How come you don't have a GF?

[Ultra Magnus]

My roommate and I have a disagreement. He says when a woman asks why you don't have a girlfriend or asks someone else why you don't have a GF, then she has no interest in you. I, on the other hand, believe that it is a sign of high interest. What do you guys think?

 

[becker]

Definitely some interest there. Why else would a girl want to know this information? I had a girl who was all over me and she asked me whether I had a GF, and when I said no, her eyes lit up, then she said she wanted to set me up with one of her friends, but it was a total cover-up, because she was all over me.

 

[tiburon]

I believe

If the girl asks you why dont you have a girlfriend...i believe she has interest but not a huge one and she is testing you to see the response you give her...give her a great response or act c+f and you can hook her in.

If she asks someone else and you are not present i am guessing she is interested or in many few cases feels bad for you....You should go after her and take your chances......remember dont be an AFC!!!

If she asks someone else in front of you...thats just awkward..and you need to ask her.."why dont you ask me that question?..put her in the spot and then hook her in.....show her you are The Man.


Tiburon

 

[tiburon]

careful

realize this are two different question....?


Do you have a GF?...high interest..a..NO answer will do

Why dont you have a GF?.....interest......but requires more of a response..a DJ response.

Tiburon

 

[lollipop]

Re: careful

Originally posted by tiburon
Do you have a GF?...high interest..

"Why don't you kiss me and find out?"

Why dont you have a GF?.....interest...

"Because I'm waiting for you to kiss me!"

 

[Albion2]

"Why don't you have a girlfriend?"

My responce...

"Cause I've run out of space in my back yard to bury them?" with a smirk on my face. "In all honesty... what makes you think I don't have a girlfriend?" and go from there.

-al

 

[princelydeeds]

Actually, I think most people, myself included, ask the question because they don't have anything to say and they are looking to make conversation. I don't think it is necessarily a gauge of interest level , though it could be. When I ask it is only cause I need convo filler. The last thing I wanna hear is yes I do have a BF so I try my best never to ask the question in the first place.

 

[ProQD]

I think there's definitely a big difference on how it's said and who says it. If she says, "Why don't you have a girlfriend?" I don't think that means she's interested. I have married girls ask me that all the time. I think they just see you as a very eligible person and they are wondering why your single. You can counter by saying, "Because all the girls like you are already taken". If a single girl comes point-blank and asks you, "Do you have a girlfriend?" I would say she may be interested, but not always. I had a girl flirting with me (she seemed very interested) and then she asked me if I had a girlfriend. I wasn't really interested in her (HB 5) and I figured I'd have some fun with this. I told her that the position of girlfriend is currently open and she is welcome to apply. I said give me your phone number and we can set up an interview. I thought that approach was some what clever at the moment, but I was denied. I left scratching my head because I thought she was very interested and getting a number would be a slam dunk. I guess there are no definite rules and anything can be screwed up.

 

[tiburon]

Disagree with ProQD

dont tell her "because all the girls like you are already taken."...thats so predictable its scary...no imagination, no creativity at all...ProQD the other one was a bit better you said to that HB 5 but you need top work on your skills bro.....

Dude go with c + f and your own idea for as bad as it could be is your own..be an original......


Tiburon

 

[Industry]

Why don't you have a girl?

Because none have been able to handle me in the sack.

 

[DJjazzyJeff]

yesterday

I got asked that yesterday and I kind of panicked and just spit out "b/c every girl that I'm dating is stupid" she laughed, and then asked me if I thought she was stupid....I told her I didn't know her well enough to say, long story short, she ended up asking me out.

 

[tiburon]

DJJazzyjeff

Totaly DJ man..thats call thinking on your feet..great response...great results keep it up....


Tiburon

 

[Player_Supreme]

I agree with you. She is trying to find out more info about you or your life. It may be for herself or she may have someone to hook you up with.

 

[MoAF]

Originally posted by Ultra Magnus
My roommate and I have a disagreement. He says when a woman asks why you don't have a girlfriend or asks someone else why you don't have a GF, then she has no interest in you. I, on the other hand, believe that it is a sign of high interest. What do you guys think?

It depends on the context, obv there are exceptions to everything.

HOWEVER, I'm certain that your user name is totally awesome... although Kup was my fav <shrug>.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Ultra Magnus
My roommate and I have a disagreement. He says when a woman asks why you don't have a girlfriend or asks someone else why you don't have a GF, then she has no interest in you. I, on the other hand, believe that it is a sign of high interest. What do you guys think?

It can go either way. The key is how you answer the question.

 

[Livingitup22]

I concur. "Do you have a girlfriend?" requires a simple, yes or no answer, unless you can throw in a little humor in your response, too. She may be interested or she may just be curious (but if she bothers to ask at all she likely finds you at least slighty attractive). You'll have to judge by the context. For instance, if your involved coworker were to ask you that question after you've been at your job for six months, it is more likely to be just curiousity. If the cute girl you've just met at the party asks, she's almost certainly interested. You get the point

"Why don't you have a girlfriend?" is a little trickier. If she asks, she definitely likes you, though she may not be looking to start anything with you. You've successfully showed yourself to be a sexual being, but she's going to evaluate your answer to see if she can catalog any flaws from your response. I got asked this question often during my AFC days, and I gave some pretty lame responses. If you have any interest in this girl, DO NOT express frustration with women, talk about wanting to sleep around, or indicate that you haven't had any chances. Saying that your "too busy" may make you look ambitious, but it also tells her that your possibly a workaholic and not very much fun.

Best reaction I've had is from using the line "I haven't been seeing anybody lately to whom I would want to make that kind of commitment..." or some variation of that. (Credit that to a forgotten poster on this site, by the way) This shows that A) Your still active with women even though your single, B) Your selective in regards to woman, and C) that you're open to commitment. A C/F comment is a nice touch, but you might want to follow-up with a serious answer, or she might think your ducking the question

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Livingitup22
Best reaction I've had is from using the line "I haven't been seeing anybody lately to whom I would want to make that kind of commitment..." or some variation of that. (Credit that to a forgotten poster on this site, by the way) This shows that A) Your still active with women even though your single, B) Your selective in regards to woman, and C) that you're open to commitment. A C/F comment is a nice touch, but you might want to follow-up with a serious answer, or she might think your ducking the question

I went along the same line by saying "I have yet to find a girl who is woman enough." Ninety-nine percent of the time they asked me to explain or define what I was looking for and I just tell them either "That would take all the fun out of it," or "They know who they are."

I have also been successful with the line "Because I don't feel that I need to date someone just for the sake of saying that I have a girlfriend." What I say just depends on the situation, the type of woman I was with and my state of mind at the time (funny/flirty or ****y/aloof).

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

You could say... "why do you want to know... are you looking to apply for the position?" or something along those lines.

 

[Eyecandie4ya]

In this case I will tell the woman: yeah

Two reasons:

1} A woman doesn't want a man another woman doesn't have. This is not all of them but most.

2} Most women "believe" that most men have somebody already because that's why they believe most guys "cheat".

But this depends on the situation. If a woman I know(work, school, etc) I would have a chance of seeing again then I will use it. If a woman I just met, I would say the same thing but apply that we are experiencing problems and see how it folds from there.

Most cats will tell you women wanted them "more" when they had a girlfriend than when they stated that they were single. This is a fact!

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

Eyecandie has a point, although I hate to admit it...

A lot of girls have the mentality that if a guy doesn't have a girlfriend there's a reason (hence, the question) and that reason is usually something bad like either he doesn't want a girlfriend... or he isn't capable of keeping a relationship... etc...

When they hear that a guy DOES have a girlfriend... two things go into effect... they think "ahhh... well someone else finds him attractive/loveable/sexy/****able/whatever... and they start to want what they can't have AND they are also impressed by the fact that he was willing to enter a relationship AND capable of maintaining one.

It's risky to say you have a girlfriend if you don't really, because you could turn the girl away (a lot of girls don't want to be the "other woman" because of the bad karma... plus they are likely to have been cheated on in their lifetime and don't want to do the same thing to another girl) OR you could get caught in a lie, in which case you look dumb, you look like a liar, AND the girl assumes you have no interest in her (or else why would you tell here you were taken if you weren't).

But if you ARE going to pretend to have a girlfriend (or if you really DO have a girlfriend)... then the best thing to say is somethiing about how you ARE in a relationship right now but thing's haven't been working out. She's likely to be a little sympathetic ("awwww why what happened?") but it's probably not actual sympathy but rather investigation... (She wants to know what YOU did wrong... so your reason should be something that is neutral, but partly on the girlfriend's fault).

Don't hit on the girl AT ALL... just kind of play the "friend" thing. You don't want her to think that you're a cheater... (because most girls believe if he cheats WITH you he'll cheat ON you). Get her thinking "isn't he so great? I wish he was MY boyfriend... I hope they break up!" And then you move in for the kill with how much fun you had talking to her, we should all hang out again soon. She'll be hoping you're single then, and surprise, surprise... you will be.

WARNING: This doesn't work on ALL girls... and it relies on a follow-up, which you can't be sure of getting... but it's something ot think about at least.