How To Create A Social Circle In 2025!

[jhonny9546]

The type of woman you want( good mother , old fashioned, feminine and ladylike marriage material) will also demand that YOU do the masculine chasing...

I'm just lucky that those kinda of women actually approach me, or just send me obvious signs.

But I do understand what you mean.

Actually I'm more focused on getting "exposure" with women, rather than "chasing".

As a man, we want to get exposed as much as possible to women beforehand.
Then we are in the position to make the move.

 

[jhonny9546]

Another thing to add to this fantastic post is the need to face reality:

When your friends, and those you know, become parents and have children because they are couples, forget that they will still be interested in going out with you, a single man with no children. You will no longer have much in common, and they may start to see your presence and contributions in their group as strange. They will want to talk about breastfeeding, diapers, toys, strollers, vomiting, and more.

The women, in addition to feeling resentment because there are men in the group whom they had chosen before their current partners, who are now assigned to their female friends, will also discuss the lovers they secretly slept with while their partners were at work and they were at the gym "watching the little girl in the pool" while her friend was the sentry. (its crazy how these horny moms would give a stranger a ******* but not a kiss).

I know a group of 30 people who have been together since elementary school. Now there are 28 couples and only 2 single individuals who have been marginalized from the group. One of them recently got engaged and rejoined the group, while the other has lost all those years of friendship.

You have to find social circles of single men. After 30, it becomes increasingly difficult, but they do exist. If you are lucky, you will find men who are on the same wavelength, those who focus on building their careers, studying, enjoying life, and also learning to navigate the complexities of dating and gaining experience. The more you'll grow, the more opportunity to meet incredible people You have.

• Fashion, Art, Festivals/Events/Shows/Conventios – The ratio of women to men is 3:1. I used to love this scene because it was easy to meet women
• Sports Leagues – Tennis, running, bicycling, hiking. etc.
• Church – Yes, church. If you attend a great church, you will meet some quality people. I know this one will be controversial but this pertains to my lifestyle
• Volunteering Events/Parties – The ratio is often 3:1 women to men as well
• Networking Events – Conventions, meetup groups, niche events, etc.

This is what I'll definetly try

For my specific scenario, I've noticed a great community of 50 people building around a CrossFit Box in my town. They have all shared interest such as hiking, workout, fit lifestyle, and there are 20ish young women there.
You might want to spot those circles, and decide to try out.
Maybe I'll do 2 gym days, instead of 4, and 2 crossfit days and see How it goes.

But How the hell you select Fashion, Art, Festivals/Events/Shows/Conventions ?

I do live in Rome

 

[Swagman]

I started an account here on the strength of this thread - great to be here.

I'm a year divorced and in my late 30s. I do have brothers that I've known for decades in some cases, we have been there for each other through thick and thin. For this, I am truly blessed. However they are on a different path to me - family, suburban home, kids and so on. I don't have kids and as such don't get the invitation to Christmas lunches, big couple events and so on. I don't have a 'social circle' in the true sense of the word, more a bunch of friends and acquaintances here and there.

I'm working on this now, more than I am on game in fact. I'm really just winging it and putting myself out there in all kinds of situations to see what happens. Taking classes, outdoor activities, volunteering in my community, learning new skills that get me out in the real world. I noticed that during my marriage I developed a weird antisocial tendency, so I'm doing everything I can to shake this now. Basically going out and talking to EVERYONE, when I leave my place I get in the mindset that life is an adventure full of opportunities and I actively look for surreal and humorous things throughout the day.

Still got a long way to go but the mental shift has been very good for me. I'm not sure if it's possible to have a tight early 20s style friend group now as a bachelor nearing middle age, but one thing I've learned is that most friend groups are circumstantial and will fall apart much easier than most people want to admit. If I can make more good friends here and there, people I can relate to and catch up with when our busy lives permit, then I'll consider that a success.

 

[jhonny9546]

tight early 20s style friend group

They're tight by your POV.
When you enter those groups, there are many hidden, filth and creepy things you don't know.
Those groups are born because of proximity, not because of shared interest

tight can be a group of 3 people doing what they love for real

 

[jhonny9546]

We can think of our career as a social circle, because it puts us in contact with people who have the same goals as us in terms of education, work ethic.

I would like to focus on building relationships in this field.

Men, I just wanted to let you know that I am trying my best to find something that I enjoy doing at least at a minimal level and that can make money. I am busting my ass trying to find it

 

[CornbreadFed]

One struggle I had with social circles is that if guys perceive you as a threat then they will keep you away from events involving women. If you find yourself only being invited out to Boys nights, then this may be the case unless you are aggressive/creepy with women already.

 

[eli77]

this is a post we all need.Get whatsapp and network on their as well .Must be able to network with a party of twenty or so people coed leagues help as well.