How to be a man with a penis?

[DarkLight]

Right... hunger is a great analogy.
That made sense.

Another thing I think is... the fact that I'm more concerned w. the quality of woman I'm hooking up with. Been through the "in-love/heartbreak" sh!t before... and it seems even if I'm looking for a potential fvck for the night... my quality control is still in total effect. Which from a mature perspective is a good thing, lol. But I find that if chicks aren't attractive on every level to me... I just can't front to myself, just for the lay. (Maybe I need my heartbroken a few more times!? lol)

And BAB... Migel said it with "European women are different, but biologically they are still human and being a sexual man will work always. So we got to work on it."

Might be some cultural differences on the surface level of courting/attraction... but fundamentally, its the same game. Women are Women, Men are Men.

 

[Babnik]

That's AFC thinking. Look at your guy friends. I care for my friends but I'm a **** around them and tease them constantly. It's because you can't care about somebody if there is no spark of that chemistry that is created from chasing. See the world as it is, not as you want it to be.

European women are different, but biologically they are still human and being a sexual man will work always. So we got to work on it.


DarkLight:

I don't believe you can switch this on consciously. It's something natural, built-in your biology. It's as if you wanted to feel hungry for something. For example: you are stuffed and you see a delicious cherry pie. You know you want it, but you just can't feel the hunger for it. You can force yourself to eat it but you will just feel bad afterwards.
Part of the problem I see with men here (and myself) is just that they don't have the sexual drive they think they want. They see people (in movies or friends) that constantly get laid and think they want that too, but they don't realize that these people might just have a different sex drive. Even GunWitch said that he goes out every 2 weeks or less because he doesn't need more.
There are techniques to increase your drive. For example I am hungry as hell after working out, so there are ways to become more often in sexual state.

So, when I say I want to care about someone and you say thats not how it works you are saying that I can never have what I want from a girl.

I want sex, but only as a part of a relationship. You can't help what you WANT. If something that I want does not exist and I can never have it then I will never be happy EVEN if I can have any woman in the world at ANY time.

 

[Migel]

You care for people because of the VALUE they provide you. You care for your car because it cost you a lot of money and it drives you to work. You care for your mother because she raised you. You care for your friends because you have good times with them. You care for your girlfriend because she makes you feel good. It's all about what you have invested and what you can lose.
So a girl will care for you if she chases you. Because she will invest her time and energy in catching in you, so she will VALUE you and CARE for you.

You can't have what you want if you don't change the way you think. You can't have anything just because you WANT to. You have to CREATE it for yourself not EXPECT it to happen. It's the basis of AFC thinking: "I will be nice to her so she should love me". That's not how it works, learn how it does and do what is necessary.