How do I get my first lay?

[Maxtro]

I'm a 22 year old virgin and I simply can't stand it anymore. Right now I am considering paying for it but that is only a very last resort but its the only option I see.

So my question is how can I get laid in a short period of time from now without having to pay for it?

While I would prefer to have sex with a quality girl. For me thats somebody, 18 to 25 and a 7+. I'm willing to settle for an older woman, or somebody who's not that good looking or somebody who's a little chunky. Basicly I'd do almost anybody at this point as long as she doesn't repulse me. I've heard that these kinds of women are the easiest to get but I still don't have a clue.

So where should I go or do to meet "easy" women?

Aonther thing is the internet dating scene. Is there a way to do it with at least one girl?

 

[WORKEROUTER]

Matrix have you tried going to clubs, pubs, or bars?? Being over 21, it seems like you have a lot of options.

 

[Mr.Hash wid da Stash]

Maxtro I understand you really wanna bone a chick. Really though, I've fvcked a warpig before and it wasn't pleasant. If your just out to fvck anything with a hole between their legs just use a hooker if you don't want a relationship. Pubs, clubs and all that are more or less for chicks that are interested in a guy physically.

how can I get laid in a short period of time from now without having to pay for it?

Well, I guess you keep on have to approach girls. Easy girls are often chicks that aren't too hot and have low self esteem. They spread their legs because they think the guy will "love" them for it. Places to find these types of girls; outside methadone clinics, rehab, paroled prisoners, crack dens.... or I could just hook you up with my sister.

 

[Maxtro]

I have gone to a club a couple of times but I've always end up leaving a couple of hours later. I get too bored just sitting or standing at the wall. I've never been to a bar or pub.

Also I don't belive I have the skills or confedence to talk to a girl and get a one night stand. Maybe if I had something to drink while I was there?

Warpig thats a nice way of putting it. I don't know if I would go that low. Those locations to find girls sound scary. I also don't want a girl who thinks I would love her.

There have to be girls who aren't the best lookers that still want to get laid.

 

[cffrmw]

dude read the dj bible. live by it for a few weeks. you will see a HUGE difference. before i found this site I could hardly talk to girls i was interested in. now, the girl i was after before wants to have sex with me (no joke). she's going to prom with this other guy and she told me that after the dance she wanted to go home with ME. i told her maybe. other things to do: join a gym, work out regularly and make sure you talk to at least one girl every time you go. not just 'hi' but an actual conversation. or if you're still in college go to parties and if you have any game at all you will get laid. good luck, dont get a hooker the first time should be with someone u kind of like imo, and u should never have to pay for it.

 

[LouieVaton Don]

Once again another case I can relate to. I was in the very same boat as you, im 22. I just lost my virginity last year and now over the past month Ive had the most sex partners Ive ever had. Hell just last night my sister told me her best friend wanted to F**k me str8 like that, I havent even said as much as a hello to this girl and this chick is banging. Now A year ago I wouldve never imagined that I could do something like that because I was ignorant of myself "Easy" chicks are everywhere too, HB9 are just as easy as the "Warpigs" if you know your sh1t, they wanna f**k just like you and moreover its a basic human need. You just need to calm down and stop worrying. Sex is ovverated anyway and you'll soon discover that after getting your first lay that it wont bring self esteem or happiness. You'll still feel as empty as you do now. Banging some chick is a hobby to me like painting or something, stop taking it so seriously and it will come. First though you have to find yourself, thats more sexy and seductive than anything you'll ever do in this lifetime. It doesnt matter what you look like or what has happened prior. As long as you still have conciousness there is potential for greatness.

 

[Maxtro]

I am reading the Bible but the keyword mentioned is weeks and the number of weeks is unknown. I don't want to wait months to finaly get laid. I can get an escort in a couple of days. And its guarnteed that she would be very cute and know exactly what she is doing. I much rather do it with somebody I like but she's on vacation now and I'm not even friends with her. I only talk to her a bit in class. And she has her best friend to allways keep her company, she has no use for me.

I work out at my school gym and most of the girls there are fat and or ugly Mexican girls that don't speak English. I go to a Jr. College and there are no parties, unless they are so well hidden I've never known of them. I've been going to two colleges in 4 yeas and I've never heard of or was invited to any parties. Also my game is sh1t.

Being able to calm down and stop worrying is something I just can't will myself to do. I have heard many people say that sex is overrated but I won't belive it untill I try it. Also if its so overrated, how long can you go without it?

I don't know where to start looking to find me.

 

[Kidquick]

http://www.craigslist.org/cas/

 

[Maxtro]

Thanks for the link. I know you ment to be sarcastic but I don't see a reason to not try it.

Even more idiot proof. Click here

Heh, I posted an add. Lets see what happens.

 

[akindofblue]

Why do you care so much that you're a virgin? Seriously. No one else does. What's the big deal? You feel like you have to fit in? Like sex is going to be amazing and change your life?

It won't, of course. Numerous studies show that those who wait longer before having sex are happier with their marriage and have greater sexual satisifaction within their marriage. They're far less likely divorce, as well. Those who remain virgins until marriage are the happiest with their sex lives, the least likely to divorce, and the happiest with their marriages.

So don't think that sex is going to be the be all end all of your life. It actually can cause a lot of complications as studies readily indicate.

With that said, if you want to find a girl, make your first time memorable. No sense landing some random girl who means nothing to you.

 

[Austin Allegro]

Yep, don't sweat it. Sex is not the be all and end all of existence, despite what Dr Freud and the media would have you think. I've never been with a prostitute but I've certainly had casual sex with people I've just met (and not all were warpigs) and believe me, it's not that great. It CAN be good but usually isn't. Much better to wait until you meet someone you really like. Just read the DJ bible, relax, and things will improve.

 

[KiInCollege]

akindofblue, be careful with those statistics. They're not so cut&dried. People that have sex later have other characteristics to consider:

they may be Christian (who are also less likely to divorce, perhaps),

they may be unattractive (have less options in terms of partners and will work harder for a stable marriage),

they may have a weak desire for sex, so they're "happy" with having it once per week,

etc.

If you could cite such studies I could go on.

Hope I didn't stray from topic... Back to the issue, people are right in saying it is in your mind. Most people don't care about your experience. You do.

If you have low self-esteem, the obsession of being a virgin may contribute to that. On the other hand, if you have high self-esteem, or perhaps a "righteous" attitude (religion motivating abstinence), then being a virgin isn't going to cause you to doubt your self-worth.

I would recommend not going to a prostitute. You don't want that memory to be your first, and I'd assume you have a higher risk of catching a disease. That would kill your confidence many times over what being a virgin would do.

 

[Maxtro]

IMO the whole wating for marriage thing is BS. I don't plan on getting married untill I have a great carreer am pefectly happy with the level of education I have and am finacially stable. I don't plan on getting married untill I am at least 25 and there is no freaken way I can wait 3 years to get some.

I know I am the only person who cares if I am a virgin an nobody matters more to me than me.

If you have low self-esteem, the obsession of being a virgin may contribute to that.

Thats me.

I don't know if the risk of disease is higher with a hooker than with the average girl. I would not go for a common street walker. I'd get a high class hoe that strives to keep herself clean. Its sill only my last resort.

 

[Julian]

adultfriendfinder.com

 

[LouieVaton Don]

Id suggest you beat your meat before paying a hooker. Tell me one thing why is it that your so enamored with losing your virginity at this very moment?

 

[Maxtro]

Originally posted by LouieVaton Don
ITell me one thing why is it that your so enamored with losing your virginity at this very moment?

I first wanted to loose my virginity when I was 18. Over the years the desire kept building. It didn't come to the level it’s at now until I found out about these "seduction" sites a few months ago. When ever I tried to do the newbie exercise I keep failing and end up not talking to anybody, that’s what happened today as well. I keep thinking that when I get my first lay I'll get a boost of confidence and be able to talk to anybody.

I'm also extremely jealous of everybody that has sex. And when I hear stories of guys loosing their virginity it almost brings me to tears. I feel it’s a huge part of life that I’m missing out on. I’m like a kid watching the other kids play feeling lonely and left out. Another reason is that I what to know what I am missing. I want to know how much better than jerking off does it feel? I guess it’s also because I USED to watch a lot of porn and that has magnified my normal sex drive to insane levels.

I just can’t stand being a virgin anymore.

 

[hb]

SEX IS OVER RATED!!!! About a month ago I posted something about how its over rated and you can find a post from about last month too about a guy who wanted to lose his virginity just like you and when he did he realized it wasnt all that he thought it would be.

You're probably thinking that omg this should be the greatest feeling in the world, right?

Dude do not pay for it, save it for someone you like!

Try to remmember, its not as hard as you think it is. I mean just look around you, EVERYONES DOING IT.

Fastest way to get it, ADVERTISE IT! I mean not in a Newspaper or anything like that. Whenever you talk to a female you know bring it up. Talk about sex and it will lead to sex

 

[Tails]

ahh yes... wanting to get laid for the first time...

i used to want to be a virgin forever until i found the right girl, that special one... pfft. yeah right!

i waited and waited. it never happened. and you know what? even now, that i am not a virgin, i still haven't found the right girl.

anyway, i think i got pretty lucky for my first. my friends gf had a friend who was bisexual, i hooked up with her, fooled around.. didn't have sex though.. used to go to her place with a few people, hang out... and one day, a woman walked in with a baby. she was a MILF. they were friends - christina aguilera look alike you could say. she was a hot blonde, great body, and guess what, she was bisexual too! 22 years old, bi, married with a kid.. also had a boyfriend too i found out and me on the side... oh no, wait... also other girls. she got around, but she was pretty damn clean down below. no smell at all.

anyway, i was a very shy guy, i didn't make moves on girls too much. lucky for me, this gal did most the moves, she liked me. (i was 18 at the time) -

one sunday ago, she invited me and other friends over her place (the married bisexual), we all hung out, had a couple drinks, i fooled around with her... then it was time to go, she hugged me and said goodbye, but for once i took a stand and brushed away my shyness saying: "no, i'm staying right here with you" with a smile. my friends drove off, and left me and the woman alone. she took me inside and well, you can imagine what happened

that was my first. however, i think i just got lucky. for you though, i think you just need to get out there, get confident, approach girls and chat them up.. another good thing to do is meet girls through your friends... all hook up one day go out driving, or just go to someones house for a little party. usually always ends up the way you want if you make effort.

good luck.

 

[Maxtro]

Originally posted by Tails
...That was my first. however, i think i just got lucky. for you though, i think you just need to get out there, get confident, approach girls and chat them up.. another good thing to do is meet girls through your friends... all hook up one day go out driving, or just go to someones house for a little party. usually always ends up the way you want if you make effort.

good luck.

Unfortunately my luck is very bad. I don't have any friends anymore and the main reason I left them is because they didn't know any girls either.

Right now going up to and chatting with girls is the absolute hardest thing for me to do. There has to be a way around it. For now atleast.

 

[duke007]

Originally posted by Julian
adultfriendfinder.com

Holy sh1t! I read this thread last night and thought I'd chuck up a profile to see what happened, since I am also a virgin.

Just now I've been emailed a list of 10 slvts from my city who'd like to meet me

Damn I didn't know it would be this easy......they might have STDs or something....

Edit: Actually fvck that, you need to pay a subscription fee just to browse other people's profiles