How come you don't have a GF?

[Eyecandie4ya]

Appreicate cha, Sexy Malibu!

There's your validation, fellas. But do use this caution, though. It's not hard at all just don't do "stupid" things to indicate any intentions into the female your looking to get.

If she ask why it's not working out, say this:

You: We've grown apart because of conflicting differences. You know how you could be with someone and know that it is over?

Her: Yeah, I know what you mean. what are they?

You: I don't feel real comfortable talking about that right now until I gather my thoughts togther.

Her(only if she's a flexible woman): I can respect that.

I did this two weeks ago with a HB10. It worked like a charm. Now we kick it sometimes.

 

[Charisma]

Just say you'r dating, and not looking for a girlfriend, it's the truth, and she wont know wtf to say.

Btw if they ask this :
-Either she wants to see if you actually CAn get a chiq
-She's just checking to see you're available.

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

And one other thing....... Girls don't really like it when their guys talk about the private details of their relationship with people outside the relationship. So it's always good to say something general (like the things eyecandie said) but if she continues to question say "well I don't really feel comfortable getting into details, because I know my girlfriend wouldn't appreciate me discussing it." (This tells them that you have respect for your girlfriend, hence you have respect for women). As much as girls want to think they are better than your ex (or current) girlfriend... they don't want to hear that you talk **** about your exes either because they start to think "what is he going to say about ME if I'm ever his ex?" The best thing you can ever say about an ex is that "you don't like to talk bad about her" which implies that Yes, she IS bad (and the new girl is better) BUT you are above dishing the dirt... you are respectful of the fact that you once shared something and you aren't immature about it just because you no longer share that. (Of course this is mostly BS, but girls eat that **** up, even me... who knows it BS).

 

[Eyecandie4ya]

Originally posted by Sexy_Malibu
And one other thing....... Girls don't really like it when their guys talk about the private details of their relationship with people outside the relationship. So it's always good to say something general (like the things eyecandie said) but if she continues to question say "well I don't really feel comfortable getting into details, because I know my girlfriend wouldn't appreciate me discussing it." (This tells them that you have respect for your girlfriend, hence you have respect for women). As much as girls want to think they are better than your ex (or current) girlfriend... they don't want to hear that you talk **** about your exes either because they start to think "what is he going to say about ME if I'm ever his ex?" The best thing you can ever say about an ex is that "you don't like to talk bad about her" which implies that Yes, she IS bad (and the new girl is better) BUT you are above dishing the dirt... you are respectful of the fact that you once shared something and you aren't immature about it just because you no longer share that. (Of course this is mostly BS, but girls eat that **** up, even me... who knows it BS).

PREACH SEXY MALIBU, PREACH!

Only the ignorant(Webster: lack of knowledge) would consider what you're saying useless.

Ahhhhhhhhhhhh! Knowledge!

 

[Psycho`Sexual]

Lying Blows

Sexy_Malibu, although your helpful insights are appreciated, lying is not something DJ's should strive to do.

Sometimes it is a neccesity, but you are outright instructing men to go out there and lie, all for some stupid girl.

DJ's don't act like pansies, throwing on a fake mask just to "get the girl" there is a character behind us, and that character is all you get, you take it, or leave it. Either way, we dont care enough to FAKE something just for a lay.

My question is, why even allow her to ask something so horrible? Like somebody mentioned here before, asking this, is making conversation.

A DJ keeps the conversation flowing, a DJ asks the woman questions, if you leave a woman up to do her own bidding, then don't blame me when all sorts of uncomfortable situations arise.

But in case this DOES happen, I would stick with the good old C&F.

If I am not dating anyone, I would probably make a joke about my mother.

DJ: "Oh, just cause I dont have a GF, doesnt mean I dont have a 'special lady' in my life"
HB: "oh?"
DJ: "yeah, she is quite great, she blah blah blah...." continues talking about his mother, but keeping it "both-sided" so she doesnt really know its a plutonic relationship with your mother. Then, when you are done teasing her, ask "Well, thats my mom, whats your mom like?"

But be cautious using the Mom technique, it gets used quite alot, but if you are creative, it shouldnt be a problem.

If you DO have a girlfriend, then explain simply how you can't imagine someone like your GF interferring with two FRIENDS out to diner, or having fun.

Ask about any unclarities.

 

[Eyecandie4ya]

Re: Lying Blows

Originally posted by Psycho`Sexual
Sexy_Malibu, although your helpful insights are appreciated, lying is not something DJ's should strive to do.

Sometimes it is a neccesity, but you are outright instructing men to go out there and lie, all for some stupid girl.

DJ's don't act like pansies, throwing on a fake mask just to "get the girl" there is a character behind us, and that character is all you get, you take it, or leave it. Either way, we dont care enough to FAKE something just for a lay.

My question is, why even allow her to ask something so horrible? Like somebody mentioned here before, asking this, is making conversation.

A DJ keeps the conversation flowing, a DJ asks the woman questions, if you leave a woman up to do her own bidding, then don't blame me when all sorts of uncomfortable situations arise.

Who say that you have to be so open about your personal life? You can't allow this woman to know that some other woman haven't snatch you up because you are a catch? You don't owe her anything. This won't be the first time you lie and it surely won't be the last.

All guys got someone on the side. You know who it is? Rosey Palmer. (lolol)

So it's not like your lying. You two could be tired of each other( I would hope so, unless that's your thing) and want to part ways!HAHAHAHA! I'm trying to stop laughing!

But back to the point I'm trying to make. If it works than do it. You not going to hell for lying to her about having a girlfriend. You are just using a successful "tatic" in the mating world.

Fake it until you make it!

 

[Psycho`Sexual]

Re: Re: Lying Blows

Originally posted by Eyecandie4ya
If it works than do it. You not going to hell for lying to her about having a girlfriend. You are just using a successful "tatic" in the mating world.

Fake it until you make it!

I wont argue about religious or moral beliefs, but "hell" is something you might go through on a date when your friend shows up and asks "hey buddy, when did you get a girl!?"

Maybe if that wont happen, some other undoubtebly embarrassing event might, blowing your whole charade into the open.

Even if nothing of the sort happens, what kind of foundation for an LTR is lies? Assuming of course that you are trying to make this girl your new girlfriend(LTR).

If you are looking for a fvck buddy then I'm sure you can find many girls for that, and wouldnt need to lie about previous relationships to get sympathy sex.

In my book,

GF = LTR material
FB = sex monkey

But still, deception isnt "DJ" it smells of Player, no matter what your personal beliefs are.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Sexy_Malibu
And one other thing....... Girls don't really like it when their guys talk about the private details of their relationship with people outside the relationship.

Uh-oh Malibu, you have opened up something here. I whole heartedly agree that girls don't like it when their guys talk about the private details of their relationship. She may think that if you talk about your ex, what would you say about her? It is one of the reasons why ex's should never be a topic of conversation nor should it be eluded to that it could be at a later time.

ME:We've had creative differences
Her:Like what?
ME:We've had creative differences
Her: Differences like what????!!!
ME:We've had creative differences
Her:Is that all that you are going to say?
ME:You catch on kinda quickly, we'll work on that

BUT Malibu, although most women don't like for their guys to talk about the private detials yet they usually talk to their other girlfriends about it. WHAT GIVES

 

[Eyecandie4ya]

Re: Re: Re: Lying Blows

Originally posted by Psycho`Sexual
I wont argue about religious or moral beliefs, but "hell" is something you might go through on a date when your friend shows up and asks "hey buddy, when did you get a girl!?"

Maybe if that wont happen, some other undoubtebly embarrassing event might, blowing your whole charade into the open.

Even if nothing of the sort happens, what kind of foundation for an LTR is lies? Assuming of course that you are trying to make this girl your new girlfriend(LTR).

If you are looking for a fvck buddy then I'm sure you can find many girls for that, and wouldnt need to lie about previous relationships to get sympathy sex.

In my book,

GF = LTR material
FB = sex monkey

But still, deception isnt "DJ" it smells of Player, no matter what your personal beliefs are.

My friend,

You are missing the point. How do you know a woman is LTR material by just talking to her on the intitial conversation? You don't know do you like every other man. Even when you get in a relationship you will tell a lie so why in the world would you be so "careful" and so honest to a female YOU DON'T KNOW.

When an individual do this, he is only "testing" and playing the game just to see what the reaction will be. This works. It just something different for guys who be so "open" only to lose out on a female who he's interested in.

Keep informing fellas to really care what she thinks about him when he's is concern in what he telling her the truth or not. I'm informing guys not to "flex" about material things but having a woman is different. The Reality Factor shows that this works most of the time. But you are entitled to your opinion, but is there's a difference between FACT and opinion.

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

Yeah lying does blow!

Psycho`Sexual

Sexy_Malibu, although your helpful insights are appreciated, lying is not something DJ's should strive to do.

Sometimes it is a neccesity, but you are outright instructing men to go out there and lie, all for some stupid girl.

DJ's don't act like pansies, throwing on a fake mask just to "get the girl" there is a character behind us, and that character is all you get, you take it, or leave it. Either way, we dont care enough to FAKE something just for a lay.

My question is, why even allow her to ask something so horrible? Like somebody mentioned here before, asking this, is making conversation.

I'm not suggesting that guys lying. I don't think lying is ever a good idea... I'm just saying if you ARE going to lie (which c'mon a lot of guys do it) then at least proceed with caution.

The stuff I was saying applies equally to someone who is lying or telling the truth. It's up to you and your set of morals/ethics whether you choose to be honest or not... but the overall concepts of what I was saying I think are the same either way.

But as for allowing her to ask something "so horrible" ... I don't think it's really so horrible. I mean, the original question "do you have a girlfriend?" is just a basic request for information and a demonstration of interest.

I admit, the "why don't you have a girlfriend?" question is borderline rude, but it really depends on HOW they ask it and also WHO is asking (because if you really are interested in this chick, are you seriously gonna be offended by that?) I think if its asked rudely, like "what's wrong with you?" it's ****ed up and does not deserve a decent response. BUT if its asked in a flirty/joking manner, then it's just MORE of a indication that she is INTERESTED. How horrible. ha ha ha

Francisco d'Anconia BUT Malibu, although most women don't like for their guys to talk about the private detials yet they usually talk to their other girlfriends about it. WHAT GIVES

Now THAT is not something I can comment on. I think that certain things should be kept private, but I also think that everyone should be allowed to have one or two very close individuals in which they confide certain details. I can't possibly explain why girls do that... no one ever said some girls weren't hypocrites... Can YOU explain why guys do all that locker-room talk? hee hee

 

[Ultra Magnus]

Ok, how about this question instead. My friend Amanda told me the other day that her girlfriend told her that she couldn't believe I didn't have a GF. this means she is interested right?

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

Originally posted by Ultra Magnus
Ok, how about this question instead. My friend Amanda told me the other day that her girlfriend told her that she couldn't believe I didn't have a GF. this means she is interested right?

It's likely. Not definite, but highly likely.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Re: Yeah lying does blow!

Originally posted by Sexy_Malibu
Can YOU explain why guys do all that locker-room talk? hee hee

To undestand our locker room talk, all you need to do is watch ESPN. Now I've tried watching Oprah and I still have problems understand women

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

Re: Re: Yeah lying does blow!

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
To undestand our locker room talk, all you need to do is watch ESPN. Now I've tried watching Oprah and I still have problems understand women

Hell if I was watching Oprah I'd have problems understanding women too!! And by locker room talk I meant "did I tell you about the ass I got last night?" not "did you see the touchdown I made yesterday?"

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Re: Re: Re: Yeah lying does blow!

Originally posted by Sexy_Malibu
Hell if I was watching Oprah I'd have problems understanding women too!! And by locker room talk I meant "did I tell you about the ass I got last night?" not "did you see the touchdown I made yesterday?"

We DJs don't brag about who we bang, it's a given that we bang and that we bang often

Plus it may cause a stir if we brag about the girl we banged that happens to be the sister of one of our boys