How do you get a girl to cheat on her boyfriend?

[LilJuan]

First of all, I don't think that any woman is any man's "property". She is free to do, say, and think whatever she wants. The bottom line is, she and her BF established a bond that they would remain faithful to one another. This doesn't make them property of one another.
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i didnt mean to say "property" as in the sense it was taken. i should have said gf.

This isn't something that guys just tell themselves to free themselves from guilt of their actions. Its the truth. Say Joe and Jill are in a relationship, and Jill goes out with the ladies one night. Jim approaches Jill, not wondering if she has a BF because it's not of his business or concern. He simply makes his offer with class, and Jill accepts. Jim did nothing wrong but approach as he did every other time before it. Jill is the one that fvcked up the relationship. She did wrong. So it is HER fault that the relationship got fvcked up. I can bet that Joe is looking out for himself, so why shouldn't Jim do the same?
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i agree completly with you on this one. in this situation is obviously the girls fault because he didnt know or care if he had a man. my point is, if he knew she had a man, and intinally went after her, i personally believe thats wrong. YES its the girls fault for cheating, but its pretty low of the guy to do too. YES its the girls decision, but its still pretty low to attempt to do such a thing. I respect other peoples relationships.
If you know your friend is going to rob a bank, and you give him a gun, he goes and robs the bank. YES he robbed the bank, but you knew about it, and went along anyways. You can say all you want the HE did it, and its not YOUR fault, that part is true, but you still had a hand in it.


Well, if it happens to me, then I will be relieved to know that I found out sooner, rather than later that this "GF" of mine is a slut piece of trash. I give me GFs every opportunity to cheat. If they cheat, then I know they don't deserve what I can give them, and they can go sleeping around all they want because the relationship is over.
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Once again, i agree completly. I would want to find out sooner than later so i can kick the slut to the curb and find a decent girl.


Liljuan, if you are willing to shoot somebody, risk life in prison, over a relationship, over a girl that doesn't even care about you (since she cheated), then you're not even a LilJuan, you're an AFC.
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To some extent i agree with this also. I agree shooting some guy over a piece of Sh1t girl is not a good idea. Forgive my bitterness. I still think even you are don waun himself, if this happens to you you are still gonna be hurt/upset, the only way you arent gonna be, is if you dont care about the girl to begin with. I however dont agree with the you are not even a liljaun, you are AFC. So being upset about your woman cheating on you makes you an AFC? or is it the two clips that you put in the guy? LOL.
I see your side of it, honestly i do. And agree its the GIRLS choice, and she is the one messing up the relationship. However, if the guy knowningly, intends on banging her, i still think thats a low, disrespectful, thing to do, and saying that he is at no fault is ilresponible. but thats just my opinion.
peace

 

[diplomatic_lies]

Find out who her boyfriend is first. Some guy got hacked up outside a nightclub 100 metres from my school for doing the same thing. (hacked up meaning the jealous boyfriend chopped him into little pieces)

 

[Sir_Chancealot]

Originally posted by xblitz44x:
Chance ... The only thing that will cause the woman to look outside of the relationship for romance, would be if her current boyfriend lowered her interest level.

Here is the explanation. MOST women do not sit down and conciously make a decision to cheat on their boyfriends. Some do, but MOST do not.

What happens is that she ALLOWS herself to (usually) talk too much with some other man. Now, what happens when a woman continues long talks with someone? She develops an emotional bond. That bond can go two different ways. It can go friendship, or it can go lover. WHEN A WOMAN IS ALREADY IN A RELATIONSHIP, AND THE MAN IS SOMEONE THAT SHE HAS RECENTLY MET, THE INCLINATION OF THE WOMAN IS TO GO TOWARDS THE "LOVER" CATEGORY.
I.e., she doesn't yet have a basis to say that this guy is a "friend". (Actually, this is also usually where "friends" cross over to become more than that.)

Check on the studies of affairs. MOST are not planned, they "just happen". It is because they start doing things with other men that they shouldn't be doing. They will almost ALWAYS say that they had NO INTENTION of having an affair.

 

[Sir_Chancealot]

I would also like to mention the double standard that I am seeing in this thread.

Men are saying "oh, it's not my fault if she wants to cheat on her boyfriend".

If you KNOW about the boyfriend, YES IT IS!

Do not use your wants as an excuse to avoid responsibility, as so many women do. As we have seen from this board, given the proper time and the proper technique, virtually ANY woman can be seduced.

There is a reason women are called "The weaker sex", and it doesn't have much to do with physical traits.

 

[Sir_Chancealot]

Originally posted by xblitz44x:
... First of all, I don't think that any woman is any man's "property". ...
-Blitz

Isn't it funny how women don't like to think of themselves as "property" (secretly, they actually DO, but that is for another thread), yet have NO problem referring to YOU as THEIR man?

If you don't think a woman thinks of you as HER property, watch some chick's reaction when ANOTHER chick is trying to hit on her man.

 

[StellarPKT]

Originally posted by diplomatic_lies:
Find out who her boyfriend is first. Some guy got hacked up outside a nightclub 100 metres from my school for doing the same thing. (hacked up meaning the jealous boyfriend chopped him into little pieces)

Geez if this stuff dont make ya think...Psycho AFC's on the loose. That guy was only trying to score a little pvssy but then he has to deal with a chump and his chainsaw. Hope its worth the bf spending the rest of his life in jail getting burritos shoved up his a$$ for the other inmates amusement. Oh no my girlfriend cheated on me...let me go committ murder and earn me a lifetime supply of a$$ rapings. Dummy.

Oh yeah remind me to never go out and have fun anymore. What can you do these days without someone assaulting you with deadly weapons?

 

[Sir_Chancealot]

Originally posted by StellarPKT:
Geez if this stuff dont make ya think...

Apparently, not enough.

Psycho AFC's on the loose. That guy was only trying to score a little pvssy but then he has to deal with a chump and his chainsaw.

"Geez, I don't know WHY that guy is pissed. I was just going to take his car for a little ride. He can have it back when I am done with it. It's not like I was trying to STEAL it".

Hope its worth the bf spending the rest of his life in jail getting burritos shoved up his a$$ for the other inmates amusement.
Oh no my girlfriend cheated on me...let me go committ murder and earn me a lifetime supply of a$$ rapings. Dummy.

Ah, the easy saying of one that has never been betrayed.

Betrayal is brutal. The response is brutal. It has nothing to do with logic, but emotions.

Oh yeah remind me to never go out and have fun anymore.

Hmmm, so "fun" is doing things that are immoral and (in some places) even illegal? Remind me to never have "fun" with you!

What can you do these days without someone assaulting you with deadly weapons?

You know what's funny? When sh*t like that happens, people just assume that the person was a psycho. They never stop to think that there was finally the proverbial "straw that broke the camel's back".

EVERY man knows that when you can only push another man so far, and then he will become violent. If you haven't realized this, you are either very young, or very stupid.

Read the details of these school shootings. In all the cases that I have seen, those kids were picked on repeatedly, and relentlessly.

Is it any wonder that at some point, they couldn't take it any more?

[This message has been edited by Sir_Chancealot (edited 08-17-2002).]

 

[StellarPKT]

Originally posted by StellarPKT:

Psycho AFC's on the loose. That guy was only trying to score a little pvssy but then he has to deal with a chump and his chainsaw.

Originally posted by SirChancealot:


"Geez, I don't know WHY that guy is pissed. I was just going to take his car for a little ride. He can have it back when I am done with it. It's not like I was trying to STEAL it".

And once again someone is trying to compare a guys girlfriend to a piece of property (aka a car). A car cannot decide to refuse to let a thief drive it. A woman can refuse to let me drive her if she has any kind of morals about loyalty.

And are you saying that this guy that got cheated on was probably cheated on several times before he finally sliced up the last guy to plow his gf? Well then its his fault for letting it go that long, 1 offense is enough. And why wasnt the girl chopped up as well? Because even after the 20th time of playing rodeo with some other guy, she is still sweet and innocent and got "tricked" into spreading her legs. He still loves her, so much that he would kill for her! Puh-lease, there is something wrong with that twisted logic.

I'm sorry but nothing could drive me to viciously slaughter another person. Gee who is worse, the guy that has sex with a girl that has a bf or the bf that hacks the guy to bits? Thats a toughie, Ill have to think about that for a second.

[This message has been edited by StellarPKT (edited 08-17-2002).]

 

[diplomatic_lies]

Actually the hacking stuff happens a lot. Sometimes its not as much (e.g. just a quick beating). Its also not psychos - the guys were connected with some gang activity. Apparently the guy was hitting on this girl, she told her boyfriend, boyfriend a bit drunk with 10 other friends, has a fight. The seducer unfortunately was stupid enough to stand and fight, so he got beaten up. Then he called some friends, who came with machetes, and unfortunately the jealous AFC had more friends with machetes. You can guess the rest of the story. (Actually, most of the victims drowned in the river rather than got hacked up)


You can still go out and have fun, just bring a gun so you can deal with hacking

Seriously though, be careful where you try to use your DJ skills. If you see a girl who obviously has a boyfriend, I say avoid it if the boyfriend looks like he can stand on his own. Even skinny guys are often very dangerous when armed. Especially when you mix in angry emotions. Go hit on her friends instead.

I've talked with a few friends of mine involved with that sort of stuff, and they told me that they really would beat up anyone who hit on their girl. Problem is, when the victim fights back and the aggressors pull out their weapons, things get messy real quick

Remember, its usually the "tough" ones who get killed. Run if you can.

 

[kickman72]

"Don't worry. She'll forget on her own. Don't do anything differently. You're in! "

This is true i've had it happen but it isn't worth it

 

[JUST ME]

T-DOG- its about respecting another guy, not the relationship,per se. ASK yourself this? Would you want that happen to you? I think NOT.I have had that happen to me.It is also up to the girl to dump his ass 1st, before cheating.Just because the guy may have not been treating her well,does not mean it gives another guy a right to try to steal or screw his woman.

The woman is just as responsible for letting her curret boyfriend know how she feels,and either to smarten up,or she is outta there.

It is about RESPECTING others and YOURSELF.

 

[Canadian Idol]

If your getting a girl to cheat on her boyfriend and she actually does, then what is there to say that she wont cheat on you? Personally I like to stay away from the girls with boyfriends it only leads to trouble.

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Remember, you learn from all your mistakes...

 

[StellarPKT]

Originally posted by Canadian Idol:
If your getting a girl to cheat on her boyfriend and she actually does, then what is there to say that she wont cheat on you? Personally I like to stay away from the girls with boyfriends it only leads to trouble.

That is why you dont "date" or get serious with a girl that does that. I hope everyone here is smart enough to figure that out. I would never date any girl that would cheat on her bf with me. I've done it once before and have a couple prospects that I could do it with again. But I know better than to actually give a fvck what happens. Thats what messed me up the first time, back in my hs afc days. Remember, she cant cheat on you if you arent going out, or if you dont care.

 

[Stop Cryin Your Heart Out]

Firstly,there is no right or wrong way t cheat with/on someone.And if you plan PLAN in advance to do it then that it is just low.

Cheating should have ome kind of spontaniety and if you know the chicks got a b/f or husband then you should just concentrate on having a good time with her,never mind about the sex there plenty of women out there why pick someone elses?

 

[Gaijin]

Some previous posts have mentioned "seducers" such as yourself being brutally killed, and recommended that you find out who the cheater's BF is. Others have said that these killers are psychos. Psychopaths, I imagine, are very rare, and not worth worrying about. However, another wise soul stated that it's not about logic, it's about emotion. They said that betrayal is brutal, and so is the reaction. He is absolutely correct. Let me tell you a story...

*Wavy visuals and harps are plucked, indicating a flashback*

Many years ago, I was in a relationship with a beautiful girl. She was smart, attractive, ambitious, and we clicked. We were together for almost two years, and I can honestly say that we were in love with eachother.

All was well in paradise, but one day...

A mutual friend told me that I was being cheated on. I didn't believe her at first, but I knew this friend very well, and she wouldn't be lying about something like this. I went to my GF's home to confront her about it, and find her and her seducer making out on a couch.

Time out. Let me state that, at that time in my life, I was a sane and rational human being. I was no psycho. I was quite detached, and not easily affected in an emotional way. In fact, I rarely displayed or felt strong emotion. Some friends called me buddha-like in this regard. I was non-violent, a quasi-pacifist, and never missed church, ever.

At that moment in time, all of my serenity, my inner peace, and all that other crap, went out the window.

Time in.

I grabbed the guy and threw him to the ground. I pinned him down, sat upright, and proceeded to punch him in the face, over and over and over again. All I saw was red. At first in the metaphorical sense, referring to my anger, but later in the literal, as his face began to get covered in the blood pouring out his nostrils and the cuts that appeared on his face. Finally I broke a knuckle on his forehead, and, quite pissed off, picked him up and forcefully escorted him out the door. When I asked my loving GF why she did it, all she could say was "I don't know, I'm sorry," repeatedly while sobbing. I, of course, dumped her ass and left. I was later sorry about having beaten that guy so badly, and for having completely lost my sense of reason, but at the time, I couldn't control myself at all. Logic wasn't in the equation. It wasn't even in the mathematical theory. Emotion was all that controlled me then.

Betrayal is brutal. For every action, there is an equal reaction. The reaction to betrayal, then, will be brutal. Even if the guy is a calm, cool, rational, logical human being (I was), more often than not, he will want to kick your ass (I did).

So, to stay in line with the OP and actually give you some advice about this- do not, under any circumstance, let her BF find out that you banged her. The consequences of his discovery would be quite catastrophic for you.

 

[LilJuan]

Gaijin is exactly right. when you are betrayed, especially in such a manner as finding out the girl who you love, thought loved you, has had some other guy in her, doing no telling what. i dont care how sensable, logical person you are, you will more than likely snap as he did. its not about "who" is more at fault at the time, its about an extreme emotion thats almost undescribable. thats why our criminal justice system has whats called man slaughter, which is when you kill someone out of the heat of passion with out pre meditation. if you think that this doesnt happen, you are only setting yourself up to be in a situation were you will find out very differently.
I agree, most guys, and girls too for that matter that snap, or kill in the heat of passon are not pyscho. I think everyone is capable of murder if the right buttons are pushed. I am not talking about premeditated murder, but spontanous heat of the moment.
I was lucky, when I found out my wh0re of gf was sleeping with another guy, i didnt have my gun or I would have done something I would have later regreted. But at that moment in time, nothing else mattered, and didnt care. And if you are in absolute control of your emtions, and never under any circumstances get angry, loose your cool, or do something out of the heat of the moment, my hat is off to you because you are one if any people like that in the world.

 

[T Dog]

Originally posted by JUST ME:
T-DOG- . ASK yourself this? Would you want that happen to you? I think NOT.

You're right. I wouldn't like it. Not one bit. But who should I blame? Some dude, or my girlfriend.

Hell, maybe he did me a favor, and showed me what this girl is all about.

Think about it. Who is really to blame, some guy or the girl.

The girl.

 

[Nightwing]

Originally posted by Dutch Woods:
she has cheated on het boyfriend in the past.

Well she has the lack of integrity thing down, getting her to cheat shouldnt be THAT hard.

 

[LilJuan]

Originally posted by T Dog:

You're right. I wouldn't like it. Not one bit. But who should I blame? Some dude, or my girlfriend.

Hell, maybe he did me a favor, and showed me what this girl is all about.

Think about it. Who is really to blame, some guy or the girl.

The girl.

and when you walk in and see him baning the sh1t out of your woman i bet you'd say.
"oh man, thanks for showing me my girls a ho, was she any good. see ya at the club friday."

I doubt it.

Oh talking about banging some other guys woman, or a guy that wanted his woman anyway, what about OJ Simpson? Same thing, yes OJ had a history of violence, but it took her with another guy to snap. You dont think them being hacked to death isnt a crime of rage and passion?

 

[T Dog]

LilJuan,

Damn you missed the point TOTALLY. Some guy ****s your broad, you get mad at him. Why? Becuase he was smooth enough to steal your girl?

You should be mad at her, for spreading her legs for that chump. He didn't make her do it against her will. She freely spread those legs becuase she either really isn't into you enough for a commited relationship or she's a slut!

So why do you say Dutch is such an a-hole for wanting to get his d!ck wet? She ain't married to her boyfriend.

Now, here is the flip side. If Dutch was to bang this girl, then fall in love and make a LTR out of her and she was then to cheat on him, who should he be mad at?

The guy she cheated with? No.

The Girl? NO.

Dutch should be mad at himself.

T Dog