How could he be this cold?

[Teh_Wolf]

this was an entertaining thread lol

 

[amoka]

When you read, take the time to read between the lines:

My good friend died on Sunday, she fell in the bath and drowned and I am so very very upset.

On Sunday after I found out I rang my boyfriend and I was crying my eyes out and he said how sorry he was and listened to me .......

So it is not the case that the guy did not care. You wake him up, he said his condolences. What else do you expect him to do late in the night?

He rang couple of times yesterday but didnt come to see me

He called several times and you apparently did not pick up and now you're complaining to your friends at sosuave to rebuke your boyfriend's behavior.

 

[Latinoman]

My good friend died on Sunday, she fell in the bath and drowned and I am so very very upset.

On Sunday after I found out I rang my boyfriend and I was crying my eyes out and he said how sorry he was and listened to me for a bit, then he cut in and told me he was half asleep when I rang and that he was going to go back to sleep and would call me later. He didnt!

He rang couple of times yesterday but didnt come to see me and this morning he rang me and said he would come aorund tonight, I said fine and then he said ........ wait for it ........ "But you wont be on the phone all night crying about your friend will you?" ... I then told him if he was upset I would be supporting him and he said " Ok Bye" and put the phone down!

How could he say that? If he loved me wouldnt he want to be there for me?

I cannot forgive him for this! I am so hurt I cant put it into words!
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I started to read to some of the responses and I was shocked at some of the responses in here.

A REAL Man is there for his woman. A REAL Man provides the strenght and becomes the shoulder for his woman in a moment of dispair.

This situation is not about him. This situation is about her.

Here is my advice (one that I know you are not going to follow because you appear to be needy and insecure): Dump him.

If possible...branch swing on him. If you are attractive...you won't have any problems doing that.

 

[Latinoman]

I never excpected a thing from my bf, I have all of the emotional support I need from friends and family.

What about having some self-respect?

If he cannot give you emotional support...then he is not a real Man. Make no mistake about that.

I can be very cold...but I also know when I have to be there for my woman. His behavior is not that of a Real Man.

 

[iqqi]

I started to read to some of the responses and I was shocked at some of the responses in here.

A REAL Man is there for his woman. A REAL Man provides the strenght and becomes the shoulder for his woman in a moment of dispair.

This situation is not about him. This situation is about her.
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This is what happens when the themes of "women can't think logically" and "don't show women your feelings, be a jerk" and "women just want a supporter, not a therapist" and "don't be friends with girls" and "womene$e" and "sh!t tests" and and and... you get where I am going with this, anyways, this is what happens when these themes are constantly fed to young impressionable minds.

This is why I call for MODERATION of such negativity towards women on this forum.

Sheesh. This thread is a wake up call on what sosuave is teaching boys in terms of dealing with women. Look how they dealt with Lishy. Sad. I bet its like this in real life with them! They will never get anywhere this way.

THIS is why I get so alarmed and up in arms about certain dumb sh!t posted here.

 

[mikeyb]

This is why I call for MODERATION of such negativity towards women on this forum.

Sheesh. This thread is a wake up call on what sosuave is teaching boys in terms of dealing with women. Look how they dealt with Lishy. Sad. I bet its like this in real life with them! They will never get anywhere this way.

Mostly agree with you, but not everyone on the forum gave Lishy the sosuave treatment. Only a few posters did, and the only reason it turned out to be such a big deal is because some of them made one ridiculous post after another. Good to bear that in mind .

 

[iqqi]

Mostly agree with you, but not everyone on the forum gave Lishy the sosuave treatment. Only a few posters did, and the only reason it turned out to be such a big deal is because some of them made one ridiculous post after another. Good to bear that in mind .

No not everyone did, you are correct there. Some people gave great advice.

Cheers to them.

 

[schttrj]

u know what guys, i believe in one thing, if a person is truly sad and sad in the real sense of the word, then that person would rather be so sad that he/she would not even want to discuss anything about it with anyone. when you are trying to show your sorrow to the world, then thats no sorrow at all. Did you ever hear of incidents where the person died of heart attack because he just got the news of his near and dear one death? Did you ever hear the news that the spouse committed suicide because his husband or wife cheated on them and even abused them? I think this is what is called sorrow.

I recently broke up with my gf and every moment I keep thinking about her, dont know why, but I never brought up that here because I am sad. Lol, thats stupid I think. Its best when people find out about your sorrow and come to you to show you condolences, not the other way round. this is not a great thread for the SS site though, which is mainly for dating purpose or maybe relationship purpose.

Now, when it comes to the relationship topic, we can bring topics where you are facing a situation or problem and you need a way out. But how come if I have already decided that he is cold and I dont want to be with him and even when he called, I didnt pick up the phone a number of times, would I post a thread about that in the forum? I know many guys would agree with me on what I am saying but their ego wont let them to. Just imagine, "How could he be so cold?" in a DJ Discussion Board.... whats the relation? I dont know if I am being a jerk or damn emotionless freak, but thats how I am. I never treat women more specially putting them on a pedestal, I just treat them as if they are my buddies and I always call them out when I see them doing any wrong. Thats how I am. Just my opinion!

 

[ZenGodMod]

Emotions are running high once again in SoSuave!

What is the value of a mistake really? And yes Lishy's boyfriend did make a mistake to seem in-sensitive.

What he shouldn't or should, could or couldn't have done... really isn't the issue.
It has past and time doesn't travel backwards.

Lishy should determine the total SUM of her boyfriend minus his misgivings, then determine if it equals to a "break up"?

I doubt his a real *******. We might as well label Lishy as idiot for not having the intelligence to not pick an *******, but i doubt Lishy is an idiot.

She has sung praises of her current boyfriend if i can recall. He has good qualities. So should we banish his qualities for a lacking on one or two?

Can anyone here stand up tall and say "i have not committed any real relationship mistakes in my present or past. Even obvious ones which you later regret because you already knew better"?

What right do you have to banish someone who equally as human, as faulty as yourselves!

Do you all look up to likes Rollo, Victory , Thunder and Karma to believe they are perfection and they are void of fault and their life paths have been void of mistakes!

I know allot of things, but i don't know all, i am bound to commit mistakes to the ones i love and hold dear to. Who has the right to question my actions and mistakes other then the ones i have caused hurt to!

Lishy be a "real" woman, don't let the hurt consume you. Tell the one man you hold dear to you what he has done to you, and believe you me he'll correct his mistake and grow to become a better man together with you by his side!

 

[Credos]

I feel your pain lishy, my best friend whom I consider my brother died last wednesday

 

[DonGorgon]

Why is death such a big deal? Wake up call guys, you are dying right now, day by day. I had to watch my mom die from MS slowly over 15 years. It was as ugly and drawn out of a death as possible. Last week a friend died in a car crash. I'll miss him, but big deal. It's just DEATH.

I understand the way you think...

 

[DonGorgon]

I call for MODERATION of such negativity towards women on this forum..

 

[DonGorgon]

Maybe you should start poking her back (with your man rod)

Sounds like a plan but she already said she would not let me.. She thinks i am too mean..:nervous: :nervous:

 

[demonic]

He's cold because he doesn't care about someone he never knew or knew well? Men aren't emotional creatures. If you want support, talk to one of your girlfriends.

Exactly, he is'nt intrested in that.....talk to your girlfriends and they will give you support...the guy will give you his ****.

 

[drak_ool]

Lishy i don't know you, yet my condolences to you, I have lost loved ones in the past and I know how much it hurts.

to all the retards who jacked this thread with their stupid remarks, you guys are pathetic. Give her a break, she obviously doesn't need to deal with anymore bullshyt at this point

 

[Lishy]

Thank you everyone who helped me!

I did dump him!

I feel sad but I am sure I will get over it in a few hundred years lol

 

[KontrollerX]

Now the trick is to not get suckered into taking him back.

Stay strong Lishy!

 

[Lishy]

I really feel in my heart that it is over, it makes me feel sad really as we had great times!

 

[panosha]

DAM it Who-MAN, this isn't the right forum

 

[dannyegg4575]

DAM it Who-MAN, this isn't the right forum

lol. isn't it amazing how much response she got?

Now do you guys see the power of a woman? I don't mean to disrespect, but it once again shows how we guys ARE hardwired to be really nice guys.