As I mentioned earlier, when seduction guides tell people to adopt an "abundance mentality" they're telling them to PRETEND to have abundance and act accordingly; your actual level of abundance does not matter. My concern was whether working on pretending to have abundance was worth your time if you have Incel-tier looks, since I suspect women know full well which men have no options and will figure out quickly that you're just bluffing by going cold,
I appreciate the effort you put into your post and will put your advice into practice, but... 3-4 dates a MONTH?! You should realise that I am so far behind the curve and have such a vanishingly low level of SMV that reading this claim is no different to reading a hypothetical promise that I'll be able to climb and descend Mount Everest three or four times in a single day after just 18 months of athletic training. I'm not saying I won't make an effort anyway nor do I mean to disrespect anything you or anyone else has written, but time and time again I have read seduction advice written by people who have either never participated in the Generation Z dating market as an equal (i.e. not leveraging money to close an age gap) or assume the achievement of "basic" prerequisite milestones that they're not aware would actually be like ten Christmases at once for an increasingly large number of men. Back in the late 90s and early 2000s very few men were adult virgins not by choice and you could expect the median "Average Frustrated Chump" turning to the seduction community to have had, at worst, an unsuccessful and sexless dating relationship with a girl, but usually at least one previous long(ish)-term girlfriend that he banged if not a lucky hookup, but nowadays there are millions of "totally socially invisible" adult virgin men that are at their wits' end after trying unsuccessfully for years just to get a first date.
For context, yes, I am one of them. I am also short, fat, autistic, and ugly, rating myself a 3.5/10 or a 4 on a good day, and I am still a virgin at age 24, although to be fair I have only done 69 approaches thus far and am not allowing myself to quit until the year is 2030 or I complete 1,000 approaches, whichever comes first. Any time I go out to a bar or club in America I consider it a very successful night if every woman I encounter treats me like a HUMAN BEING - on multiple occasions girls have told me that they "have a boyfriend", told me to "go away" when I was just walking past them on a packed dance floor, actually called me out for making a joke that didn't land instead of just acting disinterested, pretended to be friendly to me instead of giving me negative cues only to finally snap and tell me to **** off when I had the gall to keep being friendly back, or were so creeped out by me that they felt the need to tell a mutual acquaintance to tell me to back off instead of even saying it themselves - and ALL of these cases were girls that weren't even approach targets, and to whom I wasn't saying or doing anything unambiguously flirtatious!
The number one demotivator for me is this sort of subhuman treatment, because I CAN tell when a girl is not interested and back off, and by cutting me off like this the girl is making false assumptions that I am a pushy creep based on my looks alone. Of course, I'm jaded to the core, have no ****s left to give and have virtually no respect for modern young women (anybody who still does after going through what I've been through is a turbosimp), but I have to play nice to avoid being banned from venues or MeTooed. Also, this problem seems to be exclusive to American thots and has never happened when I went clubbing in Korea or Ukraine - nightlife is actually fun there and I don't need to force myself to pretend to enjoy it, despite still getting no results.
I am a very late bloomer because although I got my first romantic crushes at the usual time, for whatever reason I had no standalone sex drive as such until I was 19 years old. I also have several strong principles that I will never compromise on for any reason, regardless of the rewards (mostly to provide some element of stability and stop me from going completely off my rocker rather than for the purpose of moral grandstanding) and these are that I won't lie to people (except if it's about mice or recorders; long story as to why those are the exceptions), and that I won't completely reinvent my personality and live a lie for ulterior motives.
I have yet to fully kick my longtime computer addiction but when I do, I am only going to pursue in-person hobbies that interest me, not endure yoga classes, for instance, purely because they are target-rich environments (and even then only in theory). I also find very few people worth having as platonic friends, and I do not gain enough from platonic friendships that they are worth making an effort to seek out; most friends are a means to an end but again, acting chummy with people just for material benefits goes against my principles.
I will definitely hit the gym and try to lose 20 kilos if for no other reason than to be able to ski at a high level again. As far as fashion goes, I basically never stopped dressing like a Hong Kong schoolboy (this isn't helped by the fact that I'm broke, and even if I wasn't would likely still be a miser who hates spending money; I can count on one hand the number of articles of clothing other than socks and underwear that I have bought new), but when I change this, it's going to be to what I like the look of, not to what is "fashionable". For instance I like growing my nails out to the point that I am strongly considering getting fake ones installed; so ****ing what if girls that are too busy riding Chad's **** to give me a second glance anyway mistake me for a homosexual? I have realised lately that I have been playing fast and loose with my principles this whole time by being overly conformist, and how many dates has that bloody gotten me so far? Now that I'm all out of ****s left to give I am going to play by my own rules alone (within reason) because I'd rather be alone and happy than alone and bored. I know I am playing the game on "I Am Death Incarnate" mode but if I have to sacrifice my soul to play it on Hard Mode, it's a game I'd rather not play at all. Anyway, I'll try to open at least one girl on campus tomorrow and report back.
