How is it possible for gay guys to find a man extremely attractive, yet the ladies largely view him as invisible?

[GoodMan32]

A lot of gay guys view me as extremely attractive (not merely slightly above average). How do I know? Because gay guys have told me they find me extremely attractive.

On the other hand, it's a well-known fact on this forum that I'm largely invisible to the ladies.

I'm wondering how there could be such a massive mismatch between how a gay man views me vs how a straight woman views me.

At the base level, a gay man and a straight woman are sexually interested in the same population: Men.

So you'd think a gay man and a straight woman would (more or less) agree on who's extremely attractive.

The fact it's more socially acceptable for a man to make a move (than it is for a woman to make a move) might at least partially explain why I get more attention from gay guys than straight gals. That being said, Chads are one subgroup a woman will make a move on.

If I really am the Chad a lot of gay guys make it sound like I am, you'd think I'd get lots of attention from the ladies.

 

[New_Journey]

Cause gay men have the same Logic Brain that heterosexuals men have. For men first is: Physically attractive guy = arousal therefore sex.

For women is much complicated, its a combination of physique, status, how he projects value and emotional strength.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Gay guys are more assertive than women.

For example. I get a haircut in a few times year at a place that serves a shot of whisky with your cut. One shot. However. I’ve twice, within the last year gotten two shots.
Once, the cashier (female) came by, saw my empty glass, smiled & said ‘you want one more?’
Another time. the barber (male) said ‘you’re handsome, you get another shot.’

Guys tend to be (often. but not always). more direct.

TBH. I’m not sure the barber was gay. As straight guys have called me ‘handsome’ too.