Another thing to add to this fantastic post is the need to face reality:
When your friends, and those you know, become parents and have children because they are couples, forget that they will still be interested in going out with you, a single man with no children. You will no longer have much in common, and they may start to see your presence and contributions in their group as strange. They will want to talk about breastfeeding, diapers, toys, strollers, vomiting, and more.
The women, in addition to feeling resentment because there are men in the group whom they had chosen before their current partners, who are now assigned to their female friends, will also discuss the lovers they secretly slept with while their partners were at work and they were at the gym "watching the little girl in the pool" while her friend was the sentry. (its crazy how these horny moms would give a stranger a ******* but not a kiss).
I know a group of 30 people who have been together since elementary school. Now there are 28 couples and only 2 single individuals who have been marginalized from the group. One of them recently got engaged and rejoined the group, while the other has lost all those years of friendship.
You have to find social circles of single men. After 30, it becomes increasingly difficult, but they do exist. If you are lucky, you will find men who are on the same wavelength, those who focus on building their careers, studying, enjoying life, and also learning to navigate the complexities of dating and gaining experience. The more you'll grow, the more opportunity to meet incredible people You have.
- Fashion, Art, Festivals/Events/Shows/Conventios – The ratio of women to men is 3:1. I used to love this scene because it was easy to meet women
- Sports Leagues – Tennis, running, bicycling, hiking. etc.
- Church – Yes, church. If you attend a great church, you will meet some quality people. I know this one will be controversial but this pertains to my lifestyle
- Volunteering Events/Parties – The ratio is often 3:1 women to men as well
- Networking Events – Conventions, meetup groups, niche events, etc.
This is what I'll definetly try
For my specific scenario, I've noticed a great community of 50 people building around a CrossFit Box in my town. They have all shared interest such as hiking, workout, fit lifestyle, and there are 20ish young women there.
You might want to spot those circles, and decide to try out.
Maybe I'll do 2 gym days, instead of 4, and 2 crossfit days and see How it goes.
But How the hell you select
Fashion, Art, Festivals/Events/Shows/Conventions ?
I do live in Rome
