How do you go about getting into a girl's dms on instagram? What are the fundamentals of instagram game?

[obelisk]

Isn't the point of IG game to get HER to slide into YOUR DMs and not vice versa? Your setting the bait and hook via a well-curated set of pics for her to message you. Just observations from someone who is not an expert on this topic by any means.

 

[obelisk]

Makes sense. It surprises me that Hinge is successful then since it puts the onus on women to message first. A result of women becoming more masculine these past years I guess.

 

[Bigpapa]

If she is ugly/hideous, then would that actually increase the probability that she will respond to a "hi."

Why the f8ck would you want to dm an ugly women?

 

[NealIRC]

Why the f8ck would you want to dm an ugly women?

Has to do with that she doesn't respond to others dming her or too many simps dming her so you want to stand out.

 

[Bigpapa]

Has to do with that she doesn't respond to others dming her or too many simps dming her so you want to stand out.

So if you stand out what?

This is what people consider “having game” these days? Banging ugly because they have a better chance standing out?

And people here complain that the government\society f8cks over men when in reality they shoot themselves in the foot first

 

[NealIRC]

So if you stand out what?

This is what people consider “having game” these days? Banging ugly because they have a better chance standing out?

No, by not being a simp. Not msging her a simple "hi."

And people here complain that the government\society f8cks over men when in reality they shoot themselves in the foot first

Separate issues, but 2 things can happen simultaneously.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Makes sense. It surprises me that Hinge is successful then since it puts the onus on women to message first. A result of women becoming more masculine these past years I guess.

Thats bumble not hinge

 

[BergischerLöwe]

You better have a top notch Instagram profile. That means you must have only professional quality photos showcasing muscles and lifestyle (lots of travel pics and fashion), and have significantly more followers than you follow. Aim for 10,000 followers minimum. It also doesn’t hurt to have a blue verified check. If you don’t fit these criterion IG is a complete waste of time for sourcing women.

Well then what can I do if dating apps don't work for me, and in real life I'm extremely unlikely to come across anybody who is single, attractive, and approachable? Nobody's given me a good answer about that yet

 

[BergischerLöwe]

Change your mentality, that is the problem with you.

It's not just my mentality. A lot of guys have no way of meeting women irl and have no choice but to use apps. I'm not the only guy on the internet talking about this problem

 

[EyeBRollin]

Well then what can I do if dating apps don't work for me, and in real life I'm extremely unlikely to come across anybody who is single, attractive, and approachable? Nobody's given me a good answer about that yet

Get better. For IG, I laid out the blueprint.

 

[SW15]

I'm not the only guy on the internet talking about this problem

You're better off doing approaches in-person than relying on Instagram game. I guarantee your Instagram is nowhere near ready for getting any sort of responses from your DMs.

 

[NealIRC]

You're better off doing approaches in-person than relying on Instagram game. I guarantee your Instagram is nowhere near ready for getting any sort of responses from your DMs.

Women can ignore your approached in real life. Women can at least lurk your profiles.

 

[BergischerLöwe]

You're better off doing approaches in-person than relying on Instagram game. I guarantee your Instagram is nowhere near ready for getting any sort of responses from your DMs.

If you couldn't tell I'm still years away from being able to approach irl

 

[SW15]

If you couldn't tell I'm still years away from being able to approach irl

Only because you have a generally negative mindset, though you've made some progress on mindset.

Goatee, lift weights, less body fat.

 

[BergischerLöwe]

Only because you have a generally negative mindset, though you've made some progress on mindset.

Goatee, lift weights, less body fat.

In the past couple months I've really lost a lot of bodyfat. I'm making a big push in the gym with the olympic lifts and I'm bicycling more than 5 miles almost every day. Still with the prospect of approaching I do indeed think that it would take several years before I saw any meaningful result trying to run game that way. I still believe that warm approach would suit a guy with my personality better but I still have no outlet to do that, and there's still the problem that I have literally no experience getting dates with women I've initially met irl. The fundamental problem remains that I only ever learned to use apps to meet women and now that they no longer work for me I'm flailing.

 

[SW15]

Let's go back to the original subject -- how is your Instagram right now?

Do you have more Followers than accounts you Follow? Do you have at least 1,000 Followers?

 

[BergischerLöwe]

Let's go back to the original subject -- how is your Instagram right now?

Do you have more Followers than accounts you Follow? Do you have at least 1,000 Followers?

No to both questions

 

[SW15]

No to both questions

You are not even close to being ready to send DMs on Instagram and get an acceptable response rate.

If you want responses on Insta, you need more Followers than Following, a good quantity of Followers, shirtless pics showing off your above average physique, and photos/videos that demonstrate a higher value lifestyle.

 

[BergischerLöwe]

When there is a will there is a way

What's the way then. So far I haven't found any alternative to apps that could work for me. Trying to grind and attempt to force myself to cold approach isn't sustainable or realistic. After all, meeting women and going out with them is supposed to be fun, and doing that is just going to be a chore and it won't be enjoyable or fulfilling for me at all. For a particular method to be usable for me, it needs to be something I can implement in pretty short order, not something where I'd have to grind it out for a few years like it's a full time job before I get any measurable results. If I tried to do that I'd just get discouraged by lack of progress and give up. Not everybody can stick it out like that. There's only so much attrition and lack of results I can take. I need something that'll be more natural for me than cold approach would be

 

[BergischerLöwe]

You are not even close to being ready to send DMs on Instagram and get an acceptable response rate.

If you want responses on Insta, you need more Followers than Following, a good quantity of Followers, shirtless pics showing off your above average physique, and photos/videos that demonstrate a higher value lifestyle.

So I'm better off doing something else? What then? I still feel like there's nothing I can really implement