Bumping this thread because People ask me questions in the DM's But let me address Cornbread's question first
One struggle I had with social circles is that if guys perceive you as a threat then they will keep you away from events involving women. If you find yourself only being invited out to Boys nights, then this may be the case unless you are aggressive/creepy with women already.
What you're saying is indeed true, there are some men who want all the women's attention and validation to themselves. The thing is If you are not being aggressive or creepy is this a circle you want to hang around truly? I've been in circles where guys tried to hook me up with single women in the group, heck I even was in a circle where I got a job that I would have never got if I didn't know the person. In my opinion any person who views you as a threat or denies you opportunities is not really a friend. Personally I woldn't even want to hang around a person like that as their actions are showing you they don't trust you.
Question I got recently How To Recognize Successfful man and not A Business man (who is only good with business but not a DJ)
Markers of Authentic Success
Consistency Over Time – True success isn’t overnight. Look for people who have a consistent track record of achievements over years, not someone who suddenly “made it” out of nowhere. People who are consistent, once they trust you have no issue sharing how they got there. People who are wishy-washy will be vague. There was a guy I know who we all thought was successful because of Crypto. However he kept conversations very light and superficial. To most people, his answers were reasonable but to a person like myself who has been in crypto for several years, his actions didn't always line up with a person in the know. Which leads me to my next point
Knowledge and Execution – They actually
know their industry or field. If you ask about their business or career, they can break things down logically. Fakers use vague buzzwords. Going back to the crypto guy come to find out he was a scamer, he now is doing years in jail for scamming old rich ladies ut of there money. He would "launder" the money on crypto exchanges to wash them.
Financial Discipline – Real successful people aren’t always flashy. They invest in assets, not just flexing on liabilities. If someone has a crazy lifestyle but no business sense, be wary.
Quality Network – Who do they associate with? If their circle is full of high-achieving people, that’s a good sign. Fakers tend to only hang out with other flexers or people who admire them.
Resilience and Work Ethic – They’ve likely failed before but bounced back. If their story is all wins and no struggles, they’re probably lying.
Calm Confidence, Not Bragging – Real success doesn’t need validation. If someone constantly needs to prove how great they are, that’s a red flag.
Value Exchange – They offer value and are willing to teach or mentor, rather than just taking from you.
A person who is a business person only or Redlfags to look out for
- Too Flashy, Too Fast – If their money came overnight and they have no clear source of income, it’s either fake or shady.
- Always Selling Something – If they keep trying to recruit you for a “business opportunity” or some vague investment, run. A lot of people who are into MLM (multi-level marketing) are like this. I don't bother with those types as they tend to be insufferable.
- No Real Network – Their "successful" friends are just other fakers who only show off online.
- Avoids Talking Numbers or Details – A truly successful person can explain how they make money. A faker dodges specifics. On the flipside, it's a red flag when a person wants to talk about salary or how much money you make. You wouldn't share your bank account amount with people right? Now of course they are friends that you trust you may talk numbers too but from my experience people who always have to tell you how much they make or have. Tend to be insecure. They want to know that they are doing better than you. These are also people who tend to be jealous if they find out you're doing better than them. To me it's a major red flag if a person is always asking about how much money I made on a deal, or what I'm buying and how much it cost etc.With these types of people, you have to establish your boundaries and do it very early and strong on!
- Only Shows Wealth, Never Work – If they only post about their vacations, cars, or watches but never about their business grind, they’re probably not the real deal.
- Victim Mentality – If they blame everyone else for their failures instead of taking accountability, that’s a sign of a loser mindset.
- Girlfriends/Wives- Successful men see relationships as an extension of decision-making. If you choose a woman who’s high-maintenance, chaotic, or attention-seeking, it signals poor judgment, which raises doubts about your ability to make solid business decisions. Also if you see a guy who is around unattractive, uncouth women. It shows a guy with low standards and insecure. Now there is a flipside to this he may have been with this woman since day1 before the success. However typically men even before they become successful if they are with unattractive women they tend to not be uncouth, loud and trashy.
If you never see him with a woman whatsoever, successful people tend to see it as a signal of lack of commitment and not being reliable. You have to understand that most successful people view everything from a business or transactional lens. Doesn't mean their not genuine but they pay attention to the stuff that most people probably wouldn't give a care about, hence they are successful. Successful men know that
a high-value woman is a filter for other high-value men. If no quality woman has vetted or chosen a guy, it
raises doubts: Also the stereotype of being prepuallty single and the fear of you banging their wives and girlfriends is a real thing. as well
