Build a social circle from scratch then
How do I do that after college tho? Especially post covid. American social culture is just so cliquey and closed off, there's just no sense of community anywhere and people aren't looking to get to know others
Your options are:
1. Swipe apps, where men face many disadvantages. Swipe apps are a big sausage fest and you're nowhere near the Top 10-20% in looks. At best, you'll be able to slam some overweight woman pussie with what you offer. And said overweight woman will probably put you through many hoops to do so. Many swipe app experiments show that overweight women have more abundance of Likes on the apps than Top 10-20% in looks men.
2. Instagram, where your profile is nowhere near optimization
3. Approaching strangers, either at nightlife venues or non-bar venues
4. Building a social circle
Your realistic options are Options 3 and 4.
Social circle introductions are the best option for a normie range guy. Most men are normie range.
Social circle is great for getting a girlfriend. Pay close attention to the words "a girlfriend". That means one girlfriend. If you're looking for an extended relationship (2-5 years or more), your best bet for getting that with the least amount of grief and frustration is social circle. Many men who get social circle girlfriends tend to retain those girlfriends for a long time and often beyond the useful life of the relationship. A lot of the social circle girlfriend guys are beta males and beta males operate from a scarcity mindset. It's common to see a 10 year+ relationship from social circle which does lead to a marriage proposal.
For men with social circles, the problem with the social circle method eventually becomes sustainability as social circles get pissed at men who continually exchange girlfriends, even if the relationships are semi-long (1-4 years). The behavior described in the last sentence is serial monogamy, so it is accurate to say that social circles get pissed off at serial monogamists. It is important to remember that social circles generally have a blue pill viewpoint on romantic relationships. A man might be able to pull 2 LTRs from a social circle without marrying one. After 2 instances, he will have typically bled the social circle dry. This is known as "poisoning the well".
When the paragraph above starts applying to men, they will either need to have stranger approaching skills, or they need to start developing them.
Most men with normie range looks will have a rather difficult time in approaching strangers for many reasons. It's inefficient. You'll probably be starting a lot of conversations with women with existing boyfriends, and that's even if you optimize your venue selection for approaching. The good thing is that most of those interactions will fall flat and die within 30-60 seconds, probably before she can even tell you she has a boyfriend.
Also, after about ages 30-35, if you were to build a social circle with similarly aged people, most of them would be in LTRs and the majority of their contacts would also be in LTRs and married. I'm 40 years old right now and all my mid-30s to mid-40s contacts are married people, and most of these marrieds have kids.
While I am not a social outcast due to my personality and vibe, I am in a different place in lifestyle than a lot of my social connections, and that impacts the relationships.
My social circle at this time cannot provide me with the introductions that I need to find dates. Even when I was 30, that was true as well. It's even possible to have friends but not have social connections that can provide you with meaningful introductions. When I was 30, my mid-20s to mid-30s contacts were either unattached people or people in extended, non-marital relationships who were all childless. Although my social circle was stronger on paper at 30 than 40, it still wasn't capable of anything meaningful.
I would say making friends after college age is pretty difficult anywhere in the world. It is possible, just slower. I would start getting involved in some clubs/societies/community stuff that are of your interest. Don’t use these environments to try pick up, just friends in general, preferably male friends first. Then female friends. You’ll start meeting the friends of the friends little by little. Filter and get out your way to make friends with social people who will invite you to events, get together, trips etc. I know, easier said than done, because of the initial shallow traits of these interactions, you might be tempted to just forget about it.
That's the biggest issue with social circle game. Most men have an immediate sexual need, yet it takes years to build an effective social circle. Even if a man can make friends in the way that you describe, there's no guarantee that he can make friends with people with valuable social contacts.
If someone approaches strangers, they are going directly to the source of pussie. However, these direct approaches are judged more harshly than an introduction from a trusted mutual acquaintance.
Still tho is there any way to increase likelihood of women approaching you? If I could actually find some way to get them to on a consistent enough basis, it would solve a lot of the problems that I won't shut up about on here
There isn't for most men. Even 'Chad' tier guys have to approach in-person if they choose that method. 'Chads' who choose that method might get more indicators of interest/approach invitations and have easier approaches than more normie range guys, but even they can't rely on women approaching them.
Eliot Rodger the incel was pissed that his BMW 328 and designer clothes weren't even for college aged women to approach him at a college known for attractive women and a party environment. Eliot Rodger did one total approach lifetime and the interaction lasted less than 15 seconds.
