How long can you bang a girl without catching feelings?

[BadBoy89]

How long can you bang a girl without catching feelings?

Forever.

 

[soulforge]

It depends…certain type of girls I just catch feelings for regardless of if I’m in spinning plates or not. It’s always the bubbly, adventurous type women for me

The bubbly adventurous types.. risky business.

 

[soulforge]

Define what is meant by "catch feelings".

Is this synomous with falling in love?

Yeh I would say so.. maybe not so much falling in love, but more enjoying being around them and not wanting that to end.

 

[jhonny9546]

if your system produces this as expected then it will happen

We're saying that oneitis it's a biological thing

 

[plumber]

We're saying that oneitis it's a biological thing

partially. but tell me again exactly what is oneitis. how does it start and how does it end. making sure we talk about same same.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

but more enjoying being around them and not wanting that to end.

The problem is, not being able to accept when (if) it ends.

No one wants a good thing to end..but when you can put yourself in a mental space where your mentality is that of indifference..

"Dont get me wrong, she's cool and we share great times together...but I'm good with her, and I'm good without her."

This^ is the mentality a man should have, at ALL TIMES.

And if you ain't at that level, you have some leveling up to do.
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A man with an abundance mindset (and/or with plate options), don't have such problems.

But a man with a scarcity mindset, may run into these kinds of issues.

These issues fade away when you are having the proper rotations.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

There are many factors that go into it for me. Sometimes it happens very quickly, sometimes it never happens. Sometimes it happens when I'm in a dry spell and have little to no options, something it happens when I have a rotation going and have much higher relative SMV/abundance. I can't even draw a correlation between how attractive the woman is/how good the sex is and the likelihood of catching feels, I've been with attractive woman and had great sex but had zero feelings for her.

The only thing that does seem to be a factor is how much much chemistry/connection I have with the woman but even that isn't very correlated with how likely I am to catch feelings or not catch feelings.

No one wants a good thing to end..but when you can put yourself in a mental space where your mentality is that of indifference..
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These issues fade away when you are having the proper rotations.

I believe it's a big mistake to rely on an external strategy like plate spinning as a cope for a lack of adundance/indifference. Why would a man need to rely on other women unless he was afraid of scarcity? What happens if the rotation dries up? The point is, indifference/abundance is something you cultivate internally, not externally.

I've been seeing a girl for 4 months now and I have zero feelings from her and I wouldn't give a shvt if I never saw her or talked to her again. I'm not seeing any other woman and quite frankly don't have the time, energy, or desire to. So doesn't that mean I should have onetis for her?

Yet there have also been times where I *was* plate spinning, sleeping with multiple attractive women and constantly talking to new ones, but I still developed onetis for one particular girl, because my sex-addled brain was so distracted from juggling all of them that I wasn't paying attention to manipulative tactics that got me attached to her.

If a man is prone to getting scarcity/onetis and he tries to use plate spinning as a preventive measure, it's cope. Why? Because he's not actually addressing the root of the problems ie inner game, which is paramount even in plate spinning because the game never end, women will manipulate any man who shows signs of weakness, carelessness, etc.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

I believe it's a big mistake to rely on an external strategy like plate spinning as a cope for a lack of adundance/indifference. Why would a man need to rely on other women unless he was afraid of scarcity? What happens if the rotation dries up? The point is, indifference/abundance is something you cultivate internally, not externally.

I hear you.

You say, it comes from the inside-out.

I say, it comes from the outside-in.

Dissecting both concepts is a task.

I am reminded of a dated Chris Rock bit, when he was speaking on the OJ Simpson murder trial, the concept of divorce, and men that pay alimony.

"If you have 20 million, and your wife wants 10 million (in a divorce), big deal. You ain't starving."

"But if you only have $30,000, and your wife wants $15,000; you may have to kill her".



That^ sums up the abundance vs scarcity mindset, in a nutshell.
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Losing one, if you have 10..doesn't have the same effect of losing one, if you only have 2.

That's why guys should always be out there playing the game and building up your rotations...because relationships fizzle, grow stale, and run it's course.

 

[jhonny9546]

I've been seeing a girl for 4 months now and I have zero feelings from her and I wouldn't give a shvt if I never saw her or talked to her again.

Why do you keep her so?

Because he's not actually addressing the root of the problems ie inner game, which is paramount even in plate spinning because the game never end, women will manipulate any man who shows signs of weakness, carelessness, etc.

How do you test your inner game in the specific scenario?


Also, I must admit that If a woman show me what I'm searching for .. a "good match", I could get "affectionated", quickly. That's not oneitis, but I start to develop a sort of "respect" for her person, wanting to show her to "love" herself like I do. (taking care with my fitness, diet, grooming, going out for walks, being social, being in nature, be kind, etc..)

I wont start bringing her any sort of gifts or buy stuff, but actually wanting to create or make activities for our time togheter, like reserving my time with her after the thing I usually do on my lifestile, like doing a card game, or going for a walk, or a dinner, being out visiting a place.

It's more like what you do with your "best" male friends..

That's why guys should always be out there playing the game and building up your rotations...because relationships fizzle, grow stale, and run it's course.

The rotation thing is not endless. There will come a point where the age gap with single women will create problems in terms of connection and they will only be with you for the money. That is why the further you go, the harder it is to rotate. You will have single mothers and you will have to take that into account.