how morally wrong is this?

[Robert28]

how morally wrong is it for a 30 year old guy who will be turning 31 in 2 weeks(me) to go out with a 19 year old girl(she just turned 19 two weeks ago)? she asked me out and has been pursuing me btw. this girl is BEAUTIFUL, and i'm not looking for anything serious and neither is she. her words were "i just want to go out with a mature guy for a change and have fun with someone who treats me right". she sent me a text earlier asking me to come over Wednesday night. you don't see many 19 year old girls going after 30 year old guys, especially really hot ones, so i wanted to get ya'lls take on this.

 

[CuriousGirl]

If you get on it's not morally wrong. One of my 19 yr old friends was sleeping with one of my 30 yr old friends before she moved away and that was fine, they got on well and it was just a bit of fun. If you both want the same thing and treat each other with respect then it's fine.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

She's over 18, She's an adult. Theres nothing wrong about it.

 

[Robert28]

well she seems like a cool girl, but being realistic i don't expect her to be on my level of maturity and be in the same point of life since she is only 19 afterall. she does have her own place so that says alot for her. what i don't get though is i've been getting rejected here lately by decent looking girls around my age and then here comes some georgeous 19 yr old who asks me out. it kind of makes you stop and think "wtf is going on in the world?!".lol i thought most 19 year old girls would view guys my age as "creepers".

 

[Illuminatus]

how morally wrong is it for a 30 year old guy who will be turning 31 in 2 weeks(me) to go out with a 19 year old girl(she just turned 19 two weeks ago)? she asked me out and has been pursuing me btw. this girl is BEAUTIFUL, and i'm not looking for anything serious and neither is she. her words were "i just want to go out with a mature guy for a change and have fun with someone who treats me right". she sent me a text earlier asking me to come over Wednesday night. you don't see many 19 year old girls going after 30 year old guys, especially really hot ones, so i wanted to get ya'lls take on this.

No morals involved dude. And you'll probably have the lay of your life!

As you get older the younger girls just become more and more attractive. When I was 25 I dated a 17-year-old girl (that's legal here in the UK by the way) and she was hot as anything!

Enjoy!

 

[I'm in the Mood]

I think you should go out with her. It might make you reconsider whether in the dating world age really matters. And why not, it's an opportunity for a new experience.

At the same time though, you should probably figure out why you keep getting rejected by women around your age!

P.S. You can answer your own question in the OP if you know what your personal morals are. Maybe you need to define some of the undefined things in your life.

 

[Robert28]

I think you should go out with her. It might make you reconsider whether in the dating world age really matters. And why not, it's an opportunity for a new experience.

At the same time though, you should probably figure out why you keep getting rejected by women around your age!

P.S. You can answer your own question in the OP if you know what your personal morals are. Maybe you need to define some of the undefined things in your life.

well i think women around my age hold two strikes against me right off the bat...A) i'm 30 going on 31 and have never been married. many reasons led to this, i wanted to go to college and play football, graduate, get my MBA, start my own business and get it rolling along, i saw all my friends get married young and live paycheck to paycheck only to be miserable and get divorced and REALLY get screwed, i didn't want kids at a young age and i'm not 100% positive that i want them now. B) i don't have any kids and that to them is a red flag, but in my opinion it's a plus because it shows that my train knows what time to pull out of the station, i don't mind a $.75 investment, and i'm responsible when it comes to sex.

younger women, such as this girl see a guy with no baggage, has money, still knows how to have fun, and i guess they get curious.

i also think that women my age who have been divorced once or twice, some 3 times....have a few kids, some have a few by different dads, they've gotten fat and yet they STILL think they can command high standards when it comes to guys. it's like they're looking for their next husband or potential sperm donor when youre out on the first date and the slightest thing they dont like will run them off. they dont go on the date to have fun. they'll want to go on a few dates and then be "commited". screw that, you have to WORK at commitment. if i'm still able to pull a really hot 19 year old girl, then i think the girls my age need to realize that guys like me aren't going to put up with their crazy high standards when they can go get a firmer/nicer body somewhere else without all the "when are we gonna get married? how many kids do you want? how much do you make?" b.s.

 

[5string]

Robert

You need to be slapped for even asking this. There is nothing wrong with you going out with a 19 yr old. Now you just get out there, have fun and enjoy her company.

We want a FR including all the nasty details.

Get it done.

 

[Stagger Lee]

I think it is morally wrong that society tries to suggest it is wrong for a 30 year-old guy to go out with, have sex with, date or even marry a 19 year-old. I'd even extended the age of the guy and lower the age of the girl. Nature through puberty and sexual development tells us when it is right.


I admit that there is sometimes a maturity issue but that is not always dependent on age and age diferential. A lot of 30-something women are not mature and sometimes less mature than some 19 year olds.

 

[DarkShade]

Hit It With The Force Of An Angry God For Crying Out Loud

:i

 

[Sir Psycho Sexy]

Older women are glorified for doing the same thing your on the fence about. Theres nothing wrong with it.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

It would be morally wrong for you to take women's social shaming tactics to heart and NOT get after it with this beautiful 19 year old.

 

[sexysuave]

It would be morally wrong for you to take women's social shaming tactics to heart and NOT get after it with this beautiful 19 year old.

What EVERYONE said, lol, go for it!! What in the WORLD made you even hesitate?! Tear it up and give us a FR lol, step by step

 

[Mike32ct]

Robert

You need to be slapped for even asking this. There is nothing wrong with you going out with a 19 yr old. Now you just get out there, have fun and enjoy her company.

We want a FR including all the nasty details.

Get it done.

^This.

If you don't, you will be kicking yourself later.

Actually you'll be screaming and b@tch slapping yourself years later if you don't lol.

 

[Alex DeLarge]

She's legal, she's beautiful.. I think it would be immoral to NOT go out with her!

 

[penkitten]

robert, no one else can answer what is morally right or wrong for you. your mortality is between you and your maker (if you are relgious). if you feel that it is all good, then it is. she is a legal adult.

 

[st_99]

dude, get after that. nuff said.

 

[Roxas]

It seems okay, you're both old enough I guess. I'm only 17 though so I'm not an expert at age boundaries. One of my sisters is in her 20s dating a guy in her 30s, and they seem to get along pretty well.

Also, do you think there's any real limit for what age bracket I should be dating? I'm not sure if it's something just in my head, or something real. I go for girls around my age. 15-19. I don't go 14 and under obviously, and I've found that girls 20+ get turned off by my age.

I don't want to lie about my age to older girls, and don't want to date any younger than I do. Do you think I should start going after more older girls? (Assuming I don't lie or avoid the age topic).

 

[PUK]

Nothing morally wrong

Don't let the age get in the way of some hot punani!
(note under 17 is wrong)

 

[Mr Wright]

As an 18 year old, my instant reaction(due to conditioning from society was) OMG THATS SICK! Then i sat down and compared it to some of the things ive done and realised that, thats not that bad at all. She knows the deal, you know the deal. Go and have fun!