How do you act around girls you've NEXT'D?

[Pimp-sicle]

Ok I know we've already hashed out that NEXTING is NEXTING, but I don't want things to end on a sour note. I know, I know I shouldn't care either way, but since I will be seeing her around quiet a bit, I think we should at least be on talking terms.

She's putting herself in the position to be talked to and up until now I still haven't said a word to her. I'm sure she wants to talk to me, but she thinks I'm just THAT UPSET so she's hesistant. How should I let her know I'm not mad, and I don't care??



PIMP

 

[isotope]

just say hi and act like nothing happened.

make friendly rapport and move the relationship back into (friends who talk everytime they see eachother.) even if she wonders why you did the 180, after a few days of you acting different it will return to normal.

if she resurrects the subject of your relationship, just slide out by downplaying and acting like you never cared or are over it. Like say, "oh its cool. I was a little pissed but i realized i was being silly."

Or, "no i was going through some other stuff, it had nothing to do with you."

or maybe, "Hey im sorry if ive been ignoring you, i just saw you smiling there and i wanted to talk to you again. You a good person and i want to keep our friendship exactly where it is."

 

[tactic]

good question, when i tried nexting the girl... i would feel all "doot doot" around her... so honestly i havent really next'ed her..heh

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Ok let me update you all on what's going on. I've got inside her head REALLY GOOD!! She's trying SO FUKIN' hard to get my attention but I haven't takent the bait yet. On Tuesday she usually sits with a big group of us until her class. Then after her class she ALWAYS goes home. Well on Tuesday she cruises back in the student union and sits there for about 30 minutes. I catch her glancing at me about 20x's, but I just talk to some other guys/girls and act like she's not even there. Then on Wednesday night she comes by my fraternity house all drunk. I wasn't there though. Thrusday I see her in the student union again. I once again ignore her by listening to head-phones and doing homework the entire time she's in there. She has a friend from outta town visiting her, and I caught that girl looking over towards me. I'm sure she told her the story.

Friday she comes on to the fraternity row because another house was having a party. I was out front with a couple bros drinking and being loud. My buddy tells me she's across the street so I go inside to avoid her. She calls my phone 3x's within a hour spand. She leaves me a voice-mail saying "Don't be mad at me anymore, I want to come and hangout with you, but if you don't answer your phone, I'm scared to come by." Then she makes her friend from outta town talk and say the same shiat.

Then 3 of her sorority girls come by our house and say "HB7.75 wanted me to ask you if its ok if she comes by." I respond and say "I don't give a fuvk what she does." I end up leaving shortly after.

So that's where it stands. Still not going to call her, but I think I'm going to have to somehow break the ice and say "hi" so I don't come off as a bitter chump.

Part of me is saying that she must care somewhat since she's making this effort. But the other part of me is saying she's just an attention *****.

Any thoughts on how I'm working this would be great.



PIMP

 

[ManOMan]

pimp,

sounds like you are expending way too much energy thinking about this girl.

Ive been in situations like this before always thinking of ways to increase her IL, or get revenge, or going out of my way to show "I dont care" and she doesnt phase me.

In the end, it goes nowhere. TRUST ME on this one.

My advice to you is to just let go, forget about it if you can, and just let her go and be about her business while you go your own way.

it might be hard for you since she is in your social circle, but you really need to avoid her as much as you can and get her out of your system.

good luck

 

[Pimp-sicle]

ManOMan,

Yeah like I've said all along it would be so easy for me to NEXT her if I didn't have to see her all the time. In the past I've never had a problem NEXTing girls who show disprespect or act stupid because I never had to see them again.

Your right its going to be fukin' really hard, but I have to do it.



PIMP

 

[j_kat_251]

Originally posted by Pimp-sicle

Then 3 of her sorority girls come by our house and say "HB7.75 wanted me to ask you if its ok if she comes by." I respond and say "I don't give a fuvk what she does." I end up leaving shortly after.

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Part of me is saying that she must care somewhat since she's making this effort. But the other part of me is saying she's just an attention *****.

Any thoughts on how I'm working this would be great.

PIMP

When the sorority hoes came by you should have said "what the hell are you like her messenger boys? Now get the f**k off my lawn" and then gone inside. That would have been hilarious, because cruelty is hysterical.

I think she's two parts attention *****, one part "omg why doesn't he love me" confusing herself into thinking she likes you.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

I've hooked up with nearly all her close sorority girl friends. They all have wanted me or want me now. Ever since I started messing around with her, they've all kinda backed off because we were hitting it off real good until recently. I definitely thinks she's a bit of an attention *****, but which 19 old So Cal girl isn't?? I think she's definitely surprised that I've just completely cut off all contact with her. But I seriously don't put up with bullshyt, no matter what. Well see what happens, this will be an interesting week for sure....LOL




PIMP