How do I improve on interactions like this, shot myself in the foot.

[TheCharmingGuy]

Another good one and my go-to is "How long have you had that problem?" lol

I would also avoid these kinds of lines. It might turn her on or make her think you’re interesting but if she really does have a boyfriend then it’s much more likely she’ll shut you down in a big way. The only way this would work is if the boyfriend is imaginary and she was playing with you, but if she did make up a pretend boyfriend, she almost definitely wasn’t into you anyway. And if she’s willing to cheat on her boyfriend with you, who says she won’t cheat on you too? It’s really a lose-lose situation.

 

[firstbornunicorn]

My go-to for switching the topic in these cases is something along the lines of: "it was nice to meet you, but the thing is, if I don't ask you out /for your number/etc right now you'll be wondering why I didn't ask you out/for your number/etc. So to prevent that: *asks out/for number/etc*.

Also works for when you make eye contact but have no ice breaker. Just show up. "Hey I noticed you from across the room and realized that if I didn't come talk to you you'd wonder why I didn't come talk to you, so here I am. Hi what's your name?". If she asks for your name there is at least baseline interest. and a convo can develop.

I add flavors to it depending on the setting. Sometimes add a little multiverse theory and say something like "maybe there's a universe where I didn't come talk to you, but it's certainly not this one".

but if she tells me straight up that she has a boyfriend, I prefer to walk away "Cool, it was nice meeting you, good luck"
If the girl is interested she won't mention that she has a boyfriend, if she says she has one, she is not interested. Guys should avoid those kocky boyfriends lines and just move on and go approach other girls, yes she is going to smile but she has a boyfriend, it's a waste of time. If she mentions that she has a boyfriend after a while, that's a different story.

This isn't true and you're leaving a lot of ass on the table. Read: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threa...friend-over-a-year-ago-now-hits-me-up.268257/ and this post: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threa...a-year-ago-now-hits-me-up.268257/post-2821425 make it clear that you're interested, don't give up after the bf signalling, but also don't be pushy, and show some personality. This means you're officially in line. Priority depends on the impression you left.

She started off with a bf over a year ago, in 1 hour I'm going to meet her in the woods and bringing some rope.(consensual, lol)

 

[2Rocky]

So many times I've had these meetups and gotten a number then never followed through on it. I guess I've gotten comfortable using the "I gotta get going so I'd better grab your number so we can continue this conversation." I've NEVER had a woman tell me no.

 

[sangheilios]

100% with being direct, but asking the Walmart girl to go on a date after a 5min conversation is a bit uncalibrated, almost creepy. Pick up on chicks while they at work rarely works in my experience but it's not impossible.

That's a good line, but if she tells me straight up that she has a boyfriend, I prefer to walk away "Cool, it was nice meeting you, good luck"
If the girl is interested she won't mention that she has a boyfriend, if she says she has one, she is not interested. Guys should avoid those kocky boyfriends lines and just move on and go approach other girls, yes she is going to smile but she has a boyfriend, it's a waste of time. If she mentions that she has a boyfriend after a while, that's a different story.

A few years back I met a woman at the gym who was pretty open with me. I spoke with her a couple times before asking her out and I asked if she had plans later, she said she didn't and then I proceeded to ask her out.....which was when she said that she had a boyfriend. It's all about context, unless a woman is completely socially clueless in a situation like this one she's attracted but not available. On the flip side, if she says it and doesn't really seem that open or pursuing interaction with you I think continuing to ignore the "I have a boyfriend" line is in my opinion just asking for trouble.

 

[bat soup]

I had the entire day to myself and was doing some errands and stopped at a wal mart that I normally frequent to pick up a few things. The last thing I needed to pick up was some new razors, which they have locked away, and by chance the employee there that asked if I needed help was this cute woman in her early 20s, not super hot but definitely attractive (pretty face, nice body, etc.). Anyway, I grab the razors and initiated a conversation with her. It started with asking if she liked working there and it eventually got to where she grew up, what she was in college for, what she did for fun, etc. This went on for about 5 minutes and then there was this pause in the conversation and I froze and started feeling anxiety building up internally. She was lingering there and didn't at all make an effort to leave but I got so nervous and uncomfortable that I ejected myself from the conversation by saying I had to leave. She looked disappointed and then went back to what she was doing and within a few seconds I knew I had blown it but I decided not to linger, so I just took it as a loss and walked away.

This was the first time I've interacted with a female like this since COVID lockdowns hit over a year ago so I realize I'm out of practice but I was very angry with myself for messing something like this up. I have no idea how to improve upon issues like this.

You should have used that pause to say something like "hey, I've got to go but would you like to meet up sometime?" and get her number