ALOT of talk is on board about feminism, anti-feminism, women, men, etc, and some believe it exists, others are skeptical, some still point the finger at negativity.
It is all of that, and then some. Let's stick with the FACTS though. I'll begin with an analogy.
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If you sat in a pot of water, and I squeaked the temperature up by 1 degree every minute, it would go from say 70 degrees to 130 over an hour. Over 2 hours, you'd be at 180 degrees. By the time it was too late, you'd be burnt or scalding hot. Because the INCREMENTAL increase occurred so slowly, so subtely that you had no chance to react. You were not AWARE or sensitive to the situations around you.
The same things occur in business. Most get so CONSUMED paying attention to making a living, to paying bills, that life passes them by, and 20 years later, the marriage they had is dead, the money they made is not enough, the car they drive is broken, the house they have is requiring of repair, and so on.
A cautious stance is OFTEN not advocated because MOST live for today. They live for "the temperature it is", and feel "they can live with it." Eventually you accept the temperature a little more. Then a little more. Then a little more. Until you've reached ROCK BOTTOM.
The same happens in relationships. Sometimes it's 1 fight, or 1 date blown off, or 1 time she bursts out, or 1 casual sex partner, then another, and another. Growth, progression, happens ever so slightly, over such a period of time that when you REALIZE IT, it often TOO late.
The same applies to relationships, to the state of affairs of men vs. women, society and so forth. It takes a "tweak" here, a "change" there, a new "law", a new "regulation," a new "socially acceptable trend." And bam...where you are, is it where you want to be? Do you question the progression? The norm? The situation?
The same casualness applied NOW, is where we will BE. Do you like that? Do you want it to change? At what point does it change?
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Facts (some observations, too).
1. Women mature MUCH younger physically then boys. In MOST cases, guys don't actually reach a physical peak until their late 20's, when they're lifting, earning some real money to enhance their image, and have strong self-confidence. Conversely, women reach a peak period from 14 to about 28, with some TRUE exceptions beyond 30, and the rare exceptions being those women with ACTIVE interest in maintaining themselves BEYOND 30 (not a large % though).
That said...their IMPRESSION of the world begins to SHAPE around them, all the way they have no FAWKING clue who they are, what they want, what life is about, and what to do. At an age when impressions, and confidence is formed, most BEAUTIES and a good number of NON-beauties are thrust UPON a throne because of their looks and the social regard for beauty. Beyond that, they also see how revered women are in history, in magazines, on TV, in movies, and basically everywhere. How, with a few moves of their hips, some lowcut shirts, and a skirt can really change things.
2. Birth Control DISCOUNTED the risks of SEX and PREGNANCY. With the PILL and CONDOMNS, most DISEASES are prevented. But it's not the DISEASES that are bad, it's the emotional BAGGAGE acquired, and the emotional stability that is LOST over a decade of casual sex.
What would your view of the world be if you hopped from bed to bed, between the ages of 18 and 28? Some guys do, but we DO developed a more CASUAL view of the world. I would admit that to be true.
You KNOW if sex is there, you can move onto another partner IF they don't suit you to a "T".
3. Girls, by and large, DO NOT learn much in home human values. I.e. they do not learn householding activities, nor do they get 'scummy' jobs like their mothers and grandmother's used to. In some ways, this is good socially, in other ways, it leaves a person NOT appreciating life as it is. It also leaves ALOT of poor work values OUT. Guys who bust their asses, APPRECIATE when good work comes along. Additionally, they realize they MUST work hard because MEN are afforded NO sense of Dependency or Any sort of income steam, via marriage or parents or state welfare by having a child.
4. Life has changed DRAMATICALLY for women, whereas it has remained DRAMATICALLY the same for men. We are EFFECTED by outside events, more than we are EFFECTING them. Women have been freed from the home-slavery by way of the washing machine, kitchen, fast food, longer school hours / forced schooling, college, daycare, gym daycare, the welfare state, computers, automation, easy vacuuming, simple home furnishing, easy bake foods, dry cleaners, and so on.
While their UP keep of the home has been abated, have they added MORE VALUE to it?
I know lots of women that do not have to do what my mother and grandmother did, but now they spend MORE money constantly REDECORATING it! Most guys know TONS of women doing this. They've become their own personal GC.
And because they've been FREED from the home, laws and regulations have been passed to FORCE employers, both public and private to HIRE women in the workplace, and afforded them certain benefits by way of having children, such as maternity leave. Additionally, their passivity and sensitivity in the workplace begs many questions as to HOW productive it can be when you're THINKING so much about working, and working conditions, versus actualy getting the job done. A little PROCESS versus PROGRESS thinking.
5. Marketing is geared toward the "matriarch"...which is also the root for MATERIAL, hence the obsessions with MATERIAL GOODS and a MATERIAL LIFESTYLE. This push toward women, inevitably LEAKS toward our pockets, men. Since they do the BRUNT of the spending and THEY DO it mostly on emotion, commercials FOCUS on that.
Guys buy logically, normally in a slower manner. MOST guys will price out, size out, and customize the purchase of a TV for their home. RARE is it when men run out to BUY a plasma TV.
6. Schooling, particularly colleges, gear themselves toward women. Any GUY heard of MASCULINE studies? I've never joined a German or Irish club, whereas there are PLENTY of other clubs for almost every other supposed minority.
7. Watch the media. I don't have to point out how much STUFF and CRAP slips through that APPEARS cool but is actually pretty gross and damaging, particularly to little girls just growing up. Role models for women are NON existent, other than their mothers, who may or MAY NOT be @ home.
Ever watch a H.S. get out? I have 1 across the St, I can't tell the difference between girls of my age bracket and the high schoolers. More over, they're dressing MORE and MORE like they're going to clubs and NOT to school where they are to learn. Instead, forced schooling is a social playground where kids WRONGLY learn things about life...
-looks matter
-grades matter
-social approval matters
-pick on people
-money matters
If you don't think it happens, look back on yourself and your time, and reconsider it. Sure, now, that you're enlightened maybe it's true you're aware, but back then you weren't, and it can certainly do MORE damage.
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What's to happen?
I'll leave that up as the remainder of a discussion for this thread.
A-Unit
It is all of that, and then some. Let's stick with the FACTS though. I'll begin with an analogy.
---------------------
If you sat in a pot of water, and I squeaked the temperature up by 1 degree every minute, it would go from say 70 degrees to 130 over an hour. Over 2 hours, you'd be at 180 degrees. By the time it was too late, you'd be burnt or scalding hot. Because the INCREMENTAL increase occurred so slowly, so subtely that you had no chance to react. You were not AWARE or sensitive to the situations around you.
The same things occur in business. Most get so CONSUMED paying attention to making a living, to paying bills, that life passes them by, and 20 years later, the marriage they had is dead, the money they made is not enough, the car they drive is broken, the house they have is requiring of repair, and so on.
A cautious stance is OFTEN not advocated because MOST live for today. They live for "the temperature it is", and feel "they can live with it." Eventually you accept the temperature a little more. Then a little more. Then a little more. Until you've reached ROCK BOTTOM.
The same happens in relationships. Sometimes it's 1 fight, or 1 date blown off, or 1 time she bursts out, or 1 casual sex partner, then another, and another. Growth, progression, happens ever so slightly, over such a period of time that when you REALIZE IT, it often TOO late.
The same applies to relationships, to the state of affairs of men vs. women, society and so forth. It takes a "tweak" here, a "change" there, a new "law", a new "regulation," a new "socially acceptable trend." And bam...where you are, is it where you want to be? Do you question the progression? The norm? The situation?
The same casualness applied NOW, is where we will BE. Do you like that? Do you want it to change? At what point does it change?
------------------------
Facts (some observations, too).
1. Women mature MUCH younger physically then boys. In MOST cases, guys don't actually reach a physical peak until their late 20's, when they're lifting, earning some real money to enhance their image, and have strong self-confidence. Conversely, women reach a peak period from 14 to about 28, with some TRUE exceptions beyond 30, and the rare exceptions being those women with ACTIVE interest in maintaining themselves BEYOND 30 (not a large % though).
That said...their IMPRESSION of the world begins to SHAPE around them, all the way they have no FAWKING clue who they are, what they want, what life is about, and what to do. At an age when impressions, and confidence is formed, most BEAUTIES and a good number of NON-beauties are thrust UPON a throne because of their looks and the social regard for beauty. Beyond that, they also see how revered women are in history, in magazines, on TV, in movies, and basically everywhere. How, with a few moves of their hips, some lowcut shirts, and a skirt can really change things.
2. Birth Control DISCOUNTED the risks of SEX and PREGNANCY. With the PILL and CONDOMNS, most DISEASES are prevented. But it's not the DISEASES that are bad, it's the emotional BAGGAGE acquired, and the emotional stability that is LOST over a decade of casual sex.
What would your view of the world be if you hopped from bed to bed, between the ages of 18 and 28? Some guys do, but we DO developed a more CASUAL view of the world. I would admit that to be true.
You KNOW if sex is there, you can move onto another partner IF they don't suit you to a "T".
3. Girls, by and large, DO NOT learn much in home human values. I.e. they do not learn householding activities, nor do they get 'scummy' jobs like their mothers and grandmother's used to. In some ways, this is good socially, in other ways, it leaves a person NOT appreciating life as it is. It also leaves ALOT of poor work values OUT. Guys who bust their asses, APPRECIATE when good work comes along. Additionally, they realize they MUST work hard because MEN are afforded NO sense of Dependency or Any sort of income steam, via marriage or parents or state welfare by having a child.
4. Life has changed DRAMATICALLY for women, whereas it has remained DRAMATICALLY the same for men. We are EFFECTED by outside events, more than we are EFFECTING them. Women have been freed from the home-slavery by way of the washing machine, kitchen, fast food, longer school hours / forced schooling, college, daycare, gym daycare, the welfare state, computers, automation, easy vacuuming, simple home furnishing, easy bake foods, dry cleaners, and so on.
While their UP keep of the home has been abated, have they added MORE VALUE to it?
I know lots of women that do not have to do what my mother and grandmother did, but now they spend MORE money constantly REDECORATING it! Most guys know TONS of women doing this. They've become their own personal GC.
And because they've been FREED from the home, laws and regulations have been passed to FORCE employers, both public and private to HIRE women in the workplace, and afforded them certain benefits by way of having children, such as maternity leave. Additionally, their passivity and sensitivity in the workplace begs many questions as to HOW productive it can be when you're THINKING so much about working, and working conditions, versus actualy getting the job done. A little PROCESS versus PROGRESS thinking.
5. Marketing is geared toward the "matriarch"...which is also the root for MATERIAL, hence the obsessions with MATERIAL GOODS and a MATERIAL LIFESTYLE. This push toward women, inevitably LEAKS toward our pockets, men. Since they do the BRUNT of the spending and THEY DO it mostly on emotion, commercials FOCUS on that.
Guys buy logically, normally in a slower manner. MOST guys will price out, size out, and customize the purchase of a TV for their home. RARE is it when men run out to BUY a plasma TV.
6. Schooling, particularly colleges, gear themselves toward women. Any GUY heard of MASCULINE studies? I've never joined a German or Irish club, whereas there are PLENTY of other clubs for almost every other supposed minority.
7. Watch the media. I don't have to point out how much STUFF and CRAP slips through that APPEARS cool but is actually pretty gross and damaging, particularly to little girls just growing up. Role models for women are NON existent, other than their mothers, who may or MAY NOT be @ home.
Ever watch a H.S. get out? I have 1 across the St, I can't tell the difference between girls of my age bracket and the high schoolers. More over, they're dressing MORE and MORE like they're going to clubs and NOT to school where they are to learn. Instead, forced schooling is a social playground where kids WRONGLY learn things about life...
-looks matter
-grades matter
-social approval matters
-pick on people
-money matters
If you don't think it happens, look back on yourself and your time, and reconsider it. Sure, now, that you're enlightened maybe it's true you're aware, but back then you weren't, and it can certainly do MORE damage.
-----------------------------
What's to happen?
I'll leave that up as the remainder of a discussion for this thread.
A-Unit