i messaged a hb off facebook today and found out she lives near me so suggested a quick meet for coffee tonight spontaneous thing, i did initially suggest a drink date as a figure of speech.
she kept asking me all these questions like how tall i am and i made a passing joke that when we're horizontal height doesnt matter anymore. she took exception to this and said that if any more jokes with a sexual reference and she might change her mind about meeting tonight, i counter aacted this by saying i couldnt make it at 7 as originally agreed to make her panic as she was tryna frame grab, i commented that she sounds bossy she said that she could be whatever she wanted to be.. i said bossy females arent attractive.
anyway we agreed to meet at 7, she texts me 45mins before hand that her battery is about to die so she might call me from a different number if necessary i said ok. originally i suggested to meet at 8pm she said that was too late (she must have had plans later) anyway 10 mins go by and i call her and it goes straight to voicemail, so im thinking great im getting stood up and i decide to leave in 10 mins.. at 7.14pm she texts me she'll be there in few mins. i felt this was a test ie her coming late to see if i'll still be around, i just said i got there 5 mins ago. anyway she comes in im upstairs and see her from above she calls me asking where i am i say im upstairs in the bathroom and i'll be down in a sec. i go down and she's not there so i call her an she tells me to come upstairs for a drink, i tell her to come downstairs for coffee (out of principle and cost - i thought she was tryna hustle me free drinks) she said she doesnt drink coffee at night and wants a drink, so ensued n argument her refusing to come back down and me refusing to go up the stairs.. i say to her on the phone while on escalator she's really bossy. when i greet her i said to her 'i can tell you're going to be a pain in the ass' she then defends herself about not being bossy and that it's the womans role to decide what to do and for the man to follow whatever she wants.. i said no it isn't it's the man's role to decide what to do and for you to agree/disgree or offer something else, she agreed coffee i said and is now changing the terms.. (going for a drink is better but i just didn't like how she did it bossing her way round dictacting what we do) this ensued for a few mins both of us refusing to back down i tell her that it's disrespectful changing the terms (although i forgot i did offer drinks in the beginning in my message on facebook) she said 'you said coffee so i thought you meant a drink' i said that's fine if we go for a drink it's how you gone about it changing the terms to get your way. i.e. wants to be in control.. i just felt at this point should i be bothering with her.. she was physically attracted to me i think but i just didn't appreciate being bossed about.. how should i have handled this better?
i felt i gave away too much power and even though i stuck up for myself it seemed futile as in it's just turning her off arguing over something petty but at same time if i dont stand up for myself i look a pushover.
what makes matters funny is that her best friend i was messaging on facebook also a month ago.. she's much hotter her best friend but she's complete attention wh0re. she's clearly ina relationship yet says she's not.. all her pics suggest it.. she says she's serious about coming on a date with me and she'll 'think' about it and let me know.. i told her she isn't serious as otherwsi she'd have left me her number and we'd gone out by now.. called her out being an attention seeker which she refutes.. is there literally no point dealing with a woman like this?
i'm bound to get caught they're best friends/close friends from same country lol i used same pick up line on both. wonder how long it'll take them to suss it out.
she kept asking me all these questions like how tall i am and i made a passing joke that when we're horizontal height doesnt matter anymore. she took exception to this and said that if any more jokes with a sexual reference and she might change her mind about meeting tonight, i counter aacted this by saying i couldnt make it at 7 as originally agreed to make her panic as she was tryna frame grab, i commented that she sounds bossy she said that she could be whatever she wanted to be.. i said bossy females arent attractive.
anyway we agreed to meet at 7, she texts me 45mins before hand that her battery is about to die so she might call me from a different number if necessary i said ok. originally i suggested to meet at 8pm she said that was too late (she must have had plans later) anyway 10 mins go by and i call her and it goes straight to voicemail, so im thinking great im getting stood up and i decide to leave in 10 mins.. at 7.14pm she texts me she'll be there in few mins. i felt this was a test ie her coming late to see if i'll still be around, i just said i got there 5 mins ago. anyway she comes in im upstairs and see her from above she calls me asking where i am i say im upstairs in the bathroom and i'll be down in a sec. i go down and she's not there so i call her an she tells me to come upstairs for a drink, i tell her to come downstairs for coffee (out of principle and cost - i thought she was tryna hustle me free drinks) she said she doesnt drink coffee at night and wants a drink, so ensued n argument her refusing to come back down and me refusing to go up the stairs.. i say to her on the phone while on escalator she's really bossy. when i greet her i said to her 'i can tell you're going to be a pain in the ass' she then defends herself about not being bossy and that it's the womans role to decide what to do and for the man to follow whatever she wants.. i said no it isn't it's the man's role to decide what to do and for you to agree/disgree or offer something else, she agreed coffee i said and is now changing the terms.. (going for a drink is better but i just didn't like how she did it bossing her way round dictacting what we do) this ensued for a few mins both of us refusing to back down i tell her that it's disrespectful changing the terms (although i forgot i did offer drinks in the beginning in my message on facebook) she said 'you said coffee so i thought you meant a drink' i said that's fine if we go for a drink it's how you gone about it changing the terms to get your way. i.e. wants to be in control.. i just felt at this point should i be bothering with her.. she was physically attracted to me i think but i just didn't appreciate being bossed about.. how should i have handled this better?
i felt i gave away too much power and even though i stuck up for myself it seemed futile as in it's just turning her off arguing over something petty but at same time if i dont stand up for myself i look a pushover.
what makes matters funny is that her best friend i was messaging on facebook also a month ago.. she's much hotter her best friend but she's complete attention wh0re. she's clearly ina relationship yet says she's not.. all her pics suggest it.. she says she's serious about coming on a date with me and she'll 'think' about it and let me know.. i told her she isn't serious as otherwsi she'd have left me her number and we'd gone out by now.. called her out being an attention seeker which she refutes.. is there literally no point dealing with a woman like this?
i'm bound to get caught they're best friends/close friends from same country lol i used same pick up line on both. wonder how long it'll take them to suss it out.
