I've been trolling for past few weeks and now I need help..
Back in Feb I met this girl online and we emailed back and forth for a week, then met up and had a good time. A week passes and we setup another date. I go for a trip and tried messaging her and didn't really hear from her. When I return I was going to take her off my list, but reached out, and guess what we end up meeting up again. We probably hung out a total of 6 times. I didn't kiss close until the 3rd date. 2 weeks ago she was sick but it was just strange because she was MIA but this was after she hung out with a 'friend' of hers, so we ended up canceling those plans that week. Last week Sun we hung out, and then Wed went out, had a few drinks and F close. Ended up sleeping over. We had plans to hang out that thur, fri and sun, but then she ended up canceling. Thur she was hungover tired from the night before, fri she had some last minute errands to run and fri she had an event to attend to with a friend. Last night she canceled because she was tired and stressed with school. Every night we would video chat for about an hour. Sat when she was with that guy, I texted her but I didn't even hear from her. When I asked her about that she apologized and said she's a diff girl and doesn't need to talk to that someone every day, where most people have that 'honeymoon' period. I think thats ironic because every other day we at least chatted on the phone.
So last night we had a video chat briefly and asked her what was up with all these cancellations and it's like the same thing she did before. Legitimate excuses ok but it just comes off strange. I asked her when we would hang next and she had a busy week. She enjoys our time, but she things that she thinks she would disappoint me because of just her being busy or whatever, guard up, and maybe I should date others. She thinks the summer will be better in a few weeks but she still has all these trips and things planned that she didn't realize she would have someone for. I told her those trips are irrelevant and shouldn't prevent anything between us from moving forward. She did have a bad few pasts, where a 3 year relationship and a 5 month relationship she was cheated on and lied to. She said maybe the past is holding her back and she's not over it yet and the only thing she knows about a relationship is lies. CLEARLY her guard is up by the way she acts. I feel like I am putting more effort because she also does not have a car and I have to drive the hour to see her. I told her last night I didn't want to date anyone else and wanted to see of we would go. She had another call she had to take, but she never called back. I'm banking she wanted to avoid convo, or she was really that tired.
We have alot of interests together which is great. I don't think she trusts me yet which is why she is holding back, it's been only 3 months. That's fine. I'm just not sure how to handle this one. Sure I will go date others if she insists. In the beginning I did that but then we started seeing each other more so I didn't date others as much. But it is so weird if I end up sleeping with multiple girls and this one would be OK with that. Just strange.
So I am thinking either see if she schedules a meetup this week and talk in person to see what we want to do, just continue casual dating and see what happens or go exclusive. She said she did not want to date anyone else. OK. But what does that mean?
Back in Feb I met this girl online and we emailed back and forth for a week, then met up and had a good time. A week passes and we setup another date. I go for a trip and tried messaging her and didn't really hear from her. When I return I was going to take her off my list, but reached out, and guess what we end up meeting up again. We probably hung out a total of 6 times. I didn't kiss close until the 3rd date. 2 weeks ago she was sick but it was just strange because she was MIA but this was after she hung out with a 'friend' of hers, so we ended up canceling those plans that week. Last week Sun we hung out, and then Wed went out, had a few drinks and F close. Ended up sleeping over. We had plans to hang out that thur, fri and sun, but then she ended up canceling. Thur she was hungover tired from the night before, fri she had some last minute errands to run and fri she had an event to attend to with a friend. Last night she canceled because she was tired and stressed with school. Every night we would video chat for about an hour. Sat when she was with that guy, I texted her but I didn't even hear from her. When I asked her about that she apologized and said she's a diff girl and doesn't need to talk to that someone every day, where most people have that 'honeymoon' period. I think thats ironic because every other day we at least chatted on the phone.
So last night we had a video chat briefly and asked her what was up with all these cancellations and it's like the same thing she did before. Legitimate excuses ok but it just comes off strange. I asked her when we would hang next and she had a busy week. She enjoys our time, but she things that she thinks she would disappoint me because of just her being busy or whatever, guard up, and maybe I should date others. She thinks the summer will be better in a few weeks but she still has all these trips and things planned that she didn't realize she would have someone for. I told her those trips are irrelevant and shouldn't prevent anything between us from moving forward. She did have a bad few pasts, where a 3 year relationship and a 5 month relationship she was cheated on and lied to. She said maybe the past is holding her back and she's not over it yet and the only thing she knows about a relationship is lies. CLEARLY her guard is up by the way she acts. I feel like I am putting more effort because she also does not have a car and I have to drive the hour to see her. I told her last night I didn't want to date anyone else and wanted to see of we would go. She had another call she had to take, but she never called back. I'm banking she wanted to avoid convo, or she was really that tired.
We have alot of interests together which is great. I don't think she trusts me yet which is why she is holding back, it's been only 3 months. That's fine. I'm just not sure how to handle this one. Sure I will go date others if she insists. In the beginning I did that but then we started seeing each other more so I didn't date others as much. But it is so weird if I end up sleeping with multiple girls and this one would be OK with that. Just strange.
So I am thinking either see if she schedules a meetup this week and talk in person to see what we want to do, just continue casual dating and see what happens or go exclusive. She said she did not want to date anyone else. OK. But what does that mean?
