How to get a girl back

[spinich]

Read that multiple times...even posted on it when she left before....tough is not the word....life ending is more appropriate this time....Thanks for the reply.

 

[dustmuffin]

Read that multiple times...even posted on it when she left before....tough is not the word....life ending is more appropriate this time....Thanks for the reply.

No its not life ending. Pick yourself up man! Let her go! Its not unique to you! Others made it through so will you! Everyone on here has been dumped! I was dumped out of a 22 year mairage. She did me a favor! Just dumped out of a year long relationship. She did me a favor! Now you can work on getting your life straight! Work on whats best for you! Chin up brother. Believe me its not the end of the world.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

There really is no 'getting' an ex back; the one time in one hundred that it works, it fails again in a matter of weeks or months. Because neither of you has learnt anything. She has not learnt to deal with the consequences of her decision and you have not learnt the error of your ways nor rectified.

The extreme long shot is that you move on (really move on) and she may come to realise that you have become a man and she made a mistake by ditching you. At that point however, it is highly likely that you won't want her any more, anyways. There are enough highly experienced guys here who recognise the very essence of this thread to know I'm right. As is PoonKing. We just deliver the same message in different guises. He's bad cop, I'm good cop.

Many guys here have learnt this lesson the hard way. Through a long slog of failure and repetition. The only way is to move on. REALLY move on. If she comes back, great. But don't count on it. And unless you've changed, she'll do the same thing again.

Accept she may never be back. In fact, assume she won't. And find another. In fact, find a few.

P.S. she doesn't still love you or you'd still be together. Sorry to be blunt, but it's the truth.

 

[Trump]

Last week was my birthday and i took her out for dinner and we spent the night together but she didnt give me a gift, i usually dont care but with her i do.
I dont want answers about moving on, i would like your opinions on how to make her want me as relationship material again before losing the opportunity.

You took her out on your bday? That makes no sense.

Should i make her miss me? if so, how?

You can't make her do anything, unless she is in WAR or jail or something and you are her boss there.

Texting how should i proceed?
Should i pressure her (like being on her? because her ex was constantly nagging on her and to be fair it was hard for her to move on with such a stalker lol) PS-ex doesnt matter, hes out.

Yeah bro, pressure her and show her you need constant validation because you have no other girl on the horizon and no other job on the horizon and no other life on the horizon. Very sexy.

I don't know how you guys sleep with girls and then act like this. ACT like you would as if you were sleeping with a movie star tomorrow.

 

[spinich]

Thank you.

 

[RangerMIke]

Don't waste your time with women that have 'moved on'.

You can never go back. It is much easier to just start over with another woman. So much easier to start off with a clean slate. Move on, date other women if she comes back... then see if it's something you are willing to consider. TRUST me, be a man, improve yourself, and the quality of women you can get will be SO much better you will not want to go back.

 

[exhausted]

OP,

Calling her ungrateful was a little too much?? Dude she dumped you wtf is wrong with you!! I was actually being nice when I called her that.. you need to check yourself. You're too emotionally invested in this woman, while she is not as invested with you. That's why she broke up with you. My advice can only come in handy when you don't care about the girl.. which clearly you do.

Don't be her male girlfriend. You're not there to listen to her talk about her problems. You need to show her your teeth, you need to be more assertive and confident. Cut off her conversations, especially when they're going no where. This will make her want you more, and it will make her value you more as well.

Keep your conversations short but sweet, cut them off at their high point, and don't be the last one to message. But why you keep doing this to yourself over a woman who told you she doesn't want you is beyond me.

You'll have to learn the hard way.

You need to be holding men only seminars in every city in this country..

You are right on about everything...

At this point I am just going to go back to banging girls, not even spinning plates, just bang then done. next

 

[exhausted]

Hey OP,

Poon king is right. You're waging a waste of a battle.

As long as you're emotionally invested and trying to "make things work" your neediness will repel your ex girlfriend like a goldigger in skid row. You may not think your neediness is apparent, but to your ex it's only all too obvious.

Just the fact that you're still calling her up and trying to make things work with a woman who dumped you is more than enough to break 100 on the neediness scale.

You need to move on. Once a woman breaks up with you, the relationship will never be the same. Instead of trying to make things work, she has decided that you're not worth the effort of fixing things. Is this the kind of person you want to spend your time winning over?

Go out and find a woman who actually appreciates you and all your good qualities. Let this woman go out and find out just how much douchebags guys can be. Then one day, she will look at her relationship with you with regret and she will wish she had made things work.

However, this will never happen if you continue to "try to make things work." By continuing to do this after she has dumped you, she is just subconsciously confirming in her mind that dumping you was the right decision. Women are hardwired through millenia of genetic and environmental conditioning to be attracted to men who are strong, independent providers. By showing her that you can't live without her, you are providing her with the exact opposite qualities that women are naturally attracted to.

So, while I can't emphasize enough your need to leave, I will give you some pointers on what to do to possibly try to turn things around. If nothing else, you might regain some self respect by winning back some power and "the upper hand" and at least you won't feel as bad as you do now.

So here' s the list:

1. Don't make yourself too available to her. Start chasing other women, start doing other activities
2. When you do text her, keep the messages short and sweet. Don't be asking her to meet up. This will show her that you can live without her. Women are naturally attracted to men who are just out of reach.
3. Don't bring up getting back together. Just focus on being fun and happy. Flirt, but not too much. If she responds favorably to flirting, keep going and try to seduce her. If she doesn't respond favorably, cut the conversation short and go ghost.
4. I don't believe in playing games, but after you've been dumped this becomes necessary. You need to show her that you're happy with her decision, and that you're having a great time without her. That you're even enjoying yourself more without her. This will make her think "what am i missing out on?" and "why isn't he chasing me?"
5. Don't buy her gifts/offer to take her to dinner: this gives her the impression you're trying to buy her back. Gifts during a relationship are ok, but after you've been dumped you need to stop doing this.
6. A little jealousy never hurt. Drop hints about how you're doing this or that with a "friend" or "friends." But don't flat out tell her you're fvcking other girls, or this may end it for good (and you should seriously start thinking that this would be a great thing).
7. Always observe the last messager rule. Girls know this rule well. The last person to not respond holds the power. So always let her be the one who messages last. Always be the one to end the conversation, and end every conversation at its high point. Observe the well known rule in entertainment "always leave them wanting more." This rule exists for a reason. If the conversation is suddenly starting to go nowhere, end it immediately.
8. Once in a while, cut off your conversation with her by saying "anyway, gotta run. Meeting up with friends at so-and-so place. Talk to you later!" This will naturally make her more attracted to you, by showing her that you have other things to do and you don't need her in your life. She will start thinking "what am i missing out on?" and "why isn't he asking me to do these things with him?"

Now, you can follow my advice and continue to play relationship calculus with this ungrateful woman or you can cut her out of your life, focus on healing and getting yourself better, and trying to get a better and more deserving woman for yourself.

The choice is yours.

Every man should read this list every single day.

I just got The Rationale Male in the mail yest. Will have it read by fight time saturday night