how i do i control myself from hurting her?

[Mahmudul Hasan]

It did, because you were preaching about how you're "beta" and found the "perfect girl". You responded to my post there that you would marry her.

It's been a month...ONE MONTH...and you're now hurling personal insults trying to emotionally wound this woman.

So, either you ARE a beta, this won't work out, and you'll have to learn what the real world is like - and decide whether you're going to improve to meet its standards/learn to think before you speak.

Or, there's something that's NOT so perfect about this girl, which is why you're having these arguments where you get so angry.

I get angry on many things that's why we argue and she is still perfect to me. she never once flirted with other boys and she is not the type to want me to get into trouble for her problems

 

[Mahmudul Hasan]

Nobody has mentioned the fact that women excel at arguing.

They will force you to argue over nothing and then refuse to leave you alone. They insult you passive aggressively, then claim to be the victim, as victimhood is all they truly desire.

I don't know OP, he could be a drunk idiot. Sounds like it.

But I also say mean sh1t when cornered, and women have always cornered me. They love it.

one thing i can say is that she doesn't insult at all. victimhood happens but never insults me

 

[BPH]

I get angry on many things that's why we argue and she is still perfect to me. she never once flirted with other boys and she is not the type to want me to get into trouble for her problems

The relationship is doomed, you need to work on yourself and she's likely not as perfect as you keep telling us she is.

Whether you figure that out now or later, makes no difference to me. Keep telling yourself whatever you want.

 

[Barrister]

OP,

You are very young and just don’t seem to know how to control your emotions. Some of this will come with time as you mature. In meantime, you may want to try to discover the WHY as to why you lash out so easily. Could be childhood trauma that you aren’t very far removed from.

I used to be against it as a younger man but a good counselor could be a great sounding board for you on a personal basis and help you understand this. Good luck, OP.