I was with this girl for 2 years, for eight months she was my fiancée. We were both madly in love and were planning to have kids. Then on the day before our two year anniversary, she called me crying and said it wasn’t working out. This confused me greatly and destroyed my beliefs about the man I was, it brought out a lot of insecurities. I would appreciate the advice of anyone on this forum who could look at this situation from the outside and provide me with their thoughts.
Firstly a little of background. I am a Christian and my ex was a Muslim. I am not a weak man, and have lead all of my relationships. I don’t supplicate to women.
I am mixed race, half Brazilian and have English, I am 6’2 and used to model for Armani, I currently work at an investment bank and financially do quite well. Please do not take this as being ostentatious I am just trying to provide you with a frame.
My girl was 22 years old, I am 24, she comes from an Islamic family that is very strict. Her mum and dad do not love each other yet stay together for the sake of the family. Her mom is also terminally ill and has about 1 year left. Her and I were madly in over from day one, she was smart, funny, laid back, financially independent and not demanding. The course of our relation I treated her very well, but was never weak. For 2 years she cooked my dinner Ironed my clothes and did the grocery shopping for my flat.( she still lives with her parents) …on Christmas she snuck out of the house and we went to Disneyland together. Fast forward…
One night we were making love after us both cooking dinner at my place. Everything was great. I drove her home at about 12 oclock am. At about 9 oclock the following day I got a call from her crying, she said it would not work out and that we had no future. This is a girl who I had been through so much with, My parents divorce, and ABORTION..and all of a sudden this out of the blue. I spoke with her that night and she cried for a couple of hours. I then just said whatever and went to bed.
The next day I went past her office to speak about this situation face to face. How can a woman break up with me on the phone after two years!!!!!!!!!!!11 Anyway she started to cry when I saw her, and was very sad. We spoke and she said the reason was that she did not want to disappoint her family and especially her mum who was ill, because they would not approve of me. WE kissed and she said she loved me. I let with no resolution.
1 month later and I still had not contacted her. I then called her to ask for directions to a hospital as I had cut my self badly. Rather than give me directions she walked to my place 25 minutes in the rain and took me to the doc. She sat on my lap and told me how much she missed me. We kissed again and she almost cried.
I then did not speak to her for two week, and had the intention of never speaking to her again. However on the way to work yesterday we saw each other on the underground. We got off together and talked she grabbed me and said she missed me. There was a lot of heavy flirting and touching between both of us and I could see when I looked at her she still loves me. I walked her too work (we work ten minutes walk away from each other) and we kissed again on the cheek. She said I should call her ( I had been ignoring her attempts to make contact until now, She had tried to text me or call me but I did not reply to ANY of them)
I still love this girl but I don t want to go through all of this again. It destroyed all of my beliefs about men/ women and attraction.
I f i dont contact her, will she get over me...
Please help. Your advise would be invaluable.
Thank you
Firstly a little of background. I am a Christian and my ex was a Muslim. I am not a weak man, and have lead all of my relationships. I don’t supplicate to women.
I am mixed race, half Brazilian and have English, I am 6’2 and used to model for Armani, I currently work at an investment bank and financially do quite well. Please do not take this as being ostentatious I am just trying to provide you with a frame.
My girl was 22 years old, I am 24, she comes from an Islamic family that is very strict. Her mum and dad do not love each other yet stay together for the sake of the family. Her mom is also terminally ill and has about 1 year left. Her and I were madly in over from day one, she was smart, funny, laid back, financially independent and not demanding. The course of our relation I treated her very well, but was never weak. For 2 years she cooked my dinner Ironed my clothes and did the grocery shopping for my flat.( she still lives with her parents) …on Christmas she snuck out of the house and we went to Disneyland together. Fast forward…
One night we were making love after us both cooking dinner at my place. Everything was great. I drove her home at about 12 oclock am. At about 9 oclock the following day I got a call from her crying, she said it would not work out and that we had no future. This is a girl who I had been through so much with, My parents divorce, and ABORTION..and all of a sudden this out of the blue. I spoke with her that night and she cried for a couple of hours. I then just said whatever and went to bed.
The next day I went past her office to speak about this situation face to face. How can a woman break up with me on the phone after two years!!!!!!!!!!!11 Anyway she started to cry when I saw her, and was very sad. We spoke and she said the reason was that she did not want to disappoint her family and especially her mum who was ill, because they would not approve of me. WE kissed and she said she loved me. I let with no resolution.
1 month later and I still had not contacted her. I then called her to ask for directions to a hospital as I had cut my self badly. Rather than give me directions she walked to my place 25 minutes in the rain and took me to the doc. She sat on my lap and told me how much she missed me. We kissed again and she almost cried.
I then did not speak to her for two week, and had the intention of never speaking to her again. However on the way to work yesterday we saw each other on the underground. We got off together and talked she grabbed me and said she missed me. There was a lot of heavy flirting and touching between both of us and I could see when I looked at her she still loves me. I walked her too work (we work ten minutes walk away from each other) and we kissed again on the cheek. She said I should call her ( I had been ignoring her attempts to make contact until now, She had tried to text me or call me but I did not reply to ANY of them)
I still love this girl but I don t want to go through all of this again. It destroyed all of my beliefs about men/ women and attraction.
I f i dont contact her, will she get over me...
Please help. Your advise would be invaluable.
Thank you