How do you act around girls you've NEXT'D?

[Pimp-sicle]

How do you act Alpha around a girl you've NEXT'D?? I've never really had to worry about this in this past because I usually would never see them again. But I go to school with this girl and we have quiet a few common "school friends" so I don't really know how to proceed. As it stands right now she's under the impression that I'm upset with her because she was very rude and disrespectful to me at a party this past weekend. I completely ignored her today and it really got to her. However I don't want to make it seem like I'm bitter and upset. I just want to proceed on and slowly distance myself from her. I definitely don't want things to be akward.


Any advice from those who have been through similar situations would be great.



PIMP

 

[ManOMan]

Yea Ive been there dude,

the best thing to do, is to use all that energy you have worrying how you should act around her and just talk up other girls.

I nexted a girl who really dissed me one time, and she showed up to a party I was at. I just said "hey hows it going?" then started to just talk with every guy and every girl in the room, have a great time , make conversation, and wasnt trying to worry about the girl in question at all.

After a while, she came and tried to talk to me, trying to break into group conversations I was in, play kicking/punching me - I ignored all those too, and acted like she was just another person I just met.

She was getting pissed, and finally just went away

but to recap, just say hey, and be about your business talking to friends and other girls.

 

[diablo]

Man is right. You shouldn't be bitter or upset with her, nor should you give her the impression that you are either of the above. I suppose if you had to sum up your attitude in one word, it would be "indifferent". She's just another person, and you aren't going to pay her any more attention or treat her any differently than you would any other person out there.

 

[Player_Supreme]

You act as if they don't even exist. Act as if you forgot their names and who they are.

If she calls you on the phone pretend that you think she is someone else.

Look right through her and keep on stepping.

Be as cold as Ice Berg Slim the famous pimp from the 50's and 60's.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Yeah that's what I was thinking, but its not like I'm just going to run into her here and there. I'm going to probably be seeing her 2-4x a week because of school and all the parties we both go to all the time. She didn't diss me at all. I just decided that I was sick of guessing which part of her personality I would get on any given day. She made a really good impression on me at first but now her true colors are shining through.


PIMP

 

[NewMan]

Remember swinggers


"You act like you don't need this sh#t, and they give you all of this sh#t"


I've run into similar ex's....

Chasing or worrying about them - or expending energy on them is a waste.

If you see her regularly then all the more to act like she's nopt there.

Sooner or later she really will not be there.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Cool then I'll just ignore her. I just thought completely ignoring her would seem a little AFC, as if I had a grudge against her or something. But I guess I'm not going to worry about it anymore because she fuvked up not me.



PIMP

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Don't associate yourself with a rude and disrespectful woman, even if she is your mother!

 

[Mac]

How would you want a girl to react if some girl nexted you?

certainly not by being rude, ignoring and mean. That just makes things worse.

Treat her with grace. Dont go out of your way to do anything for her, or go approach her. But be graceful, if she approaches you. Dont tolerate her being rude to you anymore. But if shes nice to you , be nice to her.

Odds are she finds it awkward too and wont want to talk to you that often.

True DJs arent insecure with themselves to go on some bizzare ego trip. They are confident enough wiht themselves that they can talk to the girl and not make it a big deal.

Remember she has feelings too. Remember what its like for you to get rejected in some manner or another.

-Mac

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Mac,

That's exactly why I posted the question in the first place. I definitely don't want to give off the impression that I never want to talk to her again. I'm just not interested in pursuing anything with her anymore. I really don't give a fuvk if she still comes around to these parties on the weekend or not, but I definitely don't want her to have the impression that I'm a insecure, bitter person.

And your right, I doubt she'll come up and talk to me unless I say "hi" or something like that.

We will have to see.....



PIMP

 

[fezz]

I know what its like when you go to school with a girl you broke up with. Its kinda awkward after the frist couple days you break up. but the best thing to do is to find a new girl/girls to hit on. I did this and I completely forgot about my past gf, and then the other day she gave me a note saying she still liked me alot. Its weird how girls work.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Yeah these next few weeks are going to be tough, at least I've got spring break coming up, so I can have fun for a week.. Its weird I've already got another girl lined up that wants me pretty bad and I know I could easily got to school and get 10 more girls like that. But I guess since I invested a good amount of time and energy into this girl, its going to be hard for me to get her outta my head. Well time will be my best friend over the next few weeks.

I'll keep you all posted on her crazy antics.



PIMP

 

[Pimp-sicle]

LOL Dementia!!! I really don't need to even go outta my way to make this girl jealous. Like I said she already knows there are plenty of girls that want me. I think I'm just not going to do anything. I shouldn't have to go outta my way to say anything to her. If she wants to think I'm bitter or upset, that's fine. I'm not, I'm just going to move on.



PIMP

 

[WatchMeWalk]

If you nexted them, why do you care how you behave around them?
NEXTing means tuning out their existences.

 

[dcfball]

you no longer no their name and they are longer attractive in your eyes.

they are two steps more respected than dirt to you

 

[Pap]

I agree with the others on the board that you should not associate with her, especially if she is an energy leach. If you run into her, I'd still be somewhat polite, especially if she is in your social circle, but I'd talk to other girls if she is around. When you act like her presence doesn't affect you, you'll have more fun.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

You guys are right. I guess there's still a part of me that cares what she thinks about me. But the more I think about it, the more I realize that even though she's been awesome and the sex was incredible, true DJ's don't tolerate disrespect no matter what.

So fuvk it, I don't give a fuvk, I'm not doing anything, she can make the effort if it really bothers her that much, which I doubt.



PIMP

 

[Pap]

Pimp, if you are gaming up other girls around her when you are in her presence, not only will you have more fun, but if you game up the other girls around you (and they are touching you, laughing at your jokes, and she witnesses this), you will be creating a jealousy plotline and you'll have more value in her eyes.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Pap,

There are about 15 of us that sit together in our student union during our break. Everyday at least 3 or 4 of the girls in that circle will come and touch my arm, tell me I look good today, flirt with me and give me all the buying signals that they want me. I know this already, but I'm not really attracted to any of them. I still flirt with them because flirting is fun and she's seen these girls all over me on many different occassions.

However now that she knows I'm a little upset with her, I think the flirting will definitely make her jealous. But it doesn't matter, NEXTING is NEXTING as we all know. So whether that makes her jealous or if she doesn't give a flyin' fuvk shouldn't matter.


She's becoming a shadow of my past as each day passes by.



PIMP

 

[isotope]

be friendly with her but in a FRIENDLY, not sexual way. act like she is just a guy

basically, put her into LJBF zone and still be cordial, even polite. But make it clear (by flirting with other girls) that youre on the prowl for others

this might just make her IL go up, but you can play ignorant... and unless she is aggressive and jumps you, she'll suffer in silence