I would say online dating has also put the average joe at an disadvantage . It only it puts him in a situation where he thinks he can put lower effort and have lower risk (no approach anxiety, no inner game required etc) and get the visible drool worthy high reward ( HB women's profiles on apps). It appeals to the instant gratification and baser instinct to go for the easy, safe **** . Their laziness and low risk appetite keeps them swiping even if they know they are not getting matches. Go out and try to approach in real, where you can actually show a real personality on not be judged from a thumbnail of yours alone.
Online dating emerged in the 1990s as a reaction to the 1970s-1990s bar scene. As social circles started to weaken in the 1970s-1980s, more people ended up needing to approach strangers in public. Approaching strangers in public, either in non-bar or bar settings is very difficult and very inefficient. There's a lot of rejection involved. This was true in 1983 and 2003 and is also true in 2023.
The early wave of online dating men in the 1990s-2000s liked the idea of not having to risk rejection in-person because rejection in-person is very unpleasant. This idea has still been appealing in the 2010s-2020s.
I agree that normie range men are put at a big disadvantage with swipe apps and this was also true in the website era of online dating. There are far more men than women with any tech-based method of meeting women. Even on Instagram, the typical woman's inbox is filled with many thirsty men. This gives women an abundance mentality and makes them more selective when considering men on these channels. That's why a man needs to be Top 10% to effectively compete on a swipe app. Swipe apps aren't worth doing unless you're a Top 10% man.
You're right on the bat about that..but think about how many women you know ? Are they ALL on dating apps? Most people still find love and sex the old fashioned way. Meeting people in real life.
Most of the women I know in person right now are married women. These are the women married to my male friends. They aren't likely to be seeking new penis. The women I know are not a representative sample.
There are many women I seek around my city in non-bar venues and in bars. These women are more unlikely to be unmarried but some have boyfriends.
In the last 10 years, I do think that more women go to apps when they find themselves at some point in their lives. However, apps do have a poor track record in producing longer lasting relationships. More sustainable relationships tend to be found through some real life method.
Online dating is always going to be stacked against men. The average women would get 1000s of swipes from men who wouldn't even have the balls to speak a word to her if they saw her on the street or know what to say... It's time we accepted that fact and made peace with it instead of crying about it.
Agree with this. Men need to learn that the swipe apps don't benefit them. Tinder is 76% male, Bumble is 65% male, and Hinge is 65% male. These are tough places for men to compete effectively, even above average but not exceptional men.
