Re: It's true we're being tested
Originally posted by BornWinner
So how do we past the test? Since they wanna test if we're a man or a mouse, then we gotta show them that we're man. Got it? Should I quit this argument and let them win, they will probably think Im a weak person (A mouse) and I will get passed by. Isn't it?
That's perfectly understandable you are thinking that way. But this is on a higher level of complexity than most issues. As you know a lot of this stuff doesn't make rational sense at first glance but on a deeper level is where it makes sense.
First of all for your question about "letting them win". An argument/debate is NOT about who is right with a female. It's about who owns who's reality.
Disengaging in an arguement with a female is not giving up. It's about not giving a ****, because a leader alpha male is ALWAYS right. He doesn't need to be told by a submissive how it is. It's like a private questioning a general's decisions in the army. You gotta earn your stars to even be remotely close to the generals rank. And he's still the guy that makes the decision. He might ask like 2 questions to maybe hear what the high ranking soldier is saying. BUT HE DOESN"T NEED TO PROVE HE IS RIGHT TO HIM even though he might have nearly as much power as him. Get it yet?
That is the equivalent to a 60/40 male /female relationship or a 51/49 relationship. That ain't happening, only after years upon years of trust and time has been built.
A good general knows the private is out of line. He won't hear the private for a second because he knows the private has earned NO stars. YOU ARE THE GENERAL OF YOUR REALITY. He owes no explaination to the private. After he notices the private talking he'll put em in the privates place by, ignoring or ordering the private to stop talking, or "This conversation is over".
Women want a leader who is solid in their conviction. They don't want a mouse who wavers in their conviction and is open to having their reality changed by someone lower. GET IT????
Who cares if you persuade her in anyway. It doesn't matter. It's your reality, not hers. You are the dominant one that runs the show, you don't need to persuade her because what you say goes, not what she says.
You get it? I'll be glad to go more in depth with it if you want.