to be a weekend from hell...... Kick my ass or whatever but I don't know how to get rid of the hurt and panic. At my age I sure as heck should know better....but the heart wants what the heart can't have. Please advise. Thanks.

 

[dustmuffin]

Not to hijack this thread, but this is exactly what I am going through at the moment. Ex of a year, she dumped me after 6 years on and off, daughters wedding is this weekend. I sent congrats....she sent text that I will be on her mind as one of the songs, "God bless the broken road" is more about she and I than her daughter....texted a bit more, she replied she is contact with me as a friend and "you are in my thoughts and I love you too." What the hell...ripped the old wound wide open. So now my Beta self is in full blown panic mode...I want her back, suspect she is in a relationship...but am obsessing over her and how to get her back into my life....This is going to be a weekend from hell...... Kick my ass or whatever but I don't know how to get rid of the hurt and panic. At my age I sure as heck should know better....but the heart wants what the heart can't have. Please advise. Thanks.

Read the just been dumped thread at the top. I have been recently dumped too. Its tough.