This will certainly be the case for a lot of people, but in my personal experience I would switch two words here
No argument there. You gotta be congruent. You gotta know your style. Clothes and shoes and watches & cars are all accessories that say things about who we are. So no you shouldn’t try to be someone you are not...but you should strive to be the best you. I’m a high end girl. Always have been. Gucci and Prada and yada yada. But I also am understated. My stuff doesn’t scream the brand at all. I’m not a blatantly obvious label person. I find that garish. I’d rather have things that are only recognizable to others who have the taste to know what something is. Like an Hermes bag or scarf. Louis Vuitton is almost too logo centric for me. I do like the Burberry plaid though. It’s recognizable but not as garish as some logos.
But there’s also this...
Quality things last. My father wore Bally dress shoes. He was a big guy at 6’4” 250lbs. He must have resoled those Bally shoes 3 times but he had them 40 years. I’ve got Gucci, Chanel and Prada shoes I’ve had for 25 years. I’ve resoled my Prada boots, but they are classic and timeless so will never go out of style...and I bought two pair 20 some years ago so if I ever do wear the first pair out I’ve got the second pair in the box in the little felt shoe bags...
I feel better if I make the effort to look my best. But I like myself just fine in any case.
And I love Herve Leger dresses. I must have 20 of them. They look amazing on a good female form. These dresses retail from $750 upwards of $2000...and I have never paid retail for a single one. Every head turns in those dresses. That always feels nice.
So yes. It’s all about your vibe and how you feel. The wrong look can mess up your vibe as much as the right look (congruent with who you are) can enhance your vibe,
Seems to me that many men are so clueless about clothing that they dress sloppy or comfy etc. and call it good...and they can feel out of sorts when they try to improve their look and their style. If a man finds himself in that situation I think the thing to do is ease into changing your look. A guy in Levi’s and a t shirt still feels like a Levi’s & t shirt dude even if you put him in an Armani suit. He will feel weird, at least for awhile.
So we get back to doing what fits with you (and accepting the segment of women you naturally attract existing as you do)...