What I've noticed with most women over 30 is they (unlike their 20 y.o competition), is they want shyte FAST. Too fast. Everyone is serial dating and it numbs us as all.
That's mainly for women 30+ who want children. Women 30+ who want children want to accelerate things fast because of the biological clock. Women 30+ who don't want children are as content to move at a pace similar to a 20 something.
I think stuff like social media and dating apps made it worse.
Getting back to the dating apps, I have plenty of guy friends who pay for Tinder Gold just so they can swipe on every girl and filter them out later. So now the average 4s and 5s even have plenty of matches and inflated sense of ego because they can have any guy they want...now that being the case, imagine how many options an 8 or 9 has.
I asked a woman on a date for the first time in 1999 as a 16 year old. Social media wasn't around then and dating websites were a thing, but still stigmatized for losers and not used by high schoolers or college aged people yet.
Social media became a thing in 2004 with both MySpace and Facebook launching around the same time.
Social media, smartphones, and dating apps were all around 10 years ago (2014). Dating apps have changed the way that a lot of people meet each other. Even after dating websites got de-stigmatized around the 2003-2005 era, they were never as widely adopted as dating apps have been.
If you were on dating websites like Match, Plenty of Fish, or OkCupid in the 2006-2012 era, a lot of the same things were going on then. Women on those websites then were getting their inboxes flooded by thirsty men. Tinder was invented to reduce inbox volume. Women could now only receive messages from men they wanted to receive messages from. Instead, women got a Likes queue that was similar to the hundreds of messages that they would have in their dating website era inbox. And more women used dating apps than dating websites because smartphones are everywhere. In the dating website era, a woman would have to log on to a less convenient desktop or laptop computer to deal with her messages.
Even with more women using apps than websites, apps are still sausagefests, just like websites were the sausagefests in the 2000s-early 2010s.
Dating apps have greatly affected nightlife. A woman in the 2010s-2020s has realized that she doesn't need to go out to bars 2-3 nights per week to meet men. A woman in the 2010s-2020s is able to get substantially more male suitors using swipe apps and Instagram as compared to a similarly aged woman from the 1990s-2000s was able to get going to bars 2-3 nights per week. That's not an incentive for women to get dressed, put on makeup, arrange transportation, and go out.
Smartphones, swipe apps, and social media have also impacted non-bar approaching as well. Meeting women at parks and on paths is now very difficult due to earbud use. So many women now use earbuds outdoors so outdoor approaching is difficult.
Nearly every woman now wears earbuds on the general gym floor, which makes that venue very challenging. It's the same story on the streets with both earbuds and looking down at the phones. Inside malls, a lot of women have their heads buried in their smartphones, making them less approachable. That's only true if they even go to malls anymore. Online shopping has reduced the necessity of many mall visits, reducing mall foot traffic. Online shopping hasn't affected the grocery store as much as the mall. In the late 2010s, I started seeing some earbuds in the grocery store but haven't since that as much in the 2020s. Women at grocery stores might look at their smartphones but that's less common there than in the other public places.
In general, women have also gotten less receptive to random, non-bar approaching due to smartphones, swipe apps, and social media.
I think what really ruined it was COVID...
Because COVID is when OnlyFans really took off and showed how lonely the average man is - willing to pay for a parasocial relationship despite p*** being free...
The free tube porn websites have been around since at least the late 2000s. Even in the early 2000s, free porn was accessible on the file sharing platforms. The adoption of high speed broadband internet made free porn more of a thing. Without high speed internet, someone would have had to buy porn DVDs in the late 1990s/early 2000s and that was a lot pricier than free porn. People even did pay per view porn from their cable TV provider or subscribed to a porn channel then. High speed internet ended that.
The popularity of porn in the high speed internet era has just shown the problems in the sexual marketplace. Men turn to porn because their real life sex lives are lacking. There has been a surplus of single men to single women in the under 40-45 age ranges since the early 2000s in most US metro areas. Women have had more abundance since then.
Men keep getting thirstier and women are rejecting a larger percentage of the male population.
Both porn and OnlyFans are symptoms of the disease.
