How did You rediscover what you truly wanted from life (after you fell)

[jhonny9546]

It's incredibly difficult for some young men, for some men in general, who have fallen, to later rediscover, or even discover for the first time, what they truly wanted from life.


There are many people out there wounded by breakups, divorces, betrayals, and countless other hardships, and yet, somehow, they’ve managed to put their lives back together.


So… how did you do it?


This isn’t about hitting the gym, building a solid career, keeping busy with healthy routines, or maintaining a socially active lifestyle.
Instead, think aboout the perspective of a man, or a woman, looking at you as a person:
How did you figure out what you truly wanted in life, and showed that energy to others?
What were your long-term goals? What was that inner vision you chose to walk toward?


They say you have to fall many times, really fall, before you can rise properly, before you can walk again, and then, eventually… run.

 

[Redwood]

I'm still in the process. I don't know what it is, but "I'm not trying" to paraphrase Charles Bukowski.

 

[misua]

It’s not always about charging forward, sometimes it’s more about just not giving up, even if you're crawling. Bukowski’s vibe hits hard there. There’s something honest and kind of freeing about not trying in the traditional sense, but still showing up for yourself in small ways.

 

[jhonny9546]

still showing up

"Exposure" and "Repetition"

I mean, it could lead you everywhere, but you need a plan

 

[Gamisch]

It's incredibly difficult for some young men, for some men in general, who have fallen, to later rediscover, or even discover for the first time, what they truly wanted from life.


There are many people out there wounded by breakups, divorces, betrayals, and countless other hardships, and yet, somehow, they’ve managed to put their lives back together.


So… how did you do it?


This isn’t about hitting the gym, building a solid career, keeping busy with healthy routines, or maintaining a socially active lifestyle.
Instead, think aboout the perspective of a man, or a woman, looking at you as a person:
How did you figure out what you truly wanted in life, and showed that energy to others?
What were your long-term goals? What was that inner vision you chose to walk toward?


They say you have to fall many times, really fall, before you can rise properly, before you can walk again, and then, eventually… run.

They( we ) bounce back because "all that happened " was a mere reality check and a socalled " reality adjustment ". You THINK xyz is the truth ( e.g she'll never leave me) untill something changes your perspective. That's it..

I've learned that women are a liability for a man who's the "giving type of person". A ( or mostly a) woman will stop your growth. So you better be FULL GROWN with sound fundamentals when you allow a new woman( aka stranger) into your life. And remember there will ALWAYS be a price to pay...beauty by itself doesn't equal goodness..

At some point you just "figure life out" to a degree where at least YOU can thrive.And yes, you will need TONS of character to pull it off. You gotta be the protagonist in this story, it's on the big screen and the camera is rolling.

 

[JacquesMemoirs]

About a decade ago I gave it some good thought, what i really want to do

I want to win a jackpot lottery, move to European cities, wear top of the line tailored suits, smoke gourmet European cigs, wear some excellent sunglasses, sit at outdoor cafes, sip wine a lot, speak French, and have an entourage of European supermodels I’m banging all around Europe. I’d stay in lots of boutique hotel suites. First class everything. Maybe start using heroin too like Pulp Fiction.

If I had more money I’d buy a castle in Europe and live sort of like Dracula did with lots of hot vampire girls to have sex with me, enslaved, and live in the castle with no phones or electricity, just candles and fireplaces. And a big library. And red wine.

 

[The Duke]

My divorce knocked me down really good, but I wasn't down for long. I've always known what I wanted in life and did whatever it took to acomplish my mission. Never been one to live life on someone elses terms, care much what people think, follow the crowd, nor was I easily distracted from my goals. When this is truly your personality, you don't need to REDISCOVER anything, because you never lose yourself to begin with.